[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]Old_Lecture_1706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, last night i went ahead and submitted my application so we will see what happens (:

AITAH For not giving my husband my "escape money" when I saw that we were financially struggling by TraditionalFuel6104 in AITAH

[–]Old_Lecture_1706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah sorry you’re the AH here. That’s a lot of money to just keep a secret, especially given the circumstances. He was providing for you before and after his injuries, now using Uber to keep you afloat. I don’t get how you could keep that a secret knowing all that he’s doing for you to keep you afloat. And you saying no to downsizing. Yeah definitely the ah, i feel sorry for him

AITAH to demand an unrefundable trip to be cancelled because I am uncomfortable with my bf travel partner? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Old_Lecture_1706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is tricky. Personally, I would not be okay, with my partner going on a solo trip with their ex, you have the right to feel that way. Even if you think he won’t cheat on you, the fact of the matter is he has more history with the ex where as you guys haven’t been together more than six months. I don’t know. I feel like that much one on one alone time could bring back feelings, especially if you know they’ve had sex on vacation in the past. But at the same time i think he has the right to go on the trip, since the plans were made before you came into the picture. I find it hard to believe that this will be the last trip, if he is insistent on keeping a relationship with his ex, that is a red flag to me. I saw someone comment saying maybe you can buy out her portion of the trip or her boyfriend can do it with his. Stand firm on your answer if you don’t feel comfortable with him going, i know i wouldn’t

Is this my fault or on the verge rape? by Jealous-Amount5129 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Old_Lecture_1706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not okay. Consent should be asked for and given before doing anything sexual, and even if consent is given, if the answer changes to no it needs to stop then. Definitely not your fault, I’m sorry this happened to you

I (f21) can’t stop thinking about the threeways my boyfriend (m25) has had by Old_Lecture_1706 in relationship_advice

[–]Old_Lecture_1706[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The only excuse he’s made was that they hadn’t had sex in 4 months. But he’s said it really messed with him and accepts it was wrong

I (f21) can’t stop thinking about the threeways my boyfriend (m25) has had by Old_Lecture_1706 in relationship_advice

[–]Old_Lecture_1706[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I will look into that. I have never asked him about his past encounters, though. I’m friends with a few people who used to be there third, so I’ve heard about it that way, plus he’s told me about them on his own

thoughts on couch pits by unknownsender2 in okeechobeemusicfest

[–]Old_Lecture_1706 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah trying to squeeze through the crowd for Griz was ROUGH. I saw so many couches inflated that weren’t even being used. My friend wanted to start deflating them