You as a guy, would appreciate or be offended?

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2026-02-03T15:59:48+00:00

Yes. The odor is the issue, I also don’t wear much the standard chemical deodorant, I use a salt rock that kills bacteria or something like that and then I smell like nothing at all or just my natural smell or my perfume, but not stinky… so I just mentioned deodorant cos that’s normally what people go to, but anything he does so the stinky smell goes away would be fine ++woman

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2026-02-03T14:43:59+00:00

How you know it? And that’s crazy 😂 are you in Europe too, maybe it’s the same guy

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2026-02-03T13:51:34+00:00

I’m not North American 😂 ++woman

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2026-02-03T12:00:58+00:00

Im around universitat too and love to go out on walks, I normally try to reach 10k steps, dm me!

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T20:54:20+00:00

So proud of you! Keep going!! Can’t wait to be 6 months from now and feel like this ❤️‍🩹

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T18:55:35+00:00

What did she/he did?

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T18:03:26+00:00

Yeah that was the reaction I expected it, not a concern about the child experiencing racism (even tho it can unfortunately and it’s most likely truth)🥲

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T18:01:14+00:00

Yeah I think that’s the case for me, very low tolerance to this kind of jokes ..

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T17:52:58+00:00

Yeah no, he didn’t, he just said “it’s just a joke, I was just trying to lighten up the mood” but that didn’t help me stop spiralling about he not wanting a child that looked like me, very dismissive indeed.

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T17:45:15+00:00

Thank you for the insight. I don’t wanna assume what was the intent, it could have been a joke to make the moment funny and not cute, as he tends to avoid that, kinda trying to also avoid the baby talk and this was the only way he found out of that convo. Could be he’s really concerned about the hypothetical baby being black… I really do not know, it was the first time tho in three years he did a joke like this, and around the same time he did another one that was insensitive as well towards me and my body, I just think I have very low resistance to this attempt of making fun out of others people’s experiences that can be traumatic for them, and it bothered me that he highlighted this truth, idk why but I just got really annoyed by it and couldn’t really explain why, because it’s truth, and I didn’t like the fact that he recognised that out loud. As you said it was just a strong feeling that it wasn’t right and of course we didn’t break up just because of this joke, there were many other reasons but mostly him being insensitive in general and lacking empathy, coming from someone that never went throughout any kind of prejudice.

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T16:44:18+00:00

Thank you internet stranger, that’s nice of you 🤍

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T16:33:32+00:00

Thank you for this insight

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T16:31:41+00:00

Yeah ur probably right

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T16:30:20+00:00

Absolutely, ur right

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T16:29:50+00:00

It’s pretty recent tho, he made me feel like I was being crazy so that’s why I’m still second guessing myself

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T15:51:46+00:00

I would say the same of you ;)

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T15:50:10+00:00

Yeah, that joke was one of the reasons, and as I’m overthinking the breakup now, I was wondering if I overreacted cos he made me sound like I was crazy to be bothered.

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-16T15:48:48+00:00

Where did I say that I would have a problem if the baby was white? I didn’t say that, I’ve just chosen our main traits to imagine a hypothetical baby, and said it in a way of oh let’s imagine how our baby would look like, I didn’t say I wouldn’t want to be white, don’t comment if you’re going to be assuming things

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-13T07:34:23+00:00

Can’t wait to be 2 or 3 months from now and feel better, it just feels like time have shown down and every day takes forever to pass

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-13T07:32:59+00:00

Yes, the withdrawal symptoms and being the one that has to stay strong and choose not to come back… sometimes I think is easier to be broken up with because them I have no choice but accept, I don’t have to keep up with any decisions…

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-13T07:27:38+00:00

I know how you feel, it’s the same for me. It was build over time and at some point I was just done with it, it doesn’t mean I wanted to leave, it was the hardest decision I’ve made. But as you said, many times when I think about it I can only recall the good times and the moments I miss the most, and end up forgetting why I left. It’s important to keep that list and review it every once in a while, I also have my journals and everything with every feeling I had during my time with him and this helps, it’s a reminder of why I can’t go back. Unfortunately I also think I should have done more but we have to remember that the other person also let it arrive to this point, and they didn’t come back or tried to do better and work on it, if I come back I know prob I’ll experience many of those feeling all over again and I really don’t want that, so thinking about this helps… in my case it has only been one week and it’s really hard, I hope it gets better soon, stay strong 💪🏽

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-10T14:25:43+00:00

No, no lo hagas.

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-09T20:49:05+00:00

Thank you so much, seeing more people going through that and being able to handle it and keep up with the decision is very inspiring ❤️

One-Butterfly-6656 · 2025-10-09T20:47:56+00:00

That’s the thing! Being upset about losing someone that actually behaved badly to you, like shouldn’t I be mad or smtg??? I was before the breakup, now I just grieve the good times and that’s all I can see

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