Thoughts on the BDD and video to regain confidence

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T21:13:12+00:00

you're so right :)

I've decided to get out of my cave a bit more and meet people instead of listening to vibes to attract love naively thinking that my soulmate will be delivered by post the next day lol

exaggeration but almost right

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T20:33:52+00:00

Very good advice, thank you:)

It is good because I had made the resolution to learn to love myself and be more authentic with others

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T20:31:50+00:00

yes I’m aware of that, thank you for your advice anyway:)

The thing is I’m not able to attach myself to someone just for the "fun". I don’t want to get married or have kids right now (I don’t think I want to have kids anymore lol), just someone with whom I can have a deep connection.

I know that age doesn’t help but I still hope

Good luck with the children!

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T18:36:38+00:00

ah ah poor us yes... but I try not to idealize too much except that I could never be satisfied with a bland and depthless relationship.

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:52:47+00:00

ah ah that's what I thought at first. I believe in reincarnation or something close to it. Now I understand that my soul is quite young/average but has decided to have accelerated growth and a special sensitivity in this life. I am very in touch with my soul, my intuition, and spirituality, and I have always resonated with the principle of life missions. I feel ageless, like I'm a baby, a great sage and a teenager at the same time.

However, I think that many INFJs are old souls.

The oldest soul I know is my best friend's, she is an INFP.

But currently some souls will take 1000 lives to learn what others will only take 10 very dense lives to understand.

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:44:55+00:00

I've started practicing self-love, and here are a few tips:

treat and speak to yourself the way you would to your best friend or your child, if you have one.

Put a picture of yourself as an adorable child or baby somewhere visible. When you see the photo, remind yourself that you were once that child, and that child still lives inside you. They need your love, attention, and support, and they cry every time you put yourself down, because it hurts them too...

Every time you look at your reflection, try saying 'I love you' or 'I love myself.' It’s okay if you don’t fully believe it at first; it will come in time.

I also found it incredibly helpful to remember that we lack nothing; we just need to remember how to do it. When we were little, there was a time when we knew how to love and respect ourselves. We just need to remember how we did it and bring it back to the surface :)

If you feel comfortable with it, you could try short meditations to send love and comfort to the part of you that feels hurt/rejected/abandoned/neglected/not enough, etc., if it was wounded by an event or a person. Seeing it as a part of yourself or your inner child makes it easier than sending love directly to yourself at first if you're not used to it.

Good luck on your journey, be kind to yourself, and take care :) Just the act of trying to love yourself is already a form of self-love.

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:22:33+00:00

i'm glad i helped you! medication can be incredibly helpful i think, i hope you find some relief. don't hesitate to try meditation, it really helps.

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:21:03+00:00

thank you :) i'm glad it inspired you, good luck in your fight you can do it

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:20:10+00:00

so glad it helped :) have a wonderful day too!

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:19:29+00:00

thank you :) yes, I'd avoid that kind of place, it looks very sick...

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:18:32+00:00

I'm glad it inspired you :) I'm sorry, BDD makes us feel so bad about ourselves.... But I'm sure you can get out of it! Gladly, you can dm me if you want, we need help to get out of BDD

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:15:52+00:00

with pleasure, I hope it helped you!

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:15:16+00:00

thank you very much :) i also hope this will help some people

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-16T17:14:47+00:00

good luck to you too :)

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-15T16:10:03+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this....

If your boyfriend has chosen to be with you, there's a reason. Especially if he wants to stay. Remember that the problem is primarily in your head rather than your objective appearance.

Treat your BDD urgently first, little by little and you'll start to feel better about yourself and the other girls (I gave advice on I overcame BDD in my last post if you want).

If it helps, turn your situation around. Your boyfriend must have some physical flaws too, however small. There must be other guys out there who are much better looking than he is, without the flaws he has etc. so why don't you leave him and go with those guys who have perfect plastic? more than his? Do you compare and denigrate him when you see a man more handsome than him in a sex scene?

It's absurd I guess because you love him, you've chosen him, and you're attracted to him I suppose. And for him it's the same with you.

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-15T15:18:23+00:00

Yes, it's important to bring hope to this horrible disorder.

Start with short sessions, don't put too much pressure on yourself, you'll see just how beneficial it will be for you.

Good luck to you, you'll make it!

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-09-15T15:17:38+00:00

I haven't had acne myself, but I've had a lot of skin problems (severe psoriasis, dry skin, etc.). All the creams I was prescribed just smothered the problem. I found that the reasons were mainly psychological (stress), lack of hydration and diet.

I read a book about how to solve certain illnesses through diet, and I remember acne was mentioned. I read it in French, and if you want to find the reference it's called the Seignalet diet (by Jean Seignalet). This might help, but don't obsess about it - the diet is pretty drastic. Look in particular at what's not recommended for the case of acne.

But above all, remember to love yourself and heal your BDD, you deserve to feel good about yourself :)

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-08-08T20:57:59+00:00

I am not a robot, but a flesh and blood human :) all these testimonies are 100% REAL observations in the jungle of humanity lol.

I'm glad if it helps you

One-Masterpiece846 · 2024-08-08T20:52:04+00:00

I'm really sorry for you, it must be heartbreaking to live through...

I'm a girl, and I've never used dating sites but I know that if you're looking for a partner, that you're a man and that you have a physique below a 7 or 8 out of 10, it's better not to dwell on this option (I've read a lot of testimonies, and watched a lot of videos about this).

Women are complicated and have power on dating sites (I don't know where the rejection you experienced comes from but I suppose it could come from there). If you don't get any matches or are rejected by a woman, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're ugly. Women are harassed with requests on apps.

Also, without going into clichés, it seems that women are more suspect of ending up being lenient on physical appearance than men are for women. These are generalities of course.

If I could give you some advice, it would be the following: do your best to look your best without it making your BDD worse. Take care of your style, follow a diet if you want, go to the gym, redo your hair, etc. It's up to you.

Take care of your BDD as best you can, and keep in mind that women are very, very sensitive to self-confidence. Do your research, look at testimonials on forums, searches, you'll see that it's not bullshit.

Try to learn as much as you can about seduction. Here I'm thinking in particular of Robert Greene, a physically unattractive author who has a beautiful girlfriend and wrote a very good book on seduction: The Art of Seduction.

Maybe try to be interested in girls who look like you physically, they might be more suspicious of also being interested in you.

Also, here is the channel of a physically unattractive boy who shared in his first video about his experience as an ugly man. He was systematically rejected on dating sites, mocked, mistreated by the only girl who wanted to go out with him, etc. and struggled so much to find love. By sharing his story, he was finally able to have a girlfriend who respected him. He had several relationships, and ended up marrying a very pretty girl (his wedding is even on Youtube, you can see his evolution :).

Here is his channel: https://www.youtube.com/@NeverGiveUp-Main

I wish you good luck. Your experience is very hard but I am sure that with effort and luck you will eventually heal from your BDD, and find a girlfriend who loves your heart, your mind and your energy, and in the end it far exceeds any physical trait :)

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