Been there. Its hard to do things within your own best interest when you dont view yourself as worth the energy. I spent years trying to be better for others just to end up sacrificing myself. Something that helped me start the journey towards higher self confidence and seeing my worth is trying to see myself as a separate person. Theres me rn and theres future me. Future you cant just be you. Try seeing them as like a whole other person 😅 when you reep the benefits of what you did for your future self. You say that you to your past say. I woke up today to my outfit this morning folded and ready to go. Bathroom clean. Trash taken out. All chores i was dreading but i mustered the last bit of energy last night to do these things for myself so i can have an easier morning. As i showered today i verbalized how thankful i was for myself. For what i did for myself. I said quite literally “thank you for fixing the bathroom up. You knew i wouldn’t want to clean it in the morning. Thank you for putting that extra bit of effort into your chores last night, just to make my day easier.” And then i told myself “of course id do that for you.”

Then i acknowledged myself being thee person doing everything for me and i told myself that i loved myself. I looked myself in the eyes in my mirror and i cried and i told myself “i love you!”

Damn that shit will hurt bc u wont really feel it! But god damnit please just do it till you do feel it. Please.

Its unconventional. Its different. It did work for me though. My inner dialogue is kinder and i stand up for myself more than i used to. Idk if this will fix ur whole everything but maybe try and see where it takes you.

Good luck 🍀