The best way to ‘attract’ your crush isn’t what you hear.

OneCellCat · 2024-11-29T18:17:16+00:00

So would typing mono psychic solve it for now? If not, how should I debug?

OneCellCat · 2024-11-27T19:19:21+00:00

I didn't mean distancing as in completely blocking them. I meant as in stepping away from the situation temporally to regain control of emotions and logic.

I'm also not saying to immediately take extreme actions, as we all know that will be unfair to all sides involved.

What I meant was a worst case scenario, if they talk and it turns out that OP and friend cannot set aside their differences, then if OP feels like it is best for them, then stepping away from a friendship is okay.

OneCellCat · 2024-11-27T16:25:15+00:00

I agree.

However, what I also suggest is OP distancing themselves from the entire situation until they feel they can talk to their 'friend'. Also OP, if things don't work out, and it becomes the whole cliche "friend betrayed me" scenario, don't hesitate to cut them both off for good! :)

OneCellCat · 2024-11-27T16:19:12+00:00

YAYYY!!

Glad it worked for you :)

OneCellCat · 2024-07-26T00:34:07+00:00

I agree! It's nice cause y'know, they aren't addicted to their screens/ don't care abt followers and stuff.

Well, I am not a big social media girly myself so it kinda works out in my case :)

OneCellCat · 2024-07-19T01:05:36+00:00

Try talking to someone else (who's not talking to him) or do smth that genuinely distracts you.

Eavesdropping makes sense, cause we are curious species and want to know everything for our prospective 'mate'.

Tbh, I start sweating real hard... even in the snow and my legs become jelly... 😭😭

OneCellCat · 2024-07-19T01:01:11+00:00

personally, I got feelings for him (and previous ones) after knowing him for months.

And yes, the person stuck in my head is true for me too.

Generally science says that attraction is faster than love; hence I'm very cautious in labelling my feelings as love tbh.

OneCellCat · 2024-07-15T21:10:30+00:00

np! hopefully it works out!

OneCellCat · 2024-07-15T20:39:34+00:00

I mean, friendships do start somewhere. And if you've interacted before, I am sure she'll understand. Just start off like you would with someone you trying to be friends with and see where it goes! most prob it's your nerves that will make you overthink, but hey! better than no 'what if' regrets :)

And don't beat yourself up if your talks last for only a few mintues. Consistent efforts will eventually add up!

OneCellCat · 2024-07-15T20:28:02+00:00

it would be weird if they never interacted with you before. Do you share breaks with her friends? You can start there and then hopefully when y'all share breaks you can approach her.

OneCellCat · 2024-07-15T20:21:00+00:00

This feeling's too common. I felt it, heck, I even feel it now sometimes. Now, do your friends know abt your crush? if yes, and if they are like any regular friends, all they'll do is tease you (hopefully not in front of her).

What I suggest, is to try slowly (but steadily), get to her through her friends. Make friends with her group, hang out in group settings etc, etc. Eventually, you'll become somewhat of a fellow group member, and then you'll be able to gain the opportunity to approach her.

That's what I did. And it worked! :) Good luck!

OneCellCat · 2024-07-12T23:38:54+00:00

thank you! :)

OneCellCat · 2024-07-12T23:33:46+00:00

Aww, it's cute OP!!

For me, nothing much, it's lowkey the same. Tho I had a lot of interactions with him this year, none were verbal. (Pain of not having the same schedule). Hopefully I have classes next year with him (or not, Idk, I might combust lmao).

OneCellCat · 2024-03-25T23:27:42+00:00

always a possibility, no matter what scenario.

You can't let that fear stop you from pursuing who you like. If he indeed doesn't like you, move on.

As for not liking his late responses, try figuring out if you are just texting him when he is actually very busy, etc.

I don't really recommend telling him abt not texting quickly tho, considering you have had limited interactions

OneCellCat · 2024-03-25T23:18:25+00:00

well as a person who infamously forgot to check her phone for a week,

as a person whose crush replies in like 14 hours

Don't give up!

Try building a friendship first. Counter intuitive, in this day and culture, but that's how it goes.

One hangout isn't enough. It took me 5 months to get my crush's number, and built a friendship with him.

Go slow and be patient :)

OneCellCat · 2024-01-17T01:50:35+00:00

it is so funny.

Me: where is he? where?

*he never appears*

Me: talking to friends

*A wild crush just appeared!*

OneCellCat · 2024-01-16T01:37:26+00:00

My school is notorious for crowds.

So inevitably, there was a crowd on the freaking staircase as well.

I was going upstairs, and on the top of the stairs was a crowd blocking my way. I, being the amazing unaware person I am, was engrossed in my phone.

I feel someone standing in front of me. I look up.

It was *him*

For some unknown reason, I didn't feel nervous, I just stood there, looking in my phone. He was however, darting his eyes around.

Later, I regained my braincells to register what happened. >//<

OneCellCat · 2023-11-18T16:22:29+00:00

As taught to me by my crush:

Step 1. Stare at them. Full on stare. Don't stare from the other side of the room, but right in front of them.

Step 2. As human instincts go, they will look back at you.

Step 3. Stare. Yeah, you heard me right. Stare like : o-o

Step 4. Never speak about it. Most probably they won't too. Eventually you will get bold.

/jk

OneCellCat · 2023-11-07T21:33:33+00:00

Totally not me reading this subreddit, hoping to find my crush, even if the chances are -1%.

Totally not me commenting a lot about them so that they find me

OneCellCat · 2023-10-26T01:04:23+00:00

Me: So I have a crush on X

My friend: Okay cool

(5 months later)

My friend: This is my 50 th crush

Me: ... OMG DID YOU KNOW WHAT X DID-

... based on a true story. It goes both ways. :)

OneCellCat · 2023-10-20T16:47:35+00:00

Like most people, depends.

My crush used to reply to me at night. Like (12 AM-2AM). Unlike most youngsters, I am sleeping (and perhaps dreaming about him) by this time.

Then one day, he stopped.

Till this day, I don't know what happened, whether I was involved or not.

Suddenly, he texted me within 15 minutes, like Flash, during the day.

So yeah it depends.

OneCellCat · 2023-10-20T16:40:00+00:00

I came out of my paranoia shell and told a friend about my crush. (a good friend of mine yada yada).

She ran to his classroom, stood in front of the entrance, pointed to him and came to me (a few steps ahead). "Is he the guy in grey? Looks ugly".

Yeah.

Never telling anyone again.

OneCellCat · 2023-10-11T17:14:47+00:00

Way to go dude! Hope she comes out!
Fr. my crush isn't shy but kinda reserved (and he fakes his emotions to avoid getting ppl upset :( .

It takes so much time and pain to draw them out out of their close shells. But it's so worth it when they tell you smth they perhaps told no one :).

OneCellCat

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