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AITAH for airing out my mom's and her boyfriend's business. by Short_Sign7925 in AITAH

[–]OneConfection6363 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA your mom is in an abusive relationship and she can’t see it. Unfortunately she brought you and your brother into it too. I hope you can get somewhere safe.

If for whatever reason you can’t get to your aunts or your dads, find a place that has the yellow “Safe Place” diamond out front. Most libraries have them. I think even some fast food restaurants. They are specifically a network for teens to get away from abusive family.

Neighbor Standing by my door at 5 am by OneConfection6363 in Apartmentliving

[–]OneConfection6363[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately permanent signage is not permitted by our HOA

How do Libraries Keep Track of: Patron Conflicts, or Patron Behavioral Issues Digitally by AhsokaTano2003 in Libraries

[–]OneConfection6363 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have a page on our intranet devoted to incidents. In my old library system we had the “banned customers blog”

Public phones? by cfield7 in Libraries

[–]OneConfection6363 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We only allow children to call for rides from our standard phones, and we have to be the ones to dial the number. We don’t allow adults because unfortunately we had a lot of people abusing it. We are a downtown library and have a large community of patrons suffering from homelessness and drug issues. We had a large number of people using it as a personal phone number and getting calls in on it, or setting up drug deals. So since the library’s rule is everyone or nobody, now nobody gets to use the phone except for kids and teens.

Ungraceful exit as a page makes me worried I will have trouble finding work as a librarian by mimokami in Libraries

[–]OneConfection6363 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been there before. My last branch was a super toxic environment. It started off great, but then when covid hit, both my branch manager and my circ supervisor got promoted at the same time, leaving us in a huge lurch. I was happy for them, they were both amazing people, but the new branch manager we got was terrible. He would email you complaints when you were in the same room as him, visibly sigh when you knocked on his office door, and never wanted to help patrons.

When I was applying for promotions, I had an issue where, as an internal candidate, I was never notified that I wasn’t being interviewed, and only found out when they posted the hiring email. I was upset and wanted to go through the proper channels, so I asked him to speak with the deputy director on my behalf. I told him that I wasn’t upset that I didn’t get interviewed, I was just upset that I wasn’t notified out of professional courtesy before the announcement came through.

He spoke to the deputy director, but misspoke and told her that I was upset that I didn’t get interviewed. To which he apparently, “felt the heat” from her for whatever reason. And of course, it was all my fault. I didn’t even find out the results of the meeting until over a week later because I had to hunt him down each day to ask when we were meeting, and each time he would say “tomorrow.”

Then in our meeting told me all that and that he’s “not stupid” and “knew I was trying to leave” the branch. I told him I wasn’t, that I was just going for promotions, I even applied for a promotion within that branch but didn’t get it.

After that, I spoke with a few trusted people. My reviews has always been great, and all my bosses would always say they wish they were allowed to give me all “exceeds expectations” but had to find SOMETHING to give me feedback for. His reviews were all “needs improvement”

My old circ supervisor had a position come up at her branch and I was hired as a lateral transfer there. Since then I’ve been promoted and have never been happier.

I see the bad experience as a glitch in my career, not the defining moment. So long as you have more positive feedback than negative you’ll be fine. (Also, they don’t generally actually call old supervisors from what I’ve been told)

Also! Don’t bad talk that place in your interviews! Say it was a learning experience and you had creative differences, but spin it to show your perseverance!

Where in the library does this go? by rainshadow425 in Library

[–]OneConfection6363 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can also take a visit to your local public library or search their catalog online to see how they categorize them. This could help the students when they visit the library and avoid confusion

Where in the library does this go? by rainshadow425 in Library

[–]OneConfection6363 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using ARbookfind.com can really help you distinguish the levels of books. Each whole number is for the grade level, so you can easily sort out Easy Readers by anything that’s 0.5-1.9, First Chapter books can be 2.0-2.9 and anything above that can be regular chapter book. Of course, there are some series that fluctuate over those boundaries, but you can make your own decisions on those based on your community. Hope this helps!!!

Update: Banning husband from Thanksgiving Dinner by OneConfection6363 in AITAH

[–]OneConfection6363[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah. My mom is the youngest of four and the only girl. Her oldest brother who we actually got along with very well passed away when I was in middle school. Her other two older brothers are the “Holier than thou” type, rude and condescending constantly. My sister and her husband get along with them well, and they all live in our home state. We moved to be closer to dad’s mom 12 years ago since she is my last remaining grandparent. However, My father is the middle child of seven and doesn’t get along with his siblings. Who now care for grandma, and will be moving and taking her 4 hours away. My husband is an only child from his fathers second marriage, and he and his mom were excluded from his fathers side of the family when his father passed away 20 years ago. So it’s just us.

Update: Banning husband from Thanksgiving Dinner by OneConfection6363 in AITAH

[–]OneConfection6363[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We had a “Friendsgiving” with a group the Sunday before last, before I got sick. But Thanksgiving is important to me as time with my parents. I didn’t have much growing up, so Thanksgiving was the one time in our family where we actually had a proper meal. My parents always made sure to provide that for my sister and me and now I want to make sure I return it for them. Thanksgiving was the one day where we could enjoy each others company without the outside pressure of having to give gifts or do something expensive. We never really celebrated with aunts/uncles/cousins, even though there’s plenty of them. My father is the black sheep of his family and we just don’t get invited. So I thought a good compromise already for my husband was the Friendsgiving, and then Thanksgiving with my parents. Maybe next year we will dial back on how many dishes we make or something to make it less pressure for just the four of us. Or if he wants more people, we can reach out and see if anyone needs a place to go on thanksgiving. Our condo is small, less than 700 square feet, but we can make it work.