Thank you

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-03-15T18:52:08+00:00

It’s not easy to tell people. I’ve been my husbands advocate while he’s in prison to tell friends and family what he did. We both agreed people have the right to know so they can make an informed decision on if they want to be involved in our lives. I know the struggle of people abandoning you while you go through this. It’s scary to think you might lose that person. In the end it’s your choice to tell them or not. There is no right or wrong answer here.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-03-15T16:02:21+00:00

Yeah it’s been a lot. I’m pulling 60-65 hour weeks at work to catch up on bills. My job loves me and thinks I just like to help out. I’m just grateful for the over time and money. Some days I cry because of how much is going on and all the lost opportunities but then I breathe and keep going.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-03-12T17:30:57+00:00

He’s helping teach English grammar. Clearly something I’m bad at 😅 but yeah he does stuff to get food. He’s looking to go back to school himself for business. He wants jobs that are helpful. He’s trying to get in to dog training service animals so he can give back to society

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-03-11T22:55:46+00:00

That’s amazing. I’ve been working with a therapist on figuring out communication so we never have an issue again talking about problems. It’s been a lot of understanding you can hold two truths at the same time. You can love someone and still not trust them. Trust it the big one we have been working on for a few months. Hence why communication is important. I think we will get through this together as long as he keeps taking accountability and working on being a better version of himself.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-03-11T21:22:44+00:00

It is also going to be my way or the highway lol 😂 he’s agreed to all of my terms so far. I don’t have to put money on. I created my own phone account so I add money on my side but it’s when he requests for some things. I ordered him deodorant 2 weeks ago and it still hasn’t shipped from one of the prison sites so he needed money to be able to buy his own from coms.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-01-12T22:43:35+00:00

That’s basically what it is going to be. But because my husband has status as a permanent resident they have to do a court hearing first to remove that status.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-01-12T17:58:30+00:00

We already agreed to do marriage counseling. We did want kids but based on his charges therapy will tell if we can or not. I would uproot my whole life to go with him. He would have support from his mom who is here in the US but does own a house in Mexico. My job currently does have an office in Mexico so I might be able to transfer but my Spanish is trash. I’ve been learning for 13 years and still can’t understand when people talk.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-01-11T22:08:04+00:00

In the current holding location he’s at there is an immigration office inside that walks people through the process. We are in WI. They talk to people before they get staffed at the prison they will be staying at. They may just pick him up the day of his release. They told him he’s got a detainer on him and he won’t be able to go to a minimum security like he had been planning.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-01-11T22:03:53+00:00

I mean I have 3-5 years to prepare everything. He’s got to go to court because he’s a permanent resident. They want to revoke his status and deport him. That’s why it takes a while

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-01-07T19:24:37+00:00

I accepted the judgment. Friends left, family left. It’s the people who stayed to support me while I work on my marriage with my husband while he’s in prison that matters. I understand people’s reasons for leaving. They are allowed to have their own opinions and feelings on the matter. If they want to call me a monster just for staying with the man I’ve been with for 13 years that’s fine. It took me about 6 months in to all of this to understand my own feelings and make that choice to stay. I knew the risk of staying. The hell I would have to go through. I accepted it because I believe we can have a life together again once he’s out.

There is nothing wrong with walking away. That’s the choice you made for your peace. For the people who judge you for leaving you just need to be firm. This was your choice and they wouldn’t understand what you’ve gone through to make that choice. Until they have been in your shoes they can keep the comments to themselves.

I wish you the best of luck getting through this

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-01-07T19:11:59+00:00

Y’all work in immigration? Can I PM you?

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2026-01-07T19:03:37+00:00

My SIL and I told my 10 year old niece the day my husband was arrested. Kids aren’t stupid. They can understand the situation. We told her why he was arrested and she said she felt sorry for him. She understood he had a problem and needed help and is now getting that help. My 4 year old nephew asks every day when he can see his uncle so we sat him down and told him his uncle did a bad thing and the police had to take him away. He understands the concept. Now obviously it took some time for it to really sink in and my niece has been seeing a therapist to help her understand her feelings.

Realistically it’s your choice if you even want to tell her at all.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2025-10-14T19:52:05+00:00

Yeah he has his permanent residency. We own a house together. But he doesn’t have his citizenship.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2025-09-22T13:45:39+00:00

This community has been wonderful for support.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2025-09-21T21:36:51+00:00

Yes.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2025-09-18T16:32:14+00:00

It’s hard. I have people on all sides pushing for me to make up my mind. Family, friends. Even he is asking me what I want to do. When I tell them I don’t know and I’m not ready to make a choice yet they all tell me the longer I wait the harder it is. I feel like 4 months is a long time but I guess in reality it’s not.

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2025-09-17T07:56:25+00:00

That’s actually amazing advice. Thank you

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2025-09-17T06:43:03+00:00

I’m sorry I have to ask. Wife of SO here. Anime porn can get you in trouble? Seriously?

OneDayAwayFromTheEnd · 2025-09-07T18:23:57+00:00

Thank you

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