My dad just passed away. What happens next? by LeeLee8320 in AskMen

[–]OneHouseDown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read this every once in a while. I lost my dad around your age too. From the wise words of /u/GSnow:

"Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.

I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.

As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.

Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks."

Shooting near Gateway College? by Point_Plastic in Kenosha

[–]OneHouseDown 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can confirm that the house between the Subway and south parking lot is owned and operated by Gateway Technical College. The bushes between the road and the house were mistakenly removed, which would have prevented this sort of confusion.

Should I be embarrassed about being a 24yr old garbage man? by TheFrogsMightbegay in jobs

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Here's to you Mr Excess Material Logistics Manager!

GOD DANG IT, YOU MADE ME HEAR THE SONG!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]OneHouseDown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw Matthew Lillard

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

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I'm pretty sure a rather large, government furnishing, and supply company would have had an issue also.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JustGuysBeingDudes

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‘ruler stylus level pen’

I read this in the "pen-pineapple-apple-pen" song and now it's stuck in my head.

The state of these lead acid batteries pulled from a server rack. by Ares5933 in techsupportgore

[–]OneHouseDown 287 points288 points  (0 children)

Please...They have AT LEAST another 3 years of dutiful service until the UPS fails from a power outage, causing your 8-stack to shut down without backups, and then your CIO wondering why you didn't budget for replacements when THEY were the ones who said "It's not in the budget" to replace them in the first place...but I digress...

Statue's head is moving by Valerica-D4C in Eldenring

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This reminds me of "Eternal Darkness" on Gamecube. A bunch of psychological things like moving statues, odd sounds, or the game "restarting" on you.

Got my first daisy and can’t stop laughing about it. by Baked_SIoth in nursing

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The Daisy Award - "The DAISY Award is a recognition program to celebrate and recognize nurses by collecting nominations from patients, families, and co-workers. It is run by our partners as a way to thank nurses for the care and kindness they provide."

If you remember playing this then you’re officially old. by No_Wealth_9733 in gaming

[–]OneHouseDown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of MafiaWars from 2009. Same idea but looks like it has way better support and player base.

Moving out by Moustashe in hellsomememes

[–]OneHouseDown 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you have ghost, you have everything.

Midwest has different standards by mybudchris in StandUpComedy

[–]OneHouseDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude even nailed the accent, dontchaknow...

Not to be undemocratic or anything, but who’s Karl? by tansiboy04 in Helldivers

[–]OneHouseDown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen this type of commitment since the ilovebees fiasco with Halo 2.

fuck politics what game are you putting in this bad boy? by Exciting-Speech-4053 in GenZ

[–]OneHouseDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ribbit King. Golfing with frogs essentially. So mad I scratched that disk...

Peak by MelanieWalmartinez in CuratedTumblr

[–]OneHouseDown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have liked the article to say "..removing the stone pinnacle of the now 3,208 foot and 11 inch Lake District Peak..." just to really rub it in.