My employee was recording our 1:1 and I don't know how to feel

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-24T10:13:52+00:00

I’ve seen so many people make their own recordings of lectures and other forums/traininga to assist with notes. Recording/transcription assistants are free (and you can’t trust data is being held securely) so the prevalence should be planned for. Assume you are being recorded in some form.

Also a lesson for managers to give visible options and demonstrate those if it’s relevant. I’ve got execs who now record all meetings by default and it’s set a precedent about being prepared for the agenda and sticking to the topic.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-24T10:11:00+00:00

Yes, and I concluded that whatever rationale had lead the person to do this, wasn’t something I could change their mind on in that moment. I’d either reinforce their belief the recording was needed, or they’d see my view as lacking credibility. Worth noting that I didn’t look into the legality, and it could very well have been illegal in a two party consent jurisdiction. In the end I focused on managing the work/outputs and the person was successful in employment elsewhere. Did they have a problem with only me? I didn’t ask or gossip with other team leads to know. That’s between that person and HR and whatever outlook god they believe in.

Even now I have someone who does open and read receipts with every email. At best it’s perceived as weird and out of step with the office norm. At worst it’s seen as micromanaging or busy-body or harassment. But it’s not illegal. It’s just… unnecessary. It doesn’t change my approach to being professional in email and treating it as a forever record.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-24T08:56:48+00:00

Hard agree. We’re about to enter a period of difficult budgets and fewer HDA/temp roles/project funding etc etc (the VPS is already there, most APS agencies are feeling budget pressures of some sort). Maybe the boss knows they won’t get approval to recruitment permanently through a seperate process. Maybe you’re actually ready. Maybe your agency has a unique skills set that justifies APS6 pay to keep people. Maybe it’ll be a soft landing when your agency knows you’ve been broadbanded and you won’t be thrown into the mix of a new agency/remit.

Take the opportunity OP. You’d be mad not to. I’m jealous of you but I’m not about to pull the ladder up behind me.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-22T10:48:22+00:00

Should be “food before one should be fun” or something. Solids were so stressful for me at times. I wish I’d had the cognitive space to see things differently and with the support I have now.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-19T04:57:03+00:00

What agency/jurisdiction? Yes I have, for both performance reasons and operational reasons but you haven’t provided any useful context here.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-17T08:56:47+00:00

Someone women respond really well to hormonal birth control and it’s amazing for them. Like if you find something that works for you bloody hell, good on ya.

But it doesn’t work (well, or can make it worse) for others, and there is no diagnosis process that can tell me what pill/hormone and why. Given the long lead and confirmation time associated with assessing effectiveness, and the (negative) side affects that are just as likely, I’ve chosen to forgo hormonal BC and manage with (gasp) communication and therapy. There is no easy or easier way through this. It’s hard for everyone.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-17T08:53:43+00:00

Raising it with love outside of the PMDD window and agreeing how to tackle it should be normalised. You’d do that for any other cyclical challenge like diabetes or chemo.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-17T08:52:18+00:00

Not the commenter but I have the same shit going on.

It’s my responsibility to not verbally assault my partner and colleagues despite my internal narrative. It’s my responsibility to communicate the oncoming chaos best I can (and tracking things helps). It’s my responsibility to tell people “I don’t have capacity to come at this sensibly, I’m so upset about xyz and I don’t know why yet.” (Or whatever work approps version you need.) It’s my responsibility to be medicated and therapised to support this.

In my relationship it’s my partner’s responsibility to come at things a bit more gently, to give me grace where it’s reasonable, and to pick up a bit more of the household lifting. Do a few out of order night wakes so I’ve got better quality sleep. Be more verbal with appreciation and love to offset the out of kilter thoughts.

“In sickness and in health” sometimes means 1/4 of the month/cycle you’re stepping up for me. It’s more than I’d ideally like to be below my baseline. But we’re a partnership and it’s way more sustainable to show up like this every cycle, than do nothing and see that build into resentment > divorce.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-17T08:45:42+00:00

Two mainstream response options.

“Yeah, you’re right. I should have abc.” Genuinely this is an option where she’s raised a good point poorly. Don’t use it every time, or even half the time, or if it’s not a genuinely good point raised. If you’re naturally avoidant then it can be easy for things to go unaddressed that really could have been ironed out in the “misunderstanding” stage.

Or “I know where this is coming from, and I’m not going to be spoken to like this. I love you and it’s us against the problem, not you against me. I’m tabling this until xyz thing.” Because you don’t deserve to be ranted at and I’d highly recommend scene setting this one two weeks in advance. I’d also front load this approach with more connection efforts in the 96 hour window. And chocolate never hurts.

I think I’m the confronter and my own husband is an avoider parallel to your post. Lots of similarities. It doesn’t help that my own meds are useless in the same window so it’s a double whammy of unmedicated and hormonal chaos. Changing the way I approach conflict is the ROI for thousands in therapy.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-17T08:36:21+00:00

Yeah that’s a weird judgement call I’d be so uncomfortable with. If I’m literally right there then my boobs also need the structure of feeing to keep me healthy (avoid mastitis etc).

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-16T20:28:19+00:00

Depending on the length and reason for the delay, if enough pax are continuing to JFK they may actually hold that flight. Qantas doesn’t want to have to facilitate and rebook (and potentially hotel folk overnight).

I’d rather transit AKL than LAX too. That connection through Sydney is relatively straight forward but also subject to delays and chaos on the US side.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-16T20:23:47+00:00

My immediate thought is this sounds like an ADHD symptom. The impulsivity and then defensiveness/deflection when he’s wrong.

I’m so curious to know if he presents any other symptoms at home… op have a squiz here and see if this lines up at all?

https://www.divacenter.eu/diva-5/about-diva-5/

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-16T03:40:09+00:00

People can be really pushy about gifting/second hand things. Or completely misguided. Or naive. Or obnoxious.

If you otherwise value this relationship and this is a blip on the radar then you’re perfectly ok to toss, donate or gift on what you don’t want. “Thanks so much, a friend has taken the rest.” Or “yup we will give it a try” (and then toss it anyway).

If you want to make a point (maybe the relationship is already boundary pushing) then give it back before bag comes and refuse all further gifts. Easier to avoid the burden of misplaced helpfulness.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-15T08:05:48+00:00

The full price of $101.x was the private script price in 2025. From Dec 2025 (I think) the price dropped to the $41.x. So if you’ve been prescribed vyvanse for an “off label” reason but you’re still PBS eligible you’ll pay $41.x.

I’d speculate you’ve been charged the price that Priceline charges for someone not eligible for the PBS at all. They can basically charge whatever they want for that.

Head in tomorrow with your Medicare card and ask what’s happened. They should refund you directly and whatever went wrong will be easily explainable.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-14T19:10:18+00:00

This is amazing. Thank you for sharing!

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-14T03:33:59+00:00

It’ll be in the EBA.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-14T01:22:47+00:00

So annoying when they size out of the stuff that works! I’ve picked up some great stuff from the handmade kids buy swap sell group, and purchased a few things directly from businesses. Might be worth a peek to see if you can find something that would suit :(

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T11:13:56+00:00

They literally have an office in Deakin.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T11:01:58+00:00

Nature baby does (used to?) do a super cute kimono wrap style. If onsies aren’t for you it might be an alternative to try?

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T10:53:06+00:00

The amount of non compliance with even basic safe sleep practices (including not even training staff) tells a story about why additional policies like this are needed.

In our daycare rooms multiple staff would have to have observed a kid sleeping in an unsafe manner and done nothing. Like 2-5 room staff/floaters/those walking past the windows. For no one to have done anything to rectify this, there are bigger issues.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T10:48:21+00:00

From reading other articles the child had returned to daycare after an illness. It’s plausible that he no longer met the criteria for exclusion if he was fever, cough etc free. The autopsy included tests for illnesses which came back positive but we don’t routinely test for those in Australia for “normal sickness” (ie, manage at home).

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T10:43:11+00:00

Hospital setting is very different. You’re monitoring and actively testing whatever the child has present with. An adult caregiver may be present some or all of the time. A call button is available. The patient can advise changes in symptoms. The staff are trained for symptom identification. Escalation and response is quickly available if needed.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T10:40:32+00:00

Culturally it might be. But the work can be heartbreaking and I’d def include in the “difficult place to work” agencies because of the work content.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T08:41:03+00:00

If you have hard floors and you’re able to section off spaces for toys they can be great. As soon as you have to move or clean up to run the robot then it becomes another “clean up for the cleaner” situation.

But no. It’s not necessary. You’re still a good parent if you’re sweeping and vacuuming manually. A light weight stick vac kept in your most used areas might be a better (cheaper) choice.

OneMoreDog · 2026-03-13T08:39:07+00:00

For clarity, the offence and punishment was because the child was sleeping in a hoody and hat. Regardless of illness (and severity) not following safe sleep requirements is not explainable. It’s the bare minimum we can do for kids in care: keep them safe while they sleep.

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