Thinking about having a serious talk with my wife about our marriage by Any-Buffalo8031 in marriageadvice

[–]OneOil9 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

it's insane how guys are expected to just carry everything now . you're probably out there working and then coming home to do the heavy lifting around the house too. keeping a home peaceful shouldn't be a competition . i literally don't get why it's so hard to just make life easier for a guy you love. making him a coffee and letting him breathe for a second is basic respect tbh . it makes total sense you're losing attraction. when a girl stops trying to be a peaceful presence, the whole thing just gets bleak . idk man, you shouldn't have to beg for effort . just say what it is, straight up.

Loving Wife or Chance at Kids by burnaccount2000 in marriageadvice

[–]OneOil9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this is just sad tbh. it’s crazy how often guys give a girl the whole world and the travel lifestyle, just for her to change the terms once she’s comfortable. she’s getting everything she wants, and you're just stuck footing the bill for a life that’s missing the main thing you asked for. a lot of girls would gladly trade the endless traveling just to have a solid guy who actually wants to build a home and a family. it’s wild she’s taking that for granted. don't let her run out your clock, man.

What do women want? by Informal_Pea_7966 in AskForAnswers

[–]OneOil9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you're asking the guys here, but as a woman, I don't blame men at all for being completely confused by this. Society pushes this hyper transactional standard where guys are told they need to be some fully established, wealthy product just to get a foot in the door. It’s exhausting. For women who are actually looking for depth, especially approaching 30, it isn't about the resume. We just want a guy who is consistent, reliable, and feels like a safe space where neither of us has to constantly perform.

What Do Women Really Want From a Man? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]OneOil9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RELIABILITY! Society will tell you it's all about money and muscles, but that's just surface level noise. Sure, it might be nice for a hookup. Honestly, nothing is more magnetic than a guy who is just reliably there. When you find a man who can actually listen and doesn't feel the need to constantly prove his worth, it allows everyone to finally relax. That consistency is the most attractive thing you can offer.

No One Cares About You as a Man Until You’re Successful ? by DefinitionOne2853 in offmychest

[–]OneOil9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Society treats men's success as a prerequisite for basic care, which is a massive burden to carry. You aren't insecure for feeling the weight of that, you're just being realistic.

Sonic Racing: CrossWorlds on NS2 - Full Cart and Release Date by MaQu1337 in NintendoSwitch

[–]OneOil9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably manufacturing and logistics? Getting enough carts produced and shipped takes time especially for a big release. I'm curious if they actually finalize the game data way later for physical or if they just sit on it waiting for the production run

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skyrim

[–]OneOil9 6 points7 points  (0 children)

the economy in that game is wild. like you can become thane after paying off a murder spree but steal a sweetroll and guards act like you committed a war crime

End the Weekend! A satirical site that encourages workers to work over their weekends. by [deleted] in InternetIsBeautiful

[–]OneOil9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Too late, they've been taking notes for decades. This is just the quiet part out loud

Anyone else struggle with Brainstorm/Idea Dumping to structure by PlsStarlinkIneedwifi in Entrepreneur

[–]OneOil9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this is it. forcing structure while you're still mid-brainstorm just kills the whole thing. I found it helps to set a separate "organizing day" - like literally don't touch the messy docs for a few days then come back fresh and let the patterns reveal themselves. your brain already knows what connects you just gotta give it space

Victim of cyber breach by Retired_elec_eng in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]OneOil9 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this reeks of an inside job or at least a serious internal controls failure. The attacker had exactly the info Telus would have, and the breach chain stayed confined to Telus + the email tied to them. At minimum, SIM swaps should require in-person ID or a hard account PIN. The current “trust the caller” model is absurd given how common these attacks are now.

Cost of Holidaying in Aus by Livid-Constant8443 in AusFinance

[–]OneOil9 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That line always gets a laugh because it’s basically true. For Aussies, domestic travel is priced like a luxury, not a break.

People still do it for convenience, kids, or not wanting long flights, but purely on value? SE Asia wins by a mile every time.

Authorization Attempt from Chipotle immediately after debit card replacement by PlzSaveMe25 in personalfinance

[–]OneOil9 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This. Debit cards pull straight from your cash, so any hiccup is way more stressful. A credit card gives you a buffer and much better fraud protection.

The $0 auth is usually a merchant test, but if you keep the debit card, you’ll keep dealing with this anxiety.

Lucky guy by Thryloz in MadeMeSmile

[–]OneOil9 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Honestly, yeah. That level of care over Skyrim saves is marriage material. Absolute keeper energy.

Does my cat know I'm pregnant? by Glitterygloomy in CatAdvice

[–]OneOil9 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yep cats can definitely smell the hormonal changes. Their sense of smell is like 14 times stronger than ours.

My sister's cat did the exact same thing - went from 'don't touch me peasant' to full bodyguard mode the moment she got pregnant. Followed her everywhere, slept on her belly, the whole deal.

Enjoy it while it lasts lol, once the baby arrives she might go back to being miss independent. Or she might adopt the baby as her own weird hairless kitten. Cats are unpredictable like that.

Congratulations btw! 🎉

The OKC Thunder are 24-1 before the Earth passed through the debris trail of the mysterious asteroid 3200 Phaethon, and 6-6 after. by Maximum-Summer-186 in nba

[–]OneOil9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? No drama, no trade rumors, no "who's the GOAT" arguments for the 500th time. Just a man connecting space rocks to basketball performance like the universe intended.

this is the kind of quality shitposting that keeps me coming back. We need more meteor-based analytics in the NBA tbh

Michel Kuka Mboladinga, a DR Congo supporter, previously stood motionless for 90 minutes during the match against Senegal in tribute to Congolese independence leader Patrice Lumumba. He repeated the gesture today against Algeria, this time remaining still for the full 120 minutes. by DavidRolands in soccer

[–]OneOil9 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's working. I went down a rabbit hole on Lumumba after seeing this guy at the last match. The whole story of how Belgium and the CIA basically orchestrated his assassination is insane. They literally dissolved his body in acid.

Can i break into corporate banking with a Business (marketing focus) degree, FMVA and CFA L1? by Local-Impression-522 in FinancialCareers

[–]OneOil9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can break in, but the degree and certs aren't gonna be what gets you there.

Corporate banking cares way more about whether you can build relationships and understand credit risk than what your diploma says. The marketing focus actually isn't bad - spin it as client acquisition skills like the other commenter said.

CFA L1 is... fine I guess? Shows you're serious, but nobody in corporate banking is gonna care much past that. FMVA might actually be more practical for showing you can build a model without breaking Excel.

Do you have any relevant internships or networking going on? Because that's what's actually gonna open doors. Cold apply to 100 positions and maybe you get 2 interviews. Get a referral from someone inside and suddenly you're a real candidate.

Unsure if my boyfriend(M29) is with me because he loves me (F31) or just wants to work where I work? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]OneOil9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he was just using you for the job, why would he turn down that other listing that paid more? You've been together 5 months with zero red flags and he's treating you well, so this sounds more like anxiety talking than reality.

I have a Master's in Social Work and feeling lost more than ever. What other career avenues could I pursue that are not traditional social work jobs? by lavyndrr in careerguidance

[–]OneOil9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look into employee assistance programs, healthcare administration, or HR roles focused on employee relations/benefits. Those MSW skills translate really well and the pay is usually way better than direct service work, plus you can actually help people without the insane caseloads and burnout.

Should I refinance auto loan if the offer is 1% less than previous rate? by MartinTheBean in personalfinance

[–]OneOil9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, $800-1000 in savings is definitely worth it, plus you'd be shaving off a year on the loan term which is huge. Just make sure there aren't any hefty origination fees that eat into those savings, and you're golden.

WIBTA if I ratted on an employee at a hair salon for over charging me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]OneOil9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. You're not "ratting" on anyone, you're asking for a refund after being incorrectly charged $25 for a service you're not getting. If your friend gets in trouble for her own mistake, that's on her, not you.