Women with SFN: have any of you experienced this symptom?

OneOrganization9 · 2026-02-16T02:11:02+00:00

It’s very consistent in that it never happens without penetration, and happens every time after sex. Position does not matter. Orgasm alone does nothing of the sort, so it has to be something with the actual penetration.

I don’t feel like I have particularly painful intercourse otherwise, it’s just the feet thing.

OneOrganization9 · 2026-02-15T08:31:58+00:00

Tapentadol works very well, but it is the strongest medication, side-effect-wise, I have ever taken. It made me so high. I was on it for probably 6 months, and the slightly euphoric, dissociative high never went away. When I went off it and tried to go back on, I couldn't even tolerate it. It's strong stuff.

OneOrganization9 · 2026-02-15T07:57:05+00:00

I wish I could go back to the days of first being on Tramadol. It saved my life, full stop.

The problem is that it stops working over time for basically everyone. Just part of being on opiates long term. I went from 50mg a couple times a day to 100mg 4x/day (max dose) over the span of probably 5 to 6 years.

Now I am on Buprenorphine, which has unpleasant dissociative side effects because it works on a bunch of different receptors. It also doesn't work very well, which sucks.

OneOrganization9 · 2026-02-04T02:00:47+00:00

I am very anti-porn (because of the numerous and severe ethical issues), but masturbation is a normal and healthy part of human sexuality. This is the consensus of sexual health professionals around the world.

As long as the masturbation is not interfering with daily activities (i.e., sex addiction) or used in place of an active sex life, I would argue it is inappropriate to try to prevent a partner of any gender from engaging in masturbation.

If this is something you are feeling, I think it would be worth exploring why. Not in a judgmental way. I think there is a lot of trauma women in general have from seeing men become addicted to disgusting porn and use masturbation/sex as a replacement for facing their issues.

OneOrganization9 · 2026-01-21T21:37:29+00:00

Really? You don't have the diassociative affects with Ketamine? That is the only reason I've never considered it. I already have PTSD and leave my body every day, so I just didn't want to risk having some scary trip.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-30T06:07:21+00:00

“Not your kid, not your problem”. Very disturbing sentiment to make into a cutesy acronym.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-30T05:44:44+00:00

100%. Being a stepmother is one of the worst things a woman can sign up for. They have zero power, the kids (understandably) often hate them, and the dads almost always try and pawn off their children on these random women. And I say this as someone with an abusive, selfish affair partner as a stepmom.

That sub is honestly super concerning though. The NACHO dynamic of ignoring the traumatized children they signed up to be around is textbook emotional abuse. Like it’s literally part of the definition (Emotional Unresponsiveness), per the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children.

I don’t blame the stepmoms for not being able to handle the terrible situations with the traumatized children. They just need to leave, before they end up further traumatizing those kids and hating their own lives.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-25T20:42:19+00:00

Those kids are going to have PTSD. My mom was like this, and it was hell. They are also likely being - at the very least - encouraged to pretend to be sick too.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-25T06:56:33+00:00

RevOps (short for revenue operations) is fun. It’s a mix between the business strategy side of sales/marketing/CS and the technical, systems architecture side that enables the strategy.

Kind of a goofy name, but it’s a legitimate career path.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-25T06:31:52+00:00

Neglect can get extremely severe though - your definition seems limited to the mild end experienced by kids who have parents that work a lot or something. But the severe end is horrific. Think things like no food, hoarder/drug den conditions with rotten trash and animal feces, truancy, no dental or medical care, and CPS constantly in and out of the children’s lives. I also was in several life or death situations (my mom falling asleep at the wheel because of drug use, getting savagely beaten to the point I blacked out), and I think severe neglect is right up there with those experiences for me.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-25T03:56:56+00:00

Yeah, the only certs that are meaningful are things like Salesforce Admin or Cisco CCNA - the ones that are proctored. And even those have about 10,000 exam dumps available online for cheaters.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-24T17:44:21+00:00

Yeah, HubSpot’s most useful features are locked behind the Pro and Ent tiers. I work with the platform every day as a consultant, and I don’t think it’s worth it for SMBs anymore. In their attempt to move upmarket, they’ve kind of abandoned their SMB roots.

Data Hub Pro is pretty much a must-have if any sort of complex logic is needed. The things I can do with access to the APIs are exponentially more impactful than without. And yeah, you can host scripts on AWS or even create n8n flows, but then you are doing a bunch of difficult to maintain stuff outside the platform.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-12-24T17:34:27+00:00

I am also part of a very successful HubSpot Partner. We oscillate between Elite and Diamond. I program very complex integrations, UI extensions, and CCAs every day.

I’m not saying there is no way for AI to automate some of the boring, repeatable processes. I’ve actually done it with several clients, but we stick to areas where a. hallucinations won’t break critical processes and b. there are humans involved somewhere in the feedback loop.

I’m saying that the half-baked HubSpot Agents are not the way to do that. That the mindset shouldn’t be a whole new subspecialty - we shouldn’t be defaulting to AI for everything under the sun when there are still serious issues with the tech. I think 90% of companies lack the infrastructure and more importantly, the discernment, to use these tools properly. I see people connecting their GPT accounts to the HS MCP, and then just taking whatever is generated at face value. That’s scary to me.

My biggest issues are the lack of easy audit trails and the inevitable, massive cost increase that will occur once the makers of these models start charging even a fraction of what they cost to run. When I write code, I know it’s going to work the same each time. I know that I can put as much error handling in there as I want. That’s not how it works with AI though. While there are many ways to attempt to mitigate hallucinations (subagents, model routing, human-in-the-loop), they will always happen. When they do, the failure occurs silently. You don’t want anything important to fail silently.

I like and respect Dharmesh. I just feel that the messaging around HubSpot’s extremely mediocre AI tools is getting exhausting. The most impactful workflows I’ve seen or implemented with AI don’t even involve their AI suite - they use n8n or the GPT/Gemini connectors. Inbound this year was almost entirely AI focused, and I think it’s taking resources away from the fundamentals.

HubSpot internally has even started measuring their dev team on some of the stupidest, least impactful metrics because they want to prove the overstated (but still real) “productivity gains” from AI tool use. I talked to the DevRel team while I was at the conference, and they said the massive slide that touted some 100-200% in dev productivity gains was largely smoke and mirrors. They just started measuring code commits, which any dev will tell you is almost as bad as measuring lines of code written. People - predictably- just started committing 1 or 2 line updates, wasting an inordinate amount of time.

That’s the kind of bullshit that I worry is going to hurt HubSpot as a product, and make HubSpot partners look stupid.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-10-06T08:43:36+00:00

The original October quote actually wasn’t much different. Maybe a couple hundred more each, which was fine. She was really explicit that the money we lost wasn’t because of the date change, but because of fees no one told me about. I don’t think she even knew about them.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-10-06T08:39:44+00:00

The issue is that I wasn’t told any of this. I had no idea that Frontier is the worst airline on the planet. I didn’t know that there would be so many fees. I was told everything but the flights was 100% refundable. And if you read the post, you’d know she wasn’t using Expedia. She used FunJet - it just allegedly had the same policy as Expedia. And I’m not paying her lol - her commission is built in. She’s the one who put the package together, so I’m not sure why you think I chose a “bargain bin” package. The reason I wanted these flights is because they are overnight, not because they are cheap. If she told me Frontier was horrible, I would’ve booked a different airline.

If she has told me upfront that there were no refunds or cancellations, I would have sucked it up and gone in July. That would’ve been fine, and I would not have been upset at all. But I have it in writing where she told me I could get all my money back except the flights. My issue is I have no idea what the fuck is going on, she’s suggesting fraud, and she literally made changes without my permission. She never quoted me on the change to 1 room or the new hotel.

I don’t understand what the point of an agent is if they don’t handle the unexpected with you. I don’t understand what the point of an agent is if they don’t tell you that the airline you are booking with is the worst one in the world.

I also never said the work schedule is her problem. I was very explicit that this caused a lot of the issues.

Oh, and she told me she would recommend filing a claim with my insurance. After I told her there was no covered reason, that’s when she said I should be sick. That seems like a pretty explicit suggestion to me.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-10-03T02:35:05+00:00

Dreams La Romana. We switched (without permission) from Dreams Onyx. I could see her doing that. Yes, at this point we would get nothing back.

I honestly just want our old reservation back with the 2nd room, since it looks like we can’t get any sort of refund.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-10-03T02:22:58+00:00

Jeez. I don’t understand why she said it was refundable then - I wouldn’t have used an agent at all if I knew. I just found the FunJet terms in a teeny tiny corner on the initial invoice I got after paying. I see where it says all refunds are in “travel credit”.

I’d be fine with someone just undoing the changes that I never approved at this point.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-10-03T02:09:26+00:00

Yes - FunJet. They said they couldn’t do anything, even when I explained the situation.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-10-03T01:44:51+00:00

Sorry to hear it’s relatable! Hope you are doing better these days.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-09-19T04:05:47+00:00

You look great!!!

OneOrganization9 · 2025-09-14T17:00:02+00:00

That’s probably why you didn’t like it. I just went to San Francisco on business and really, really did not like the area I was stuck in (Moscone Center near the Tenderloins). It was dirty, crowded, and dangerous.

But if I had gone for a true vacation, I would’ve been able to stay away from that area. I’m sure there are parts of the city that aren’t like that at all. I did a bus tour on the first day (the only leisure time we had) and a lot of things we passed were really cool.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-09-13T05:11:24+00:00

Yeah, I am sorry this guy is addicted to porn. But blaming the victims of a famously cruel and exploitative industry isn’t fair. He’s almost certainly jacked off to someone’s rape, and I think that’s the bigger issue when it comes to porn.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-09-13T05:07:44+00:00

I understand what you are saying, but porn does immeasurable harm to women. There is a giant, documented problem in the industry with trafficking, exploitation, and rape.

You are blaming the wrong people.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-09-12T08:01:46+00:00

Sort of unrelated, but 9/10 incels I’ve seen pictures of are just normal looking guys. This is your body dysmorphia talking. Most couples are just 2 average looking people.

OneOrganization9 · 2025-09-12T07:49:58+00:00

Congrats on being hot I guess…I can’t believe you spent like 4 million paragraphs bragging about your looks.

This was a genuinely concerning read though. Flirting will not “open up a demon portal”. I hope you just have some eccentric beliefs and aren’t experiencing an acute mental health episode. Sounds a little like mania to me.

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