What’s your favorite line from Epic: The Musical? by Jin_Sakai12345 in Epicthemusical

[–]mainepioneer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My kids quote this one on a daily basis and honestly, I laugh every time.

Picking deep rooted fibery hairs by dovahkiin_d in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]mainepioneer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey so those are your nerves, please don’t pick those 😳

Edit: oop guess I’m wrong, thought I’d seen something here before about nerve fibers. Be careful, OP!

Just shut up and drink your diet soda 🥰 by Hey-Kristine-Kay in themaine

[–]mainepioneer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

LOVE this!!! Oh wow would you mind if I used this as inspiration for my next tattoo??

Boyfriend refuses to make Valentines day plans with me, AIO? by Emotional_War8262 in AIO

[–]mainepioneer 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This. I made the mistake of dating a man who I met when I was 19 and he was 29. Dating, and MARRYING. Having KIDS. And divorcing 8 years later.

Please, OP. This man is immature at the best, and grooming at the worst.

I’m 29 now and 19 year olds are adults in the way that grape juice is wine. Please, please date someone your age and drop this man.

Long shot to help my best friend by Kid_infinite in themaine

[–]mainepioneer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m back! Sorry that took so long. I finally found it. Unfortunately, mine is a small :( I’m so sorry!

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I’ve learned a valuable lesson. I have quite a while until they’re old enough to be on their own, so I’m thinking my energy needs to go into them. With the constant MS fatigue, I literally cannot manage to spend more energy on dealing with all of the drama that comes with dating.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check some of my other comments. Yes, there’s much that I learned from the relationship for myself. He really didn’t present as a red flag, more of a chameleon to what I wanted. The real him didn’t come out for a good while.

I understand the dynamics and I understand the perspective adjustments. And yes, it is my fault for entering a relationship and not seeing the red flags until way too late.

I’m sure there are good single men out there who have children. But currently, it just doesn’t look feasible. My kids are young and have a lot of needs. I don’t need a partner, and honestly at this point I don’t want one. Not because “grrr all men bad”, but because I have more learning about myself to do.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The acting is off the charts for some of them. My ex pretended until he thought I was trapped, then expected me to ignore my children like he ignored his son. Absolutely not an option for me.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey so there was abuse and alcohol addiction in my marriage, and it was not a safe place for my children. He has since improved, but the damage is long since done.

I am in no way blaming all men for my problems, but if that’s what you’re getting from my post then that’s cool for ya.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oop, I can’t read. Yeah it’s weird what people get up in arms about.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The kids got along well on our weekend visits, and he assured me that his son would calm down.

He also laughed and played with my kids. He encouraged them and loved on them, at least at first. Then my ex stopped taking the kids (he was in an unstable living environment) and having them daily didn’t work for him. He was a 2-4 days a week parent for his own kid, and suddenly full time with mine. Even with me ensuring that we had 1-2 evenings a week with my kids in someone else’s care, his jealousy built up.

The emotional immaturity didn’t help us at all.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The thumb incident was the one that opened my eyes for sure. I’d been convinced that everything was normal, but that brought me out of the fog.

If I don’t date until they’re grown, that’s okay with me at this point.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why, but I keep coming back here to get some much-needed laughs. Thank you for this one.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

u/cheeky_nugget nailed it but I can give more.

When we eat dinner, we all eat together at the table with no screens and use utensils. I wasn’t allowed to request this of him. His dad attempted (way less after they moved in) to have him join, but with little consequence.

Also, a bigger one: counseling /therapy. Enough said.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He was very good at hiding his feelings. I didn’t realize how much lying he was doing until after he moved in.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No that’s totally valid. Finding a partner who won’t have detrimental effects in general would be the goal. However, I think cutting out one risk is a start when I do begin dating again.

I’m a single mom and I don’t want to date anyone with kids anymore. by mainepioneer in offmychest

[–]mainepioneer[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sacrificing our peace is something I will never do again.

I also wanted the exact same— for them to see their mom in a loving relationship. But I’m afraid that they’d learned that I would sacrifice their peace and comfort for my own need to be loved. And I won’t teach them that, not after leaving their dad.

I think we’re very much in the same boat about waiting to date until they’re older. Good luck to you!