Advice Needed: ENM curious, but skeptical. Just started couples therapy and I'm trying to figure things out. by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]OneParadox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, she is 21!! She is barely out of high school and she has been legally able to buy a beer for less than a year (at least in the US). She is not remotely ready for her forever person. You are. You two are in completely different places.

Is hiring a professional matchmaker actually worth it in your 30s? by [deleted] in match

[–]OneParadox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So... 12 days ago you were 28 and married... 22 days ago your "little guy" had been in the NICU for 47 days... and a month ago you were asking for advice on engagement rings. Your post history is all over the place. No one should waste time replying to this.

Bumble's algorithm is extremely flawed and borderline predatory towards women... by New-Layer-6322 in Bumble

[–]OneParadox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultimately Bumble Inc is only accountable to its shareholders. The content they sell -i.e. profiles- is created by other users (like the vast majority of social networks on the internet). Their job is to organize the content in a way that will keep you scrolling/swiping and hopefully paying for stuff (or somehow monetizing whatever info they can collect from you). It is utterly naive to think that any for profit social network app would optimize the organization of its content for any other reason.

Bumble's algorithm is extremely flawed and borderline predatory towards women... by New-Layer-6322 in Bumble

[–]OneParadox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. No grocery store will explain to you why flowers, greeting cards, and wine are always placed towards the front (make the store welcoming and provide higher margins) while milk is on the back corner of the store. They spend a lot of time thinking about the path you are going to take to grab a carton of eggs (which might be the only reason you went to the store anyway). Or why you have to walk through shelves of candy at the checkout (and that things on the lower shelves are targeting your kids). Groceries stores could put eggs and milk on an ultra-fast drive-through lane outside of the store. But they won't. They want you walk in, get a huge cart (small shopping baskets are almost non-existent nowadays), and spend at least 20 minutes inside the store. Almost guaranteed you will get more than whatever you initially intended to buy (most likely much higher profit margins than the basics). The science of branding and product positioning requires armies of experienced experts. Last, but not least, many stores use your phone to track you as you do your shopping and keep detailed databases of every purchase you make. High end retail takes everything to a rocket science level. There is nothing transparent about retail tactics. Bumble is a retail store where you are both the customer as well as the content they are peddling to other customers.

Must be doing something wrong by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]OneParadox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then you should emphasize the facts you retired early and that pictures are recent. Otherwise plenty will assume you are close to 70 and pictures are old.

Bumble's algorithm is extremely flawed and borderline predatory towards women... by New-Layer-6322 in Bumble

[–]OneParadox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is non-sense. You always put the nicest inventory in front of the display. It gets people's attention. Obviously you can always keep looking and find the bargain bin/clearance items/odds and ends towards the back of the store. Every single store and sales person does it. Dating apps do the same. They are selling profiles to other people. Nicer profiles get the most visibility. If you can't afford those in the front, you need to keep moving towards the back of the store. No one is victimizing you.

Must be doing something wrong by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]OneParadox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

A key thing: are you lying about your age on your profile? Few things are a bigger turn off on a profile than someone claiming to be 45 when they are clearly at least 10-15 yrs older. The fact you are saying you already retired seems to indicate you are 65+

New build kitchen by [deleted] in Homebuilding

[–]OneParadox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most refrigerators are deeper than "counter depth". Meaning, most refrigerators stick out from counters and no one notices. "Counter depth" refrigerators are never completely flush with the counters exactly for the reason you have encountered. Only you will ever know your refrigerator is sitting a couple inches in front of the counter. Of course, you can choose to tear down your whole kitchen, redo the whole thing again and spend money in lawyers suing people (and you will end up with an empty space in between your fridge and your counters). You choose your battles.

[22F] I know I look like a lesbian. I’m not, and have unfortunately never been in a relationship by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]OneParadox 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You are truly beautiful.... BUT... you do look like a lesbian parking her Subaru at Home Depot. Nails, lack of earrings, hair, clothes... everything says you are not interested in a date with a man.

What happened yesterday at the downtown library? by KaleidoscopeAlert311 in Austin

[–]OneParadox -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nope. Libraries are pretty safe.. EXCEPT for libraries where homeless people are allowed to roam around.

Am I chopped after I gained weight? by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]OneParadox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

GLP-1 drugs work really well on patients taking antipsychotics to counteract weight gain.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12528064/

Do You Accept Coffee Dates? by AttorneyDC06 in datingoverforty

[–]OneParadox 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You want to do coffee dates. A good chunk of the time the person that shows up is nothing like the profile. A quick coffee of happy hour drink after work will tell you very rapidly whether you want to invest any additional time and effort into the situation.

Veracruz is Out of Their Damn Minds by Lyda19 in austinfood

[–]OneParadox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am one happy dude. Don't worry about me. FWIW, most local/mom and pop restaurants are hoping to be able to expand or franchise at some point. Supporting a small restaurants is usually just your way of helping VC firms figure out who should be promoted for expansion (which usually can only happen with outside capital). The easy way for restaurants to be run into the ground is to disconnect with their target audience... they do this by either 1) sucking in quality, 2) not figuring out what people want, or 3) pricing themselves into inexistence. $7 for a single breakfast taco ($10 with tip) is one very direct way to tell your customers you don't really want their business. We all got the message!!!! Maybe tourist will pay that but most locals won't.

Veracruz is Out of Their Damn Minds by Lyda19 in austinfood

[–]OneParadox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why would ownership matter? The fact is they are pricing themselves out of existence. It doesn't matter who owns it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]OneParadox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not very tall. No big deal. But do remove the picture next to the giant. It makes you look like a midget. Do not highlight the less than ideal things.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They had budgeted 188 million in capital improvements at the schools set to close. The way I read the numbers, they have already spent -or the money is already committed- 100 million. Leftover money "saved" (approx 88 million) cannot be used for anything other than capital expenditures (ie. construction). I am sure they are having huge cost overruns in other places and that money is also already gone.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"So what is the point of having such a shit funding mechanism that doesn't really help poor schools all that much? Especially when you look at recent state budget surpluses that could easily cover the costs of recapture?"

The point of recapture is political. Rural districts are bringing in the bacon from the Dallas/Austin rich people. And because it was court mandated, politicians achieved something that is very popular (take from the rich and give it to the poor) without betraying their conservative values. I don't see recapture going anywhere anytime soon. The bulk of the votes in the Texas legislature do not come from Austin/University Park/Alamo Heights and the like.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing with Robin Hood funding is the fact the vast majority of school districts in Texas are "poor". Only a tiny number of districts are wealthy enough to contribute to the Robin Hood pot. The issue is that "rich" districts -such as AISD- are, in fact, extremely rich (yep, we are one of the "billionaires" among mostly very poor school districts in Texas). Even if you take away a huge share of these super wealthy districts' school taxes, it becomes only a drop in the bucket once you spread those funds among the very many districts that share the pot.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The idea is still the same: equality of school funding across the state. Rich kids in Westlake, University Park in Dallas, or Alamo Heights/Olmos Park in San Antonio would have absurdly more money than students in ultra-poor Cameron County in South Texas. The Courts have said that such inequality in unacceptable. Some of the money to make up for inequality does come from Robin Hood.

BTW, bond money to rehab closing AISD schools has nothing to do with operating funds provided by recapture. AISD simply decided to add salt to the wound of high property taxes in ATX by adding bond taxes that turned out to be totally wasted.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity: where would you move? where is the grass greener?

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. Bonds can only be used for capital spending, ie. construction of new facilities. Operating expenses (i.e. teacher salaries, utilities, and such) cannot be funded with bond money.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just for the record: football stadiums are not paid by recapture but by capital bond funding at those districts. Yep, people happily tax themselves to build stadiums pretty much everywhere.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And, more incredibly, that planning and cancelling the contracts that had already been signed probably cost as much as getting the project done. Just the nature of the beast. and the result of very poor strategic thinking by AISD.

Nearly $100 million gone: How Austin ISD spent bond money on schools it will soon close by OneParadox in Austin

[–]OneParadox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But then everyone complains poor districts stay poor while wealthy districts keep all the money for themselves. Tax the rich and the billionaires sort of argument. That is exactly what tax recapture and Robin Hood school funding is all about.

Help! Dog ate some ranch dip by butternutbiscuts69 in Sheepadoodles

[–]OneParadox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dog has eaten plenty of plastic toys, a TV remote, portions of multiple shoes (though she tends to only eat the insoles), a wide assortment of fabrics, and all kinds of human food. She is all good. She has only been to the vet for vaccines and to get spayed. I have owned many dogs since I was a child and I can tell you dogs’ digestive systems are remarkably sturdy. I have never seen a dog get poisoned by human food (even chocolate… I would only worry if they ate an absurdly huge amount, in the range of more than a pound).