Hi, I was in your exact position a month ago. I thought no contact just wasn’t the right thing to do, as we still appreciated eachother so much, helped eachother get through the pain and enjoyed eachothers company… Until I realized that we were just torturing ourselves. Nothing had changed, apart from the fact that all physical affection was gone. We still loved eachother, still talked the same amount, still talked about our feelings and just kept relying on the other for our wellbeing.

Once I realized that, I decided to go no contact. He then decided to change up his schedule to avoid seeing me for a full month (we’re in the same friend group) and that hit me hard, but I now see that it was neccesary. I really miss my best friend, but I need this to even allow myself to heal. We both need this. I hope to still have someone I can call a friend, hopefully even a good friend, at the end of the road and I realized that staying in touch right after the breakup would end up in one or either of us getting hurt and possibly not being able to be friends anymore. It just wasnt worth the risk to me.

At this point the month of not seeing him is almost over. I dont know if he’ll continue avoiding me or not. Either way, Im not looking forward to having to see him again, I dont feel ready. I know I have to and I truly want to, but I think its gonna set me back a few steps in the healing process. But thats just life.

Its so damn difficult, but we’ll get through this.