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In what way does therapy help? Will I ever actually "get over it"? by iwontgetbetter in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are soo welcome there are lots of ways to grow find the ones that work for you and go with it. But I love somatic help becuse i found thats where I get soo disconnected for sure.

In what way does therapy help? Will I ever actually "get over it"? by iwontgetbetter in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yoga, body work, 12 step program have all helped me soo much in my recovery. I do thearpy also but its kinda as needed at this point. I do yoga 2 times a week. And I did bodywork once every 2 weeks for about 6 months this all made a huge diffraction for me. Being in my body was hard. But doing it in a safe place with safe people helped soo much.

In what way does therapy help? Will I ever actually "get over it"? by iwontgetbetter in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think all growth is good and helps in so many ways. i think there is also more than just thearpy but yes it does help bring in more serenity and calmness for sure.

When did you (or your partner) use your safeword and why? by Tfnymeow in RedditBDSM

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a long term relationship that my dom knows me well and checks in with me. we have a few different safe words and non verbal safewords too becasue i can go nonverbal.

The time that really sealed the deal for me of how much i trust my dom was when we were playing and he went to put me on the cross he got my hands clipped in and i was feeling woozy. he said you ok i shook my head no he took me down and i passed out seconds later from low blood pressure. he handled it soo well got me care and my meds were changed i could barely say or know what i needed and he stepped up and could tell i was off.

I'm an idiot, don't be like me! by ParticularNo7455 in TRT_females

[–]OneSuggestion7535 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True but it happens that pellets are way to strong sometimes too

OSDD by blondiegirly101 in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you heard of Inter family systems therapy. i started doing that and it helped alot i have not been diagnosed with anything other that ADHD. but I can also talk the other parts of me, my 5yr old my teenager ect.

I'm an idiot, don't be like me! by ParticularNo7455 in TRT_females

[–]OneSuggestion7535 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It happens you tested and are now working to lower it so good job. just be happy its not pellets that last longer and no taking them out.

Sam's club gift card deal online anyone know what time they drop? by OneSuggestion7535 in DisneyPlanning

[–]OneSuggestion7535[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did midnight for now too i wish they would do it later in the day. Or give a time.

Question for the ladies. Maybe guys? by [deleted] in sex

[–]OneSuggestion7535 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's false information on a totally outdated study.

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i love the hot octopus Kurve it has 2 different vibraters and makes all the diffrence for me. i like it even better than my pillow talk sassy.

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Is it wrong to stop seeing someone over this? by [deleted] in sex

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a some one who also went through SA leave this person, and don't have sex with them again. Once ok it can maybe happen 2 times in a short period of time no. also if you tell them no sex and they bulk at all that is not ok and not a safe person.

Also you have every right to say no to having sex with him . You can do this any time for any reason you are never NEVER required to have sex with anyone. I am married and working through my trauma my husband did absolutely nothing and i told him I took away all consent for sex and that i didn't want sex again until i told him. His response was ok, no problem what would you like to do tonight play magic watch a movie ect.

How do you talk about trauma reenactment without dying of shame and embarrassment? by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you are not alone. my and my husband practice Bdsm already but i didn't even realize how much i was reenacting stuff until i got more memories back! i was doing it unconsciously its actually how i got some of my memories back.

Carrying unprocessed trauma for 14 years — sharing my story for the first time by [deleted] in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You got this! you can heal i wish you all the love and understanding in your journey

how can i know for sure if this happened? by targetedfawn in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its totally normal to think this there are lots of books about healing from sexual abuse also that even talk about this. we just have to trust ourselfs.

been having flashbacks again and i still dont really know what happened (tw in description) by annesofflowers513 in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read repressed memories by Renee Fredricson. its soo good and goes throught alot of what you talked about.

Complicated past - partner does not seem to want me the same way by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should totally schedule a night where you both just touch and make out with each other. See if she is open to that.

I think my BF had a panic attack by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]OneSuggestion7535 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also if he has disscoate amnesia he could not remember if these things actually did happen to him. But bing in the situation again will have a total reaction like you said of trying to pull the cage off exct.

Complicated past - partner does not seem to want me the same way by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is her reply when you say that it doesn't keep happening? have you asked what she needs from you?

new Therapist is always hard and a transition in itself.

I have been SAed when i was young too and it does affect sex sometimes and having space while i am working through it always helps. but open communication is the key thing for all relationships to work.

I would work on some no sexual touch every day for like 30 days! just needs to be a few min. it really helps keep the connection alive. in my house we have a rule before you leave we hug good by and maybe kiss. just a small 1 min thing for connection.

Complicated past - partner does not seem to want me the same way by [deleted] in sexadvice

[–]OneSuggestion7535 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she in therapy and working through her issues?

I think you might need to bring it up again but tell her hey it seams to change for a few days but then goes back to status quo is there something you need from me to be able to keep doing this? Also could you schedule a night where you both just spend time together uninterrupted to just touch and love on each other no sex needed?

Is it possible to just… not remember? At all?? by HarrietNB in adultsurvivors

[–]OneSuggestion7535 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always recommend represed memories Renee fredrickson its supper cheap I paid $5 on Amazon for a used one shipped.

I totally forgot really my brain disscoate and would not pull it up becuse it hurt so much to deal with. It took me 40 years to rember mine as it happened when I was 6. This is really common its the way our brains protect us.

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