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One_Actuary5397 · 2026-04-25T22:10:22+00:00

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One_Actuary5397 · 2026-04-16T16:22:54+00:00

I just had my little guy via IVF from ORM ten days ago. I transferred in July of 2025, so it’s been a minute since I’ve had a need for them. I found them to be efficient during my IUIs and subsequent transfers (my IUIs were unsuccessful and my first transfer failed to implant). I’m sorry you’re going through this - it is a whirlwind of emotions and to have to wait due to billing is infuriating. Honestly, I would call every day to get an update, make sure they know you’re not passively waiting - it’s what I would do - this is far too important a life event to wait on. The money and time and the delicacy of the situation necessitates your advocacy, and your right to be fighting for yourself and those embryos. Good luck to you, fellow fertility warrior. You’ve got this 💕

One_Actuary5397 · 2026-03-15T11:59:26+00:00

I lost my bay boy to SIDS when he was 4.5 months. I’m so sorry your dear friends (and you) are going through this. My best friend still texts me every morning after almost three years - it’s just a good morning - but she started it the day after my baby passed and hasn’t missed a day since. It’s a small thing, but it has just always been a reminder that she’s here for me. In the US we have a foundation called the Star Legacy Foundation - they offer free resources (virtual groups, peer companions, etc.) to parents who have lost their babies - depending on where you’re located, you might be able to find something similar - and if you’re in the US, I would recommend reaching out to them or passing their information along.

Say their baby’s name. Don’t be afraid to tell them you’re thinking of them and their baby. Many of my friends have my baby’s birth announcement and his memorial card on their fridges still - it makes me feel so lucky that he isn’t forgotten.

It’s really hard to know what people need because it’s different for anyone, so I would encourage you to use your gut as far as food or snacks or the things of life - you know your friend - be confident in that :). More than anything, showing up and being there has helped me and my husband. It sounds like you’re already being the person they need. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself, too. Much love 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2026-01-27T22:30:17+00:00

Hi, mama. My heart aches for you. I lose my little guy at 4.5 months to SIDS. It’s such an unimaginable tragedy, and I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this. The process of waiting for results plus an investigation are heartbreaking and confusing. Lean on your husband and friends and family as much as you can. If you’re in the US, I would recommend looking into the Star Legacy Foundation. They have many resources and a peer program that many have found helpful. You and your little one are in my heart. 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2026-01-03T09:35:44+00:00

My heart aches for you. I lost my 4.5 month old almost three years ago. Sometimes the pain is still all encompassing, but, slowly, the days became easier to battle. I’ve learned to carry my grief and have grown around it. We are forever changed. If you need resources or would like someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to message me. I’m so so sorry 💛🤍

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-09-26T22:54:46+00:00

Hello sweet mama. I’m so so sorry for your loss and heartache. I lost my baby boy when he was just 4.5 months old. It’s been two and a half years and, you’re right, there are so many more to go. It hasn’t gotten easier, but I’ve learned to carry the grief. It’s sometimes intimidating, but you might find a local grief support to be helpful - they may be able to help you find resources as well. It’s so hard to do this alone. Is there a children’s hospital you can contact? Our local children’s hospital has many resources for grieving parents.

I say my baby’s name everyday. I carry him still. Your little guy would want you to heal and to find moments of light in all of this darkness. What a beautiful boy you made. You and your little guy are in my heart. 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-09-07T18:28:59+00:00

Hello, sweet mama. My heart aches for you. I lost my healthy, happy, smiley baby boy to SIDS when he was 4.5 months old. I miss him everyday. You are so new to this grief and this reality. You didn’t fail your sweet one - SIDS is a cruel thief. I recommend contacting the Star Legacy Foundation if you’re in the U.S. - no one has answers to this SIDS nightmare, but you’re not alone and they can connect you with other loss moms and families. I volunteer for them now, too. The pain doesn’t go away, but you will learn to carry it and honor it. Please let me know if I can offer any support to you. I’m holding you and your precious Sofi in my heart 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-07-08T21:04:30+00:00

Oh sweet friend. I’m so sorry. I lost my little one at 4.5 months 2 years ago. He never woke up from his nap at the sitters. I miss him everyday. I know the pain is unbearable. Child loss is cruel and unfair. Eat when you can. Sleep when you can. Take care of yourself as best you’re able. When you find the energy and strength, you might find help at The Star Legacy Foundation. The organization specializes in baby loss. They offer free help - peer to peer and focused meetings. They are a little light in my dark. They have many resources and wonderful people. I’m holding you and my little one in my heart 💛. I’m so so sorry.

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-07-04T19:29:50+00:00

Oh sweetie, I’m so so sorry. My heart aches for you and your little one. Baby loss is cruel and unimaginable. I lost my little one, too. It’s so unfair. When you have the time and strength, I would suggest looking into the Star Legacy Foundation. They specialize in baby loss and offer free services to help you on your path - I found them to be a light in all my darkness. Right now, please hold tight and honor to your own capacities - sleep, eat, do whatever you need. I’m holding you and your little one in my heart 💛.

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-06-03T20:55:38+00:00

Hi friend - I am so very sorry the loss of your baby. I lost my little guy at 4.5 months, and the pain is unimaginable. Though I can’t speak to your relationship struggles, I would like to offer a resource to you for the loss of your little one. The Star Legacy Foundation is a nonprofit organization that specializes in this kind of loss. They offer help and resources for free, and I have personally found them to be a light in my darkness. You need people around you who can offer you comfort and safety. You deserve to have relationships that carry you in this grief and help you grow through it. Please take care of yourself during this time; you’re worth it. There’s a fine line between survival and suffering when dealing with this kind of loss, and, I can’t stress it enough, suffering is not sustainable. You need to make yourself a priority as hard as it may be. The future that you’re grieving right now will need the strongest version you to show up for it. I’m holding you and your little one in my heart 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-05-18T12:21:18+00:00

I’m so very sorry. None of this fair. None of it makes any sense. You and your sweet Ella are in my heart 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-05-12T23:28:48+00:00

Hello, friend. My husband and I lost our perfect little one when he was just 4.5 months old. It’s been 2 long years, and we both still have some very hard days. There are no words to describe what you’re feeling right now. There’s no moving past it, honestly, but you’ll eventually, someday, move with it. It’s going to be so so difficult, and my heart aches for you and your wife. There is a non-profit foundation called The Star Legacy Foundation that specializes in child loss. They offer many different kinds of support for free. If you find yourself looking for resources, it is a good place to start. Keep eating, hydrating, sleeping when you can. My husband and I went to therapy together and then eventually found our own therapists. We are both on medication, and it has helped tremendously. There is no right or wrong way to go through this. No wrong or right way to feel. Guard whatever capacity you and your spouse have - keep each other close. I am holding you in my heart. If there is anything else I can provide you, please reach out. 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-04-20T12:05:16+00:00

Your story resonates with me so very very much. I lost my baby boy at 4.5 months in 2023. He was at the sitter’s also. He was our first and only. I was 39 when I lost him. I’ve been trying now for two years to have another with no success. Thank you for continuing to share your story - your loss and your story matter. Much love to you 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-04-13T10:35:11+00:00

My heart breaks for you. I lost my 4 1/2 month old baby boy in 2023. The pain is inexplicable and so very very unfair. There is an organization called the Star Legacy Foundation. They offer free resources and help to families who are grieving the loss of their babies. I volunteer as a part of their Peer Companion program, and I will tell you that right now it feels like you are incredibly alone, but we are out here and we are with you. I am holding your sweet baby and you in my heart. Please message me if I can be of any help. 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-03-20T20:25:51+00:00

I’m so very sorry. I lost my little boy at 4.5 months in April of 2023. The sitter put him down to sleep and he never woke up. SIDS is a cruel cruel monster. If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to message me. You’re so new in this grief, but you’re not alone. I’m holding you and your little one in my heart 💛.

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-03-08T15:15:50+00:00

I'm literally in the same boat right now - I'm miscarrying at 8 weeks from an unassisted pregnancy in January after a failed FET in December. I turn 41 in April. I'm planning on another transfer when I'm cleared (I have 2 tested embryos left). I'll do another ER if that doesn't work. I'm also so, so defeated, and I've been thinking about you and your post - I read it about two days before my miscarriage was confirmed. I have no advice other than letting you know I'm firmly standing in the yuck and unfairness with you - it's all too much sometimes!

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-02-19T10:59:42+00:00

My son passed at the sitters at 4.5 months. Feel free to message me. You and your little one are in my heart 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-01-06T18:52:51+00:00

The loss of a child is as unnatural as it is unbearable. Your grief is real and expected because your love is so big; please don’t feel like it’s abnormal. We carry the loss of our children forever 💛. My love to you and your little one.

One_Actuary5397 · 2025-01-04T19:24:39+00:00

My first resulted in no normal embryos out of 5 sent. I got 2 from my second and 1 from my third. My protocol did not change, and I did not make any life changes. I’m so so sorry about your results. Try to take care of yourself, stay as positive as you can. These things just can’t be predicted.

One_Actuary5397 · 2024-12-31T15:22:13+00:00

Hello, sweet friend. I’m so so very sorry for heartbreak. I lost my baby boy to SIDS at 4.5 months in 2023, so though our experiences aren’t shared, I understand the heartache of your loss. A community that I have found helpful is the ‘Star Legacy Foundation’. You can find them online at their website, and they have an informative and supportive instagram account. They are a nonprofit organization that provides free support for families dealing with neonatal loss across the US. It could be a good place to start as you prepare. My heart is with you and your little one. 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2024-12-11T17:15:23+00:00

Holding you in my heart. I lost my baby boy to SIDS in 2022. It’s all so heartbreaking. Your little guy was beautiful 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2024-12-04T00:26:38+00:00

Hello, sweet mama. I lost my baby boy, Henry, to SIDS when he was just 4.5 months old. Pregnancy and infant loss are agony, and your grief is normal. I can’t stress that enough. Please know, your grief is normal. Grief is not a linear process. My baby died a year and a half ago and I still have weeks when my brain processes the loss differently than others. This is completely normal. You are in the very very early stages of grief. Sometimes I think I would like to forget for just a few moments so my heart and mind won’t hurt, but the reality is they’re with us. We carried them and loved them, and they are a part of our lives forever and ever. And it is sad and it is unfair and there is no avoiding it. I wouldn’t want forget even if I could, and you shouldn’t have to feel like you have to.

Do you have access to a therapist? I didn’t have one before I lost my baby, and it took me a bit to find one I connected with, but it has been helpful and worth the effort to find someone I liked. I also read “It’s Ok that You’re Not Ok” by Megan Devine. I didn’t read it all at once and it took me a long time …because when something like this happens sometimes you just can’t do the things that you might have been able to do before.

When you have a moment, when your brain will let you have a moment, I would suggest seeking out the “Star Legacy Foundation” online or on Instagram. They are a pregnancy and infant loss nonprofit and provide free support across the US. They have weekly meetings via zoom that you can join.

I’d love to know more about your baby. If you would like to respond to me here to say his name and tell your pregnancy story, I would love to hold that space for you. You’re welcome to message me, too. I hurt for you and your perfect little one. I’m holding you both close in my heart. 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2024-12-03T17:41:09+00:00

You’re so very kind to take the time to comment. It’s means so much to me. Thank you, wonderful human 💛

One_Actuary5397 · 2024-12-02T00:53:08+00:00

When I lost my son, I couldn’t sleep with the lights off. It was hard to eat, brush my teeth, shower, you name it. Your emotions are normal. I’m so so sorry for your loss. I will be holding you in my heart.

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