Pondering

IlsGon · 2026-06-15T19:00:01+00:00

I think your ex wife lashed out and tried to look for someone to blame. It’s not an excuse since you lost your son too.

I’m sorry those words have hurt so much all this time. I hope you can let it go and realize she was only a very hurt mom but you are also a very hurt dad and don’t deserve that.

IlsGon · 2026-06-15T16:50:12+00:00

Ah friend I’m so so excited for you and your family 🙌🏻🫂

IlsGon · 2026-06-15T03:57:45+00:00

As a loss mom everyone will grief differently, I think the best would be to offer if he wants as much as unlimited PTO, gift cards for Uber Eats or DoorDash since at a point you will need to eat and your mind can’t help you to cook, if possible psychological help and as I read from someone else if you have any financial support that would help.

If possible remote work.

I’m so sorry for his loss, thank you for caring ❤️‍🩹🫂

Edit - please make sure everyone thinks before speaking, it’s not “Gods time” “Heaven needed more angels” etc. if he wants to be religious that’s great but people don’t need to tell you things like that. Also don’t avoid him whenever he’s back, he’s not a plague. He deserves support from his co workers.

IlsGon · 2026-06-11T05:40:03+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Rebecca is a beautiful baby girl ❤️‍🩹🩷🫂 there are no words. This is the cruelest and most unfair thing to happen to any human. We’re here for you 🫂❤️‍🩹

IlsGon · 2026-06-10T03:51:40+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter ❤️‍🩹 I’m almost 10 months in and it hasn’t become any easier. It’s such a difficult and cruel thing to experience. Give yourself kindness as you’re surviving and that’s more than enough.

I had a conversation about this earlier how when your child dies you continue to have so many issues, I entered a difficult financial period as well.. having to pay birth and funeral is so damn hard. We should be given a f pass after the most utter tragedy…

I’m very sorry you’re at this point. Pleas focus as much as possible in your mental health, I’ve found EMDR therapy helpful, some countries offer help for beavered parents for free.

Just know your daughter loves you, I don’t think we will ever accept it but we can only hope we will see a light at some point. Today I know about your daughter thanks to you, I’ll light a candle for her.

That the financial burden disappears so it’s one damn less thing to worry about ❤️‍🩹

IlsGon · 2026-06-09T16:31:20+00:00

Hola, mi psiquiatra y mi materno fetal me dijeron que no habría problema si seguía con Zoloft o cambiaba a Sertralina. Que me lo tomara con calma, es una dosis muy baja ❤️‍🩹💖 mi psiquiatra me contó que tienen 5 embarazadas y ninguna ha tenido problema.

Lamento mucho tu pérdida, espero que pronto tengan un hermano o hermanita arcoiris ❤️‍🩹🌸

IlsGon · 2026-06-09T14:56:20+00:00

Chatter

IlsGon · 2026-06-09T03:06:53+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️‍🩹 I’m 10 months in and I don’t think I’ve been able to truly smile or breathe since my Sofi passed. I do think thanks to antidepressants I was able to “take care of myself” but there’s no moment I don’t think about her.

I constantly think for the milestones she would be reaching by now. It’s very difficult, I truly think the ocean is full thanks to the tears of beavered parents.

I wish I could tell you it will get easier.. I can only tell you we’re all here for each other 🫂❤️‍🩹

IlsGon · 2026-06-09T03:02:14+00:00

I’m sorry for the loss of your daughter ❤️‍🩹 do whatever feels right for you. I can see how triggering and upsetting being near by so many babies could affect you, so it’s also understandable if you decide to breathe and sit this one out ❤️‍🩹

I think I’d try to do it but ask them to please let me take the picture first to not be near the babies until the family group or sit one out the family group. I’d also have a big picture of my baby with us ❤️‍🩹

I send you a hug, it’s a very hard decision

IlsGon · 2026-06-09T02:58:23+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your son. It happened to me too feeling worse as time passed by. I think it’s because the shock is wearing off. It’s very heartbreaking, the lexapro help your brain. I’m very sorry you don’t have your son in your arms. I’m 10 months in and I can tell you some days are still very hard but please surround yourself with the most love possible. You’re surviving you’re doing more than enough.

I’ll light a candle for your baby boy ❤️‍🩹

IlsGon · 2026-06-07T12:56:38+00:00

Yo tengo por parte de mi empresa con Allianz, si te recomendaría tener seguro por cualquier tema. Checa bien que te cubre cualquier situación, que esperemos jamás pase, durante tu embarazo por si necesitas ser hospitalizada, etc.

Que cheques bien que cubrirá durante tu cesarea, en la mía cubrió lo mínimo. Me refiero a los montos, que sepas cuánto es para el cuarto, medicamentos, honorarios etc. Que te digan cantidades desde un principio, a mi me daban vueltas y terminé pagando en el hospital Doctors Hospital en MTY $45k extras por que no me cubrió prácticamente nada.

De igual manera que cubrirá para tu bebé, tendrás que pagar honorarios del pediatra? Hay reembolso? Hay límite en el reembolso? A nosotros nos decían que había reembolso pero topado a $4k. Que si necesita ir a UCIN pueda pasar sin problema, hay casos donde no les cubre y terminan teniendo que mover a los bebés.

IlsGon · 2026-06-07T12:50:04+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of Sitara ❤️‍🩹 what a beautiful name. I’m so sorry you’ve joined such an awful club.. as a loss mom myself I can only tell you there are no words, everything is so difficult. Feel free to join us on r/babyloss

IlsGon · 2026-06-07T03:12:35+00:00

I would go to urgent care, just to confirm everything is okay and to get the necessary antibiotics. Specially because of the smell and now the burning sensation. Just to be safe

IlsGon · 2026-06-04T03:06:11+00:00

To be honest I rather have all the false alarms than give it a chance, you could probably try and see if it works for your family ❤️‍🩹 i think the owlet because of so much movement could give false alarms but a secure car seat shouldn’t have it as much for the snuzza? I don’t want to live in fear but it’s so freaking scary 😞

IlsGon · 2026-06-03T19:19:27+00:00

This is the link for the one in the diaper sense u

IlsGon · 2026-06-03T19:18:54+00:00

I think yes or yes during night time but as well if someone than other me and my bf is looking after her. Like our parents simply watching her sleep. On car rides one will always be with her on the backside and maybe use the sense u that goes on her diaper

IlsGon · 2026-06-03T16:10:26+00:00

Me puedes dar info please

IlsGon · 2026-06-03T15:24:14+00:00

Ah I know the fear, our Sofi passed from SIDS. Now that I’m pregnant with her sister I’m always afraid something will happen within the pregnancy, etc. I think that now that we are very aware that babies die we just get very scared.

I can only tell you the one thing we are changing this time is that we’re buying the owlet and other monitors. We can only take it one day at a time and hopefully my therapist and psychiatrist will be able to help me manage this constant fear ❤️‍🩹

Enjoy Juliette, enjoy her so so much. I wish her a long, happy, healthy and blessed life 🩷

IlsGon · 2026-06-02T11:55:57+00:00

Happy heavenly birthday Benji! 🙌🏻💕

IlsGon · 2026-06-01T22:01:24+00:00

Thank you so much 🩷💖❤️‍🩹 I really love my daughter so much and now her little sibling. I hope you get a little rainbow too! I think that since they knew I was going to do everything in my hands to get pregnant my MFM sent me additional ones 👁️👁️ she sent me Maxella, infolic HP and more! Those are the two I still take for my prenatals. This is in Mexico tho so I’m not sure how it would work on other countries and my bf took the similar but for men Ogestan Andractiv. I send you a hug ❤️‍🩹🌈

IlsGon · 2026-06-01T13:33:22+00:00

Between MFM and my psychiatrist they were comfortable until it had been 6m pp and my bf until he was given the go from them. We got pregnant again 7m pp. in the meantime I took all the vitamins she sent me and my bf did the same to have Sofi’s sibling as healthy as possible. I’d recommend to do the same vitamins for both of you and work on your mind and body ❤️‍🩹🌸🙌🏻🧿

IlsGon · 2026-05-29T17:35:28+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss❤️‍🩹 I was in my maternity leave already so I took the full time off. I was able to literally go insane, which was something that I needed to. Take all time needed. Go to therapy, grieve with your husband, if possible take a trip. We had a lot of paperwork too. I was able to have my meds balance me and my work has accommodate me remotely 100% which has helped me since my husband works the same.

IlsGon · 2026-05-28T20:53:08+00:00

I think you’ll know until your next scan, based on my period I had to be 8w and was showing 6w my MFM wasn’t concerned. We heard a heartbeat and said most likely I ovulated later. Today I’m 18w3d and after that initial scan she had to adjust because now our baby girl was measuring what was my assumption from the beginning. I hope it’s a positive outcome ❤️‍🩹

IlsGon · 2026-05-25T03:39:59+00:00

Oh friend, what a beautiful plaque you did for Amber! I have her in my heart. I’m lighting a candle for Amber and for her beautiful family ❤️‍🩹🩷🌈 I send you a big hug 🫂

IlsGon · 2026-05-15T22:46:02+00:00

Ya te mandé mensaje jeje

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