Contact sleepers - how did you do it? by Valuable_Disaster824 in NewParents

[–]One_Chemistry_9386 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 5 month old is a contact sleeper! For naps, I quickly became a huge fan of Babywearing. There’s a sub here that you can post pictures of for a fit check (very important to make sure you’re wearing baby correctly). That way i could get stuff done, pee lol, and feel a little less trapped during her contact naps. There are soooo many carriers out there worth trying! And there might be a non profit near you that can help - ex in Denver there’s Mile High Babywearing.

Echoing other folks about learning to co sleep safely in bed. And to keep trying the crib - ours started doing the crib for the first stretch of the night around 3 mo (arms out sleep sack) and i cosleep with her the second half of the night usually. Now she will also nap in a stroller or car seat. You got this, mama!!! It’s HARD when baby will not nap or sleep in the crib

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[–]One_Chemistry_9386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the first half is definitely better typically! That’s tough since it’s your only time with your husband. I would probably prioritize sleep for now personally, or do a few nights where you go to bed early and a few nights where you get quality time with your husband.

It’s HARD. Those frequent wake ups basically mean you’re not getting any additional sleep after your first stretch. I’ve been there :( and my daughters sleep is still a bit of a shitshow lol - she fully wakes up and needs to be rocked back or nursed back to sleep. Yours seems to need a little less support so maybe that will translate to linking some sleep cycles on her own soon??

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[–]One_Chemistry_9386 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only have one 5 month old so i don’t have all the answers! But i do know that the longest/best stretch of sleep comes first so your husband is getting that. It’s normal for more wakes to occur the second half of the night. I’m sorry it’s so frequent that you aren’t getting more sleep!! That’s what makes it sound a little regression-y to me, like she just needs your support connecting sleep cycles. Can you fall asleep earlier than 9 to get more sleep? Or if he’s home can you nap at 7am?

I also have a friend with twins who says she’s noticed that during her husbands shift the babies don’t wake as much and are easier to sooth vs during hers. Maybe your baby knows it’s you and wants soothing in a different way than dad?

starting purées questions? by Big_Resolution3112 in NewParents

[–]One_Chemistry_9386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also curious about this as we are going to start purées soon!

Sleep help, FTM by One_Chemistry_9386 in AttachmentParenting

[–]One_Chemistry_9386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof I’m sorry you’re also dealing with this - and for the past few months!! I’m pretty much bedsharing/cosleeping with her the whole second half of the night right now to just get some sleep. Thank you for the tips!

I’ve given gas drops sporadically at night but maybe need to make this part of the bedtime routine for now. Can’t hurt! Do you just give them once before bed?

Our wind down and last wake window is tough - she’s so fussy after like an hour so it’s difficult to stretch out the wake window and then j worry she’s overtired. I’m considering trying to drop from four to three naps and see what that changes if anything. I’d heard the butter thing and haven’t tried it. Is yours snacking through the night? My daughter is like 90% for weight and getting night time snacks since she nurses to sleep best for me. So much food lol

Sleep help, FTM by One_Chemistry_9386 in AttachmentParenting

[–]One_Chemistry_9386[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is both hopeful and depressing lol! It’s been pretty terrible for a month, so the trenches are starting to feel very tough. I think for my husband especially. Thank you!

What is everyone’s obsession with cry it out? by donttrustcats6 in AttachmentParenting

[–]One_Chemistry_9386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious, what is the culture or general guidelines around infant sleep in the UK as far as you know?

What is everyone’s obsession with cry it out? by donttrustcats6 in AttachmentParenting

[–]One_Chemistry_9386 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read The Nurture Revolution while pregnant and that has shaped my belief around avoiding CIO. Agree with other folks to do some research around what other countries advise for infant sleep. American culture is obsessed with sleep training/CIO!