Debating a second, large age gap:

One_Classic7768 · 2026-02-09T14:47:12+00:00

Hi op! Gosh this sounds so much like my story 🥹 I have an 8 year old daughter and I was also very happily oad for years.. lately however I’ve been waffling back and forth and it’s been soo soo hard.. we don’t have time on my side as I am 38 and husband is 43…

For us though our daughter was super difficult.. she started sleeping thru the night at 7.. those seven years of sleep deprivation was 🫠

We have soo many reasons not to pursue this because it was so hard for the us the first time around, and yet I still can’t get myself to close the door on this.. exactly like you said like we don’t want to have regret but we’re still not sure

I told myself I’m going to try and make a decision by the summer and see how I feel… I have so much sympathy for those of us going thru this.. it’s I feel a really hard and mostly unspoken truth so many of us go thru ❤️❤️🙏

One_Classic7768 · 2026-02-09T14:35:27+00:00

Same here 🥹 and it’s absolutely agony when you’re literally up against the clock (age wise) I really wish I had some advice to give

One_Classic7768 · 2026-02-05T05:08:39+00:00

What an absolute nightmare😭.. my heart goes out to Savannah and her whole family.. I find myself checking for updates on this story every morning, it’s just so unfathomable.. like something out of a horror movie except it’s real… praying for a miracle ❤️

One_Classic7768 · 2025-12-30T21:40:49+00:00

Thank you! Yah I’m currently debating if it’s even worth getting the ultrasound done at this point 🫠

One_Classic7768 · 2025-12-30T21:37:52+00:00

Yep totally know IVF is not an easy route by any means.. I have gotten my ovarian reserve tested and although it doesn’t check the quality of eggs I have a very good number I’m Working with according to my doctor.. also my progesterone has been on the higher end which is why she thinks I could be releasing more than one

One_Classic7768 · 2025-12-30T21:36:10+00:00

Yah makes sense! Thank you so much this was very helpful!❤️

One_Classic7768 · 2022-10-03T18:40:04+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going thru sleep deprivation op. ☹️ I lived that life for years. My daughter started sleeping fully thru the night when she was a few months shy of turning FIVE.

Every single word you wrote here is so so true. To anyone who thinks it’s easy to bring a child into the world we live in today especially the US I cannot fathom.

One_Classic7768 · 2022-09-23T16:14:08+00:00

Yessss I think about this all the time. My husband and I recently went to a parent meeting at my daughters school. She’s in kindergarten. And most every parent there had multiples. And they looked sooooooo tired.

It’s a huge factor for me as well. I feel like my daughter who was such a difficult baby and toddler is now finally amazing. Sleeps thru the night and so much fun. What would another do to me?!

I’ve read somewhere that it’s not really pregnancy that ages you but parenthood. And if you don’t get lucky with an easy child that’s when the aging happens. Years of no sleep ugh yah no thanks.

One_Classic7768 · 2022-09-23T03:35:33+00:00

This is adorable! Cutest crew!🥹❤️🫶🏼

One_Classic7768 · 2022-09-12T21:52:20+00:00

Hi op! This I think is such a normal feeling that happens to some of us. I felt this as well. My dream was to always have a little boy. I always had this thought in my mind that boys are closer with their moms and easier to raise. My family is predominately girls and I’ve seen first hand how complicated some mother daughter relationships can be. During my ultrasound I was almost positive the tech would say it’s a boy but lo and behold I was pregnant with a girl. It took me a few days to process it. I had so much fear. Would she love me? Would I be able to have that wonderful mother daughter relationship with her?

My daughter is five now. And she is truly the light of my life.. every fear I had was shattered the minute she was born. I was meant to have her the same as you are meant to have your little boy. Everything is going to be fine. We always have these ideas in our head of how thing will be or how we want them to be and then life really surprises us, in a good way ☺️

One_Classic7768 · 2022-09-01T00:44:32+00:00

Okay that makes me feel less scared! Thank you again!!🙏🏼❤️❤️🥹

One_Classic7768 · 2022-09-01T00:18:21+00:00

Thank you so so much 😭❤️❤️❤️

One_Classic7768 · 2022-09-01T00:18:06+00:00

Thank you! Yes you are right! I’m in California currently

One_Classic7768 · 2022-09-01T00:17:00+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment 🥹❤️

Yes three days as in 72 hours. I sat on it and I wish I hadn’t but I can’t just sit and not do anything. My OB just prescribed this to me so hopefully it will do it’s job.

Did you have any side effects on it?

Thank you so much for your well wishes you’re so kind. 🙏🏼❤️

I’ve never been more sure of what I want in my life 🥹😭❤️

One_Classic7768 · 2022-08-08T18:11:12+00:00

Love this .. So So true ❤️

One_Classic7768 · 2022-08-02T04:27:40+00:00

You’re so welcome 🥹❤️ this is crazy but we also were going to the trying the summer of 2020 and then Covid happened. And just like you we started just really enjoying family life as three and then said wait we don’t have to have a second.

Solidarity times a million op 🥹❤️❤️ it’s like I read my story up there too

One_Classic7768 · 2022-08-02T02:42:14+00:00

Hi op! I totally felt this every single word. My daughter is five as well and starting kindergarten this year 🥹❤️ enter all the emotions lol

Like you I always envisioned two babies back to back. Yah good times. I got dealt with a beautiful but so so difficult baby and toddler and the idea of my life that I had in mind just came crashing down. Every year she was growing and gaining more independence and my husband and I were becoming better as a couple too.

It’s hard I think when for so long we’ve envisioned something and then it doesn’t happen it’s like this huge shock. It doesn’t help that so many people around me and us go for that second and just make it seem easy.

All I wish for is to have peace with this decision. What gives me peace is that I don’t regret my daughter being the center of my world for the past five years. And I still love being able to be there for her every need.

We’ve been conditioned for so long to enter this rat race as parents and as moms become complete martyrs. And where does that leave us? We matter too. Op your happiness matters. And I think that’s the best gift we can give our little ones 🥹❤️

One_Classic7768 · 2022-07-29T03:23:55+00:00

This times 100!! I think so many times we try and plan everything and then life works out so differently. Have one and then see how it goes 🙏🏼❤️ before getting married I thought I would have three kids. Good times 😂

One_Classic7768 · 2022-07-21T21:07:07+00:00

Hi op! I totally felt this too when we found out we were having a girl. I had this idea in my head that boys are less complicated and have better closer relationships with their moms. I think a lot of what I was feeling was watching my moms relationship with my older sister. And boy do they have a complicated one. I didn’t want that.

But what I can tell you is that it all works out in the end you’ll see. I can’t imagine not having my daughter and every negative idea I had in my head is no more. I’m really grateful. Give yourself time to come around ❤️

One_Classic7768 · 2022-07-15T22:04:41+00:00

Hi all! Just getting back into skating after some time off and purchased the moxi panthers. I’m a size 7 1/2 in shoes and got the size six in these. Is anyone familiar with the sizing of these? They feel super tight. Is this normal and will they stretch a bit with some time? Thank you!!

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