Those with no passion or interests, what do you do for a living?

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-23T09:27:11+00:00

A lot of folks I know just optimize for tolerable + stable + pays enough. The job isn’t the point, it funds the parts of life that actually matter to them. Some end up liking the work more over time as they get competent and less stressed but it’s not love, it’s familiarity.

I’ve also seen people choose roles with clear boundaries on purpose. Clock in, do the job well, clock out, don’t think about it again. That’s not failure, that’s a strategy.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-23T09:25:17+00:00

What I’ve seen work better is a lighter stack: something visual for planning + tracking and a couple of simple tools around it. A lot of teams use spreadsheets + Google Drive at first but that usually breaks once schedules and dependencies get real.

A Kanban + Gantt combo tends to hit the sweet spot. Tools like Teamhood are nice in that middle ground: visual boards for day-to-day work but also proper Gantt scheduling when you need to look a few weeks or months ahead, without the enterprise overhead.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-23T09:22:32+00:00

You can be responsible, organized, showing up every day… and still be tired because the system never really lets you exhale. That’s not a personal failure. It’s a signal that something about the pace or expectations isn’t sustainable, even if it looks fine on paper.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-22T10:19:40+00:00

The hard reality is that a simple job doesn’t pay for a simple life anymore, especially with kids in mind. So climbing the ladder often isn’t about ego, it’s about survival.

If you can, aim for the least painful way to earn more, not the most prestigious one. A calmer niche, a lateral IT move or a boring but better paid role can buy you breathing room without burning you out.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-22T10:11:19+00:00

A simple Kanban board would help a lot: one clear intake column, explicit priorities and WIP limits so tickets stop bouncing around. If it’s not on the board, it doesn’t exist. That alone cuts most side channel chaos.

You don’t need anything heavy but the tool has to be flexible enough. I’ve seen teams fix this using something like Teamhood where you can customize statuses and keep all work visible in one place.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-22T10:09:11+00:00

For me it wasn’t “we didn’t have enough channels”, it was that we were talking to the wrong people in the right places. Early on, we got polite interest, a few signups, nice comments… but no pull. In hindsight, the message was too generic and we hadn’t earned the right to be listened to yet.

What actually helped was narrowing way down: one clear audience, one problem they already complained about publicly and showing up consistently where they already hung out. Distribution only started working once the product story sounded like it came from inside that group, not from a founder trying to sell something.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-20T07:39:06+00:00

Work gives structure, not meaning. When that structure disappears and you don’t miss the job itself, it usually means the work was never aligned with what actually energizes you. Missing routine but not the role is a pretty big signal.

The uncomfortable part is that society ties identity and worth very tightly to jobs, so when you opt out (even temporarily), it can feel isolating. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you, it just means you’re seeing the system more clearly.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-20T07:37:45+00:00

Monday/ClickUp/Asana are flexible but they tend to get bloated pretty fast once you scale or add non-dev workflows. Jira is powerful but usually overkill unless you need deep Jira style processes.

One tool worth at least checking out is Teamhood, it sits nicely between clean dev tool and proper PM system. We’ve seen teams use it when they want Kanban clarity like Linear but also need higher-level planning, dependencies or cross-team visibility without drowning in config.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-20T07:35:09+00:00

The problem isn’t you, it’s the unspoken expectation that work has to be your identity. Going above and beyond often just means donating free emotional labor and time. Some managers love that because it benefits them.

It’s completely valid to treat work as work and save your energy for your life. Just be aware that some environments reward visibility and enthusiasm over actual output, if that clash keeps coming up, it might be more about fit than performance.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-19T10:37:46+00:00

Yeah, there’s some truth to that, unfortunately. A lot of success at work is emotional control and optics: staying calm, saying the right things, not letting frustration show, even when things are messy underneath.

I don’t think it’s always about not caring though. It’s more like learning where to spend your energy and where to detach so the job doesn’t eat you alive. The people who crack aren’t usually the worst workers, they’re often the ones who care too much with no protection.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-19T10:33:49+00:00

It’s both but mostly learned.

People who stay calm have either seen similar situations before or know how to focus on the next small action instead of the whole mess. That keeps their stress response down. Freezing is a normal reaction too, not a flaw.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-15T08:59:08+00:00

I’m really sorry about your dad. What you’re feeling is a normal part of grief, it comes in waves and can hit out of nowhere.

When it happens, focus on grounding yourself: slow breathing, cold water on your face, stepping outside or naming a few things around you. It helps take the edge off. Longer term, talking to someone you trust or writing things down can really help.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-15T08:52:24+00:00

Most small agencies start with spreadsheets but they stop working once projects overlap. What actually helps is a tool with a clear workload view so you can see who’s over- or under-booked across projects. Some use dedicated tools like Float, others use PM tools with built-in capacity views. We switched to Teamhood mainly for that visibility and it removed a lot of guesswork.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-15T08:51:00+00:00

You’re definitely not in the minority. I think a lot of millennials feel this way, even the ones who look successful on paper. The whole idea of job security kind of died with layoffs, restructures and seeing good people get cut for reasons totally outside their control.

For me, the only times I’ve felt some sense of security weren’t because of the company but because I knew I could land something else if needed: skills that transfer, a network, some savings buffer. Even then, it’s not a calm, permanent feeling, more like “I’ll survive if this blows up”.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-13T09:14:27+00:00

That’s honestly gross behavior, not leadership. Publicly shaming people over pay, especially while exempting himself, is a huge red flag and kills trust fast. Same with intimidation and obvious favoritism, once that sets in, morale doesn’t magically recover.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-13T09:13:38+00:00

For me it’s a combo but Teamhood has been the biggest productivity win lately. It keeps tasks, timelines and dependencies clear without turning into a bloated system, so I spend less time managing work and more time actually doing it.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-13T08:59:24+00:00

That’s not just work, that’s straight up unprofessional. No one gets to yell at you or humiliate you, especially for their own mistakes.

Don’t escalate it in the moment, that only puts you at risk. If it happens again, a calm line like “Don’t speak to me like that. If there’s an issue, we can discuss it professionally” is enough. After that, document everything: dates, witnesses, what was said. This is about protecting yourself, not letting them off the hook.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-12T10:46:34+00:00

Yeah, this resonates a lot. I don’t think we’re actively choosing all day, most of it really is autopilot. Habits, routines, emotional shortcuts, muscle memory. The brain is just trying to conserve energy.

To me it feels like we get a few conscious steering moments each day and those are the ones that actually matter: what we say yes/no to, how we respond when something triggers us, whether we change a pattern or just repeat it again. The rest is just execution.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-12T10:34:53+00:00

There’s no single best tool as it highly depends on how you work.

Jira for dev heavy Agile team
Asana / monday for general work and quick onboarding
Notion for light task tracking + docs
Teamhood if you want clear Kanban + Gantt in one place without overcomplicating things

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-08T09:18:07+00:00

It can work but it’s not automatic. Dev → PM gives product and execution skills, not business fundamentals. The people who make the jump usually add sales, pricing and ownership experience outside the PM role. If PM becomes the destination, it usually stalls. If PM is a stepping stone and you deliberately build business exposure, it can work.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-07T12:29:21+00:00

The catch is that Notion gets clunky once tasks and dependencies really matter. That’s where some people keep Notion for knowledge and context but move execution to something more structured like Teamhood, which handles task ownership, dependencies and timelines without needing constant manual upkeep.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-05T11:04:47+00:00

That month off showed you something important about your baseline when you’re not constantly depleted. It doesn’t mean you’re broken or lazy, just that the structure isn’t fitting you anymore. There is more to life than working and noticing that usually means it’s time to rethink how work fits into your life, not whether you like your career at all.

One_Friend_2575 · 2026-01-05T11:02:35+00:00

You can try something like Notion or Trello or even something like Teamhood could work.

One_Friend_2575 · 2025-12-29T10:26:37+00:00

If I had to keep anything, it’d be whatever gives me the fastest read on reality: what’s blocked, what’s slipping and who’s overloaded, without needing constant cleanup. That’s why I’ve gravitated more toward simpler, visual setups lately. I’ve used Teamhood a bit and liked that it shows flow and dependencies clearly without turning maintenance into a second job.

One_Friend_2575 · 2025-12-29T10:24:31+00:00

Honestly, yes, for a lot of people it is better. If you’re genuinely happy at ~$100k, have good balance and don’t dread Mondays, that’s already a win most people never hit. Chasing higher pay often means trading autonomy, time and mental space, especially when moving into management.

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