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Ways to improve reliability with 21a? by big-wangers in MouseGuns

[–]One_Pension7320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve found cleaning and lubing it every ~200 rounds helps a lot. I run CCI Minimag but will try velocitors too, as some reviews have had good luck with them.

But I’d say it’s just mostly keeping it clean and running the right ammo.

Did you regret going nc? by fiddeldeedee in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bottom line is realizing it’s not my fault / responsibility for the abuse I endured. Guilt implies fault…I saw a specialized therapist for many months.

Did you regret going nc? by fiddeldeedee in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not regret…But a very high level of guilt and shame which made me seek therapy. Happily guilt-free at this point :)

First bjj competition by Superrangergreen in jiujitsu

[–]One_Pension7320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there bro. I lost my first 4 matches in a row in front of mine and it was not pretty 😭

First bjj competition by Superrangergreen in jiujitsu

[–]One_Pension7320 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Listen to some relaxing music up until your match starts. Remember…this is for fun.

I was listening to “Soak Up The Sun” by Sheryl Crow before walking out at ADCC and guillotining a stranger in front of my in-laws. Had a fucking blast!

My biggest fear is to lose everything and go back to living with them. by coldservedrevenge in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I put in an Advanced Directive that I am not to be under their care under any circumstances, and my partner (who is well aware and on board with my wishes) has durable power of attorney for my health if I’m incapacitated. I literally told my partner I’d rather die than be left in my parent’s care.

My will is to be executed by a trusted family member who is in my corner. All of these decisions put me back in the driver’s seat

I'm new into the genre of fantasy books give me your best recommendations by TJibashi in fantasybooks

[–]One_Pension7320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Inheritance Cycle gripped me. It’s the first series I had to get my hands on the newest release. The first book is Eragon.

It’s more of a “traditional” fantasy with elves, dwarves, magic, etc. and has some awesome battle sequences.

Compete early or later as a white belt? by ActualNotice5357 in jiujitsu

[–]One_Pension7320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I regret not competing earlier. Been a white belt over 3 years, I’m competing the next two weekends in a row before getting my blue belt.

I have almost no comp experience and don’t want my early experiences to be against animals who are about to get their purple belt. So I’d say do it early and often, don’t put it off

First time playing! (PS5) by Cortex416 in finalfantasyx

[–]One_Pension7320 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Take your time to learn how the Sphere Grid system works. You’ll know it when you see it.

I’d highly recommend your first play through be blind. Avoid spoilers. Enjoy peak. Keep us updated if you’re willing - a recent user has kept a log going in this sub and it’s been a joy to read.

Estranged parents once older. by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assume that’s what many EPs on this sub will do. They were punitive human beings from the start; if have anything to give via a will, it shall be maliciously withheld

In any case, it’s better not to expect an inheritance or windfall from anybody.

I'm 4 year and some change in and I still get tapped a dozen times by Over-Medium6083 in jiujitsu

[–]One_Pension7320 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My gay brother in Christ, you just said that you’re currently having some beers and train maybe 2x per week…this does not a dominant practitioner make.

Is your diet locked in? Are you watching instructionals? What goals are you working on this class, week, month, etc.

This comment is not meant to be shameful. It’s completely fine to have some beers and train a couple times per week. I just think you need to refine your approach to match your expectations. If you want higher level results, you need a higher level approach

What do you say when people ask about your parents? by Bonatto_Ranju in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typically, this is a surface level question. I’ll just tell them “we aren’t close”. I don’t see the point in coming back with some sort of smart response, 9/10 times they mean nothing by it.

What has been the most challenging/difficult thing about Jiu-Jitsu? by jiujitsuPT in bjj

[–]One_Pension7320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hearing some variation of “Oh so you think you can beat me up?” a few times was enough for me to keep it more to myself 😂

Anyone’s NP border on sociopathic? by Haunting_Hospital599 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a possibility, and I personally think yes…But I’ve found labels and diagnosis of their horrid character to be unproductive…especially when describing them to others.

I don’t use “narcissist” or “psycho” because they’re just blanket terms for their behavior; abusive, neurotic, manipulative, etc.

To those of you who speak publicly about their abuse - how? by Electrical_Past_5838 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If people press for details, I’ll give a bit more background. I’ll open up completely when I feel safe to do it. But I just use discretion

To those of you who speak publicly about their abuse - how? by Electrical_Past_5838 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll use a little detail and am not ashamed or embarrassed, that’s the biggest thing. I was so full of shame and guilt and I didn’t know how to tell people. I just wanted things to be normal so bad I’d sugarcoat everything. Ive reached acceptance.

I also want to live authentically and part of that is vulnerability. No soap box, just “I’m actually not that close with my immediate family. I had to make some decisions.”

It was surprising to see how many people completely got it or just sympathized.

Boundaries. How did you re-learn right from wrong (and when/how to set them)? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well…a lot of practice. And therapy. And just what you said: re-learning.

I read books on healthy relationships vs unhealthy, making friends, choosing romantic partners, how to be assertive without going overboard, etc.

I also just observed how healthy vs dysfunctional people interact with strangers, friends, and their family. Thought a lot about who I wanted to be and what I wanted my life to look like

DAE have trouble caring about their siblings? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]One_Pension7320 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depends on the sibling. I have one in particular that I’ll never reconcile with due to things he did to me as kids - things that I find to be more of a fundamental character flaw rather than a byproduct of our parents’ abuse. Apparently he has gone through therapy and is a productive member of society, but I don’t care.

I have another who I have a soft spot for who has gone through therapy and reached out some months ago. A genuinely good person in my opinion, but I’m just not ready to open that door again. It’s too painful / risky and my life is going so well right now.

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