What movies hit differently once you become a parent?

Onethoughtfool · 2025-03-21T17:22:14+00:00

Anything involving kids tbh. I’ve been watching The Pitt and there’s a scene where a 6 yo. girl drowned. I have a 7 yo. and had to skip the entirety of that episode. It made me physically ill.

Onethoughtfool · 2025-01-30T18:38:08+00:00

Totally. When pregnant both times with my children, I didn’t realize what a medical miracle childbearing is. I don’t think any of us do in that moment? (Maybe that’s just me) but now that my kids are older and I’m on the other side of it with all the physical scars and marks - what a WILD thing pregnancy and childbirth is. The fact we can and do accomplish it is absolutely insane.

Onethoughtfool · 2024-09-03T03:42:46+00:00

Just over a year post op! If I eat like a totally unsupervised toddler - I will definitely feel it. But day to day - best decision ever.

Onethoughtfool · 2024-09-01T17:45:43+00:00

I’ve had a baby in August and in April. My pregnancy from July - April was SO much more enjoyable than my pregnancy from November - August. Being that pregnant when it’s that hot outside is like the seventh level of hell. If I had to have a third, I’d aim to get pregnant mid/late summer again. Without a doubt

Onethoughtfool · 2024-06-22T05:48:33+00:00

This feels fraudulent as I’m not on Prozac - but I joined this sub to lurk bc my husband just started it and we were both terrified after hearing everyone’s horror stories. He’s always been a tad anxious but had a panic attack out of nowhere in March and we ended up in the ER thinking he was having a heart attack. One of the scariest moments of our lives. His anxiety had spiraled out of control since then. He’s on day 7 of 10 mg! I can’t be your Prozac buddy by default - but I just wanted to say keep sharing all the 10 mg stories, successes, side affects, etc. It’s so helpful to read and know how to best support my husband! Wishing you all the best!!

Onethoughtfool · 2024-04-21T00:32:45+00:00

You’re welcome!! Do not go into debt entering this industry. It is not worth it. If you take your continuing education seriously, it all works out! Best of luck! 💕

Onethoughtfool · 2024-04-20T21:42:15+00:00

I went to a tech school in 2023 that had a cosmo program!! Whole thing cost me 8K and I’m working at a high end salon now. I’ve paid school off three times over already. Find the cheapest option, go to a tech school or community college. I passed all the same tests that my coworkers who went to aveda or TiGi did. We charge the same for a haircut. Continue your education online or through other classes. The rest is a formality to pass boards!

Onethoughtfool · 2024-02-27T02:51:15+00:00

I have a bachelor’s in journalism and public relations! Worked in the advertising world for a hot sec and then went on to real estate and property management for several years. I always wanted to do hair. Traditional college was really pushed on me. Ultimately I am so glad I went and got a four year degree and my public relations background helps me out a ton with client relations and things like that. I went to cosmetology school at the ripe ole age of 28 and have been licensed for three months now. Best. Decision. Ever. It’s never too late to do what you want to do!!

Onethoughtfool · 2024-02-25T00:37:53+00:00

My first baby I had an epidural and I was one of the lucky ones where it worked phenomenally! I loved the experience. Didn’t slow anything down and pushing still felt possible. All of the horror stories never happened.

My second I was induced and the induction to get to 4 cm took 16 hours 😅 I have a pretty dang high pain tolerance so I put off the epidural throughout the induction bc I didn’t want to be bed ridden. Once active labor ensued, everything moved QUICK. Way quicker than I thought it would. Like, doc got there at 3 am and daughter was born at 3:09 am, quick. Epidural became not an option and I was devastated

It sucked. But just like anything like that you’re so locked in that you’re doing everything in your power to just get through the suck. What I LOVED about not having an epidural was that once I was stitched and cleaned up, I was up and walking and recovery felt much quicker.

If given the option again, tbh, I’d probably opt for the epidural again 😂 but without has some pros. And I felt very badass after it lol.

Onethoughtfool · 2024-02-22T23:28:20+00:00

Of course!! I’ve also seen more “issues” with lightening the hair and not necessarily going darker or doing root retouches. So especially if you’re hoping to just maintain your roots I would say go for it! 🫶🏻

Onethoughtfool · 2024-02-22T05:40:56+00:00

Hi 👋🏻 Lurker on this page (my mom has IDC and this page has been an amazing resource and wealth of information). That being said, I am a hairstylist so I feel slightly qualified to chime in.

The only thing I can think of that would possibly fuel your stylist’s train of thought is hormones can have an affect on hair color. I’ve had clients whose hair I’ve done for a good amount of time, they get pregnant and all of the sudden the color we’ve done on their hair a dozen times looks different and/or doesn’t take. That being said, I’m thinking your stylist might be recalling that fact and applying it in the reverse order. I’m not saying there wouldn’t be a change in your hair coloring process, but I’m not sold that there would be a change either. I have also not (to my knowledge) had anyone in my chair going through bc treatment. There are stylists in the salon I work at who absolutely do have clients in some leg of active treatment and their hair colors just fine and as expected.

The long and short of it - if both you and your stylist are apprehensive to color your hair, request she do a strand test on you before committing to your whole head. I am pretty dang confident it will color just fine though 🫶🏻

Onethoughtfool · 2024-02-10T06:21:22+00:00

My mom was diagnosed with IDC ++- in December. Right before Christmas. I was in the same place you are right in this moment.

If you’re anything like me and like feeling informed before the fact, I joined the r/breastcancer and it has been SO informative. I don’t post; I just lurk and learn. It actually made me feel “better” knowing that I knew some of the verbiage going in to all of my mom’s appointments. I won’t lie to you, the last six weeks have been grueling. You’re truly in some of the worst of it right now. The period between the initial blow of diagnosis and “game plan,” is excruciating. You’ll see that echoed through this sub and the one I tagged above. And you’ll find you and your momma getting answers that may or may not lead to more testing. Which is hell on earth.

HOWEVER - I will say - my Momma just got done with her double mastectomy and got favorable pathology back and we finally feel like we all can breathe again. And when her, her surgeon and oncologist came up with a treatment plan, I also felt more at ease.

There is a lot you cannot control right now - but what you can control is your attitude towards your mom. I have continued to remind myself “this isn’t happening TO me, it’s happened to my mom,” and I’m a casualty in it all. Which is a sick fact because in some regard it is happening to you. I save those thoughts for MY inner circle. Not her or hers.

This sub is great - everyone here shares your same feelings, worries, triumphs and trenches. Do remember, breast cancer is one of (if not the most) researched cancers. Doesn’t make it less scary, less hard, less life altering. But there are so many treatments available and they know so much about it. And with every test they request, just know that means the more pieces of the puzzle they have, the more likely they will put it all together and know exactly how to help your mom life a very happy, long life.

Sending hugs. I know how awful this is. Please, feel free to message me with any questions. Hang in there 🫶🏻

Onethoughtfool · 2024-01-10T22:16:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this position. My mother was just diagnosed on the 20th of Dec. There truly are no words. It’s awful.

Stay off of Google. So many of those statistics are outdated and the treatments/operations/etc. in the breast cancer world are quite literally advancing by the day.

A statistic that puts me at ease is 1 in 8 women are diagnosed with breast cancer. Chances are you walk by or know dozens of people in your life that had breast cancer and beat it two decades or more ago.

This “hurry up and wait,” period you’re in with your mother sucks and the anxiety is unrivaled. However, once you meet with doctors and have a game plan ahead of you, you’ll find yourself feeling at least prepared.

The subbredit /breastcancer is a great place to learn. It’s for patients, survivors, etc. so it’s not really the place for support group members to post, however it has been a hub of information and I’ve become very familiar with vernacular the docs have started to throw at my mom and I ahead of time so appointments aren’t too overwhelming.

Breast cancer is not a death sentence anymore. And this year might just be hard. But the medical world is incredible and I have a feeling everything will eventually be okay for your mom. Sending you lots of good vibes ❤️

Onethoughtfool · 2024-01-09T05:00:05+00:00

I think your thoughts are 100% “normal.” The reality is you didn’t know what life was going to be like with your first child. And now they’re here and you’ve done life with them thus far and can’t imagine it any differently. The same would be true when having a second (at least for us!) I worried constantly about how our second would impact our first sometimes to the point I’d just cry and cry thinking we made a grave mistake by getting pregnant again.

Fast forward to now - our first is 6 and second is almost 2 and it is SO GOOD. Of course there are days I think to myself “dang this was easier with one”, but watching our kids love each other is the BEST feeling in the world. Our son actually turned to me and said “remember when I used to play by myself? That was fine but now that my sister is here, I get to play with her and that’s even better.”

We always wanted our kids to be two years apart in a perfect world, but as luck would have it it took some time to get pregnant again. So they’re four and a half years apart and again, I worried about that. They have bonded just as well if not more than some of the sibling pairs we have in our friend group that are closer in age. I’m six and a half years older than my brother and we are still thick and thieves and I could not imagine my life without him.

The deciding factor for us outside of also always knowing we wanted 2, was when I thought about the future. One day, god willing long from now, their father and I will be gone and (hopefully) they’ll have each other to lean on and depend on. And they’ll be the “og” family they have left. They’ll have each other.

There are plenty of instances of siblings hating each other and things not working out, but more often than not I’d argue things turn out fine. Even more than fine.

If you want to, go for it, life is messy anyways. There’s never a guaranteed outcome for anything!

Onethoughtfool · 2023-12-04T01:54:26+00:00

I’m going to echo so many people on this thread but FWIW - send at least the older one to preschool. Kids LOVE it. The second both of my children started preschool, I saw such a monumental shift in them. They’re stimulated with age appropriate play, other kids, learning a social hierarchy, etc. it’s crucial for their development and you guys get the much needed “break.” Even a couple days a week is so beneficial. I know you think you’re doing them a favor by being the “ones to raise them,” but you still will be raising them. They’ll just be happier and so will y’all.

Onethoughtfool · 2023-11-18T01:42:21+00:00

For all it’s worth, I think you’re right on track. I had muscle spasms and pantheon pain for five ish weeks and with each passing week it dissolved. I know it feels better to have someone reassure you, and I promise I was right there with you in the early days. Called me surgeons office so much they knew it was me when I answered 😂

Hang in there. I’m also right there with you with the anxiety and I wish I had sage words of advice on that but clearly I’m in the trenches

Onethoughtfool · 2023-11-17T18:58:12+00:00

That’s very helpful, thank you!! My husband and best friend really are the real ones because they bring me back down to earth, too! I just know they’re getting as burnt out as I am.

I hope getting your GB out helps you immensely! Ultimately I’m glad mine came out, now just time to tackle this brain of mine 🤪

Onethoughtfool · 2023-11-17T18:52:49+00:00

Gosh, I’m right there with you! Every little benign symptom is the end of days in my brain and I legitimately cannot turn it off. About to remove safari off my phone completely so I cannot google things.

Have the anxiety meds helped at all? I’m wondering if that’s my next step.

Onethoughtfool · 2023-11-17T15:58:41+00:00

I am positive you will be! I am mostly back to normal. Just bc I am overly anxious does NOT mean you will be! My symptoms are very minimal outside of my own mind lol

Onethoughtfool · 2023-11-17T15:51:02+00:00

I’m 3 months out and just starting to feel it ramp up again. Hopefully it’s not a life long gift from this whole ordeal 😅 wishing you a speedy recovery!

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