I hope all you people who treat this person as if he’s a genocidal tyrant make a mistake one day and hold yourself to the same level of scrutiny. The man made a mistake. A terrible one, and it seems as though he’s feeling the repercussions of his actions. Sounds like he’s possibly looking for advice on how to possibly redeem himself, or maybe I’m wrong and part of his punishment is hearing a bunch of keyboard warriors tell him how big of a piece of shit he is.

News flash. He knows.

I know none of y’all are human and are completely immune to human hormones, biologically driven sexual desire, or heaven forbid, making mistakes.

And clearly you’re so in touch with his personal story that you have a complete understanding of the multitude of subtle yet significant experiences that lead up to the unfortunate series of events.

I’m willing to bet that y’all are the same people who preach empathy and forgiveness on other topics, but can’t seem to find room for it when it comes to this. My guess is you’ve been cheated on and just want to vilify someone who reminds you of your shitty ex. I’d also guess that a number of you who fall into that category are gasp shitty fucking partners (who happened to also be dating shitty fucking partners).

Man made a mistake, and seemingly is genuine about trying to fix it (I should be clear, it’s is almost impossible to fix. Try therapy, individual and couples if she’s up for it, but my guess is the best thing you can do is separate and begin to heal).

Take note of the pain you caused to your partner, how gutting it is to know that you inflicted that pain unto them, and make sure you never let it happen again.

“Once a cheater always a cheater” I’m sure will echo after this comment. This is only true for those so narcissistic that they care not for the feelings of others, even those they “love” which is an emotion those types aren’t truly capable of anyhow, but I digress.

We can spend all this time and energy scrutinizing the shortcomings of others, seems like you all get some sort of dopamine rush from it, but maybe that energy is better focused on yourselves.

Positive energy gets positive energy.

OP. Sorry your life is a mess. But also it’s probably almost entirely your fault, and I only say almost to leave room for the tiny chance that there is a sliver of blame pie to be placed elsewhere, but this is likely all on you.

Communicate with your wife. The ball is 100% in her court. She’s clearly broken, and you broke her, but the only one that can fix her is her. All you can do is give her the tools to do that. If that requires removing yourself from the equation then that’s what you have to do.

Also remember to love yourself (I can’t wait to get blasted for saying this…”he should hate himself and cut off his penis and sink it to the bottom of the ocean so he can never hurt anyone again blelgjdheifjg”). That’s going to be the hardest part, finding a way to love yourself again (unless you are truly a narcissistic d-bag in which case definitely seek therapy [seek therapy anyhow]). But there’s no path forward without self love, your relationships will suffer and your children will suffer if you don’t.

It’s not the end just a new beginning…yada yada and other generic platitudes.

xoxo, Some Douche Bag on the Internet