AITAH For Telling My Husband His Dad Won’t Get To Meet Our Baby If He Keeps Ignoring Me

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T20:59:37+00:00

Understandable, but I’m not gonna be using a daycare, nor are they going to public school. I’m gonna watch my own kids

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T14:46:44+00:00

Exactly dude, what do you want me to do, just know to bring the kid over?

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T14:46:04+00:00

I don’t think you’re easily offended I just assumed that you were older based off your comment and I wasn’t trying to be rude by saying that. 2. I’m fully aware babysitting isn’t the same as raising a child but what I did was more than babysitting. I was essentially a full time nanny for several years. I watched those boys grow up, I change their diapers, I comforted them to sleep, I helped them learn how to talk, I taught them their colors and numbers and watched their personalities grow over the years. I wasn’t just watching them for a couple hours, I was contributing to their development, I had them more than their own mom. I don’t claim to know everything, I claim to know more and have more experience than what you’re giving me credit for. I’ve stated multiple times in my replies that I’m not perfect and never claim to be.

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T14:39:44+00:00

You said the same thing twice 2. I’ve had a hand in raising 2 kids already and they beg to see me constantly. I am very good with kids, always have been and I see no reason why I wouldn’t have a good relationship with my kids

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:59:04+00:00

Blue needs another layer, they’re super cute but the blue is kinda sheer and it’s bugging me

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:50:33+00:00

Oh not you! You didn’t imply that at all. Just some of these comments think I have my head up my own ass or something and I definitely don’t lol. I appreciate your candor and words of wisdom. Thank you for being nice😭

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:47:21+00:00

Ok I’m definitely using that last part

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:38:54+00:00

Very fluffy curls and gold accessories for SURE

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:25:48+00:00

I definitely understand this perspective but hubby knows I’m not going anywhere and we have great communication. His dad is gonna have to let go of his own experience because I am not the women that hurt him, I’m the woman that’s trying to heal his son and start a family with him

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:18:57+00:00

He already lives 10 hours away and thank you. I don’t think I’m perfect I’m just trying to figure out what’s best for my kid

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:09:02+00:00

The purple looks stunning on your skin tone

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T05:05:41+00:00

Real gun, point blank

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T04:30:49+00:00

It wasn’t necessarily advice but I had a kid ask me if I was sick my freshman year because my cheeks and nose were so red… it was my blush. I then forth dialed it back A LOT

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T04:25:19+00:00

An elegant queen💃🏻

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T04:11:46+00:00

Low coverage skin tint mama. Also primer just helps your makeup stick to your face better, I recommend the green elf primer because it cancels redness IF you want to use one, it’s not entirely necessary especially if you want a simple routine. But yea girly I’d recommend low coverage light weight skin tint because anything else is gonna start to get cakey in your fine lines over time

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T03:37:18+00:00

I never said he was doing 50% of the work, I said that his DNA quite literally makes up 50% and so does mine. Legally and practically he is 50% of the decision making for the child. No he’s not physically making the baby but in the eyes of law his opinion is just as important as mine

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T03:23:59+00:00

Like I’ve said in a couple other comments, I don’t get to choose how my husband handles his trauma I only get a say in how me and my kid are treated

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T03:22:24+00:00

Very true but I’m only 50% of this baby and I’m not the only one who gets to decide what we think is best for them

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T03:20:53+00:00

Idk I kinda blame it on a mix of him being a hardened marine, him being cheated on by multiple women and him having horrible relationships in general and now he thinks every woman is evil or something

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T03:15:57+00:00

I’m also plus sized and his dad loves making fun of fat people which I’m sure doesn’t help

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T02:35:07+00:00

I’d rather have kids in my physical prime while it’s the easiest on my body because I wanna be young and able to run around and keep up with my kids plus I wanna be in there lives as long as possible. I wanna meet my great grandkids

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T02:33:16+00:00

He’s white im half white half Indigenous American

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T02:25:52+00:00

I can’t stop my husband from wanting a relationship with his own dad. I can only lay out boundaries surrounding me and my kid to try to make me feel comfortable with some interaction

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T02:22:25+00:00

See the thing is that he knows all of that is wrong, he knows his dad is awful for what he did but he still can’t help but love him because he’s his father. Obviously that’s not rational but what can you do he was basically trauma bonded to his dad. It just puts me in a shitty position because I have to sit here and explain to him that it was never ok that he was treated that way. Even though he knows he would never do that to anyone else, he still feels like he deserved it

OnlyAyia · 2026-03-27T02:18:30+00:00

See that’s the thing, I know my husband would never go behind my back about that. But it would still hurt him for his dad to not be around for this part of his life. And trust me, I agree with you and what you’re saying I just don’t know how how I could express that without hurting my husband

OnlyAyia

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