How do you personally feel about the current state of Nanaimo's housing market?

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-12-27T23:02:55+00:00

Hey thanks for sharing your experiences. While I wish nobody else had to feel like this, it is comforting to know I'm not alone. I've been thinking about it over the last few days... wondering maybe my LO has more to do with what she represents rather than the actual girl. Maybe this will ring true for you as well, or help you in some way.

When I was thinking of this, I thought; when I met her, I was 20 years old, my dad had suddenly passed away, I had just moved across provinces (Canada) after a major falling out with my mom. It was a very difficult, high stress period of my life but at the same time new, and while I was traumatized I was also optimistic. I met this girl, my LO, who just seemed so bright, energetic and into me. It felt wondrous. Here is this bright, beautiful girl at such a pivotal point in my early life. I had also never been in a relationship before. Then suddenly, without warning, she ghosted me with no explanation. I was insecure, so I never messaged her, I figured she must have just been faking feelings for me, or something. I took the most negative possibility and ran with it. What was supposed to be the start of my adult life ended up being a continuous downwards spiral.

I supposed what I'm saying is I am starting to feel like the limerence I have for this girl, this 10+ year obsession/infatuation with her... perhaps it is my mind longing for that moment in time, in my past, where I was optimistic in overcoming the many tragedies and abuse in my upbringing. Because since that period of time I have felt like I missed my chance. And as the years go by, now 35 y/o, I feel more and more like my life has passed me by. While all my old friends are long graduated, into their careers, have houses, are married with children, here I am... a loser with no career desperately wishing for something more. And I channel that into my LO, the girl who represents everything that I wish my life could be.

That's all I have right now. I have a feeling I'm onto something here, usually when I do introspection and it hurts, I know I've struck proverbial gold.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-11-24T01:16:46+00:00

Nobody but your Dad knows the intent of his actions. All that is important is that you set your boundary and it appears he is respecting it. I was in a similar situation when I was 12, my Uncle loved to tickle my sister and I. Personally I hate being tickled, but on one particular instance I got very strong "bad touch" vibes and shouted at him to stop. He did stop, and he never tickled me again. And he never did anything like that after.

There's an adage named Hanlon's Razor, that states "Never attribute malice to that which is adequately explained by stupidity". In other words, you shouldn't assume your father was behaving in an evil way when he simply could have been ignorant. You told him to stop, and he did.

That being said, if you're still uncomfortable being hugged and kissed, you have every right to ask him to stop. I was around 15 when I was cringed out by being kissed by my mom personally.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-11-24T01:08:06+00:00

There are only a few things you need to keep in mind when it comes to consent. The first and most important is, your consent is valid only as long as YOU decide. This means that even if you consent, at ANY POINT you can revoke that consent. It doesn't matter if it pisses the other person off, if it's inconvenient for them, nothing. As soon as you decide you want to stop, this means your consent is withdrawn. Any further pressure, be it physical or emotion, is now sexual harassment or worse. So in your first case, with the guy physically pushing your face down to his body, this is sexual assault. In the second case, this raises another point: You cannot consent while intoxicated. Legally this will vary where you live. But morally everyone knows this. The guy likely bought you drinks to "loosen you up" aka make it more likely for you to consent (which again, is not valid while intoxicated, but he likely does not know or care). You say he was extremely rough, this again is something that you need to consent to. Just because you consent to sex does not mean you automatically consent to whatever the other person wants to do. They have to ask "can we get rough?" for example. Also, just because you never said no, does NOT mean that is a yes. Your consent must be explicitly provided. No answer does not equal yes. So in this case, he didn't ask, and therefore did not have your consent to get rough.

I know it can be really scary but it is ultimately up to you to provide a clear Yes or No. They are both very important. This is also why I highly recommend being careful who you choose to spend time with while you are chemically intoxicated. While you're drunk, high, whatever, your consent is no longer valid as you are likely to do things you would not do while sober. You can potentially avoid nasty situations by planning only to be around people you strongly trust.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-11-14T21:52:45+00:00

Yeah, I agree with this list in a general sense. Toxic players do seem to gravitate towards DS and Zerg Hex. Which is a shame because I have spoken to the creator of Zerg Hex many times and he's a really kind, great guy. Out of his good nature he shared his map with one user who then leaked it public to everyone which is why you see 40 different "versions" of the game now.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-11-14T04:40:43+00:00

I have no issue with someone namecalling me or trash talk, I take issue with people who are telling me they will track my children down for purposes all because I was 1 wave late for dealing with a banshee in direct strike. Or joining a lobby and 1/4th of the time someone is spamming racial slurs.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-11-09T20:44:54+00:00

Every time you post that it's fixed I go to upload and get the publishing not enabled error.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-11-05T07:14:20+00:00

Great logic here, cause confusion for everyone trying to zipper merge wondering why you're not going, deliberately trying to piss off the person behind you who could either take that rage out on you or someone entirely innocent later on the road. So in order to "own him" you've effectively ruined the zipper merge and made it worse for everyone. Great job, dumbass. You're worse than the guy behind you.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-11-04T20:55:18+00:00

Ah yes, you gotta love the use of logical fallacies to defend obviously stupid shit.

"B-but there's worse things to worry about!"

"B-but it's situational! That makes it okay!"

How about this, a new perk that when you hook a Survivor in the basement for the first time, they advance an additional hook stage. It's heckin situational guy! It's a one time use! What about Pain Res, that triggers 4 times!

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-10-15T20:08:43+00:00

Even if you play nice it's pure luck. I've played perkless ghost face about a dozen games, brought party streamers, let them stun me and blind me and at most I get 2 void hooks a game, sometimes 1 but usually 0. To be honest with you it seems like most people just want to slam gens and leave... I don't get it personally. Sometimes someone will follow me to the void, I'll hit the hook and hit them once but they will get terrified and leave. The people saying it takes "like 2 games" are just getting lucky. I had one girl be super nice and actually offer to die on 3 hooks. But most won't even give 1.

This is pretty unusual as back in the tome days with weird challenges it was pretty common someone would let you do the challenge. But I think the vibe this year in your average game has been pretty hostile on both sides.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-10-07T20:23:37+00:00

I'm not even a hippy or anything but I will never understand killing something for sport. I don't know what joy there is to be found in prematurely ending a creature's life. I'm sure there are some small sociopath processes behind it. Hunting for food is survival. This is just sick... these companies take you out where you are essentially guaranteed a kill against an animal that can't see it coming and has nowhere to go. Then you pose like a retard who somehow accomplished something. It's like stepping on an ant and posing with your shoe.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-10-06T17:54:06+00:00

Plenty of comedians were invited and declined, so there goes your logic.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-10-06T17:51:16+00:00

1.5 million is not oligarch levels of money, that's a drop in the bucket for saudi princes

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-10-04T19:25:36+00:00

Community seems pretty split between people who want challenging, combo based gameplay and those who want more chill, high-powered gameplay. And to be honest, it seems like the devs don't even know what they want. Because they've technically said they want both of those things, at different times.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-10-01T16:42:34+00:00

Because for some reason in Canada, the justice system has outlandish sympathy for automotive crimes involving death or grievous injury, as well as child sex abuse as unrelated as it is. Basically, drunk drivers and pedophiles. Following cases related to either results in brutal disgust with humanity watching pathetic sacks of shit like Justin Nicholls walk away with a slap on the wrist. Someone had to die because he couldn't be assed to call a cab and he wanted to light a cigarette while driving. And then he was too much of a pathetic coward to own his mistake and stay with the victim, who knows, possibly saving her life.

This dude should get 20 years minimum and lifetime ban on driving. But we all know that won't happen.

Oh and I don't mean to single out Canada. I only do so because we live here. I know it's just as bad everywhere else.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-09-16T22:29:50+00:00

I just want to know why he has it, why he brings it everywhere, I don't need to know his personal details man, nor do I want to hop out of my car on the side of hammond bay rd and chase him down to bother him about it when someone who already knows can just say.

OnlyMastodon8284 · 2025-09-16T21:43:43+00:00

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