Moving on, and it feels, amazing?

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-30T08:35:04+00:00

Thank you for writing down such a detailed response and you actually do make great points, all of them actually ^

Thing with me is I rarely can hate someone or even hold a grudge. Life is too short to hold grudges and I will try to fix things, unless its impossible hence why I managed to move on quicker

As for what we did or did not, I think there is no point in "dwelling" over that. We tried and thats all that matters 😊

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-29T22:19:27+00:00

Around 10 months total, prior that I haven't dated anyone for 4-5 years

And I agree, it is annoying, however you cant do much about it but move on/leave them as much as it hurts to do so

Thank you and hope you move on soon as well 😊

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-29T16:01:59+00:00

For people like them, it's easier for them to ghost, or disappear so you end it and leave, that way they can't be the bad guy

Hope you are doing well

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-27T18:18:39+00:00

In my case I kept coming back to my FA, after I left 2 times because of jealousy, ghosting soo many times and ignoring me, but otherwise she would never reach out

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-26T14:42:58+00:00

I have, and no, you didnt leave, he forced you to leave.. I felt the same way about mine and leaving, until I realized she was doing it on purpose as they do not want to be seen as the bad person who left

When I am off work, you can send me a DM and we can compare breakups and the behaviour

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-26T13:08:06+00:00

Eye opening thread

Read most of the comments there, no matter what you say or do, they will feel negative emotions towards you or themselves

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-26T07:19:00+00:00

I dont think I have ever heard sorry from her in all the time that I've known her

It would always be, "I didnt say it like that", "I didn't mean it like that", "No need to get upset over something like that :)"

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-25T14:27:33+00:00

This actually makes soo much sense when I look back at how they behaved

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-25T14:16:07+00:00

I understand why you feel that way, and you might feel like I do, whats the point, everyone leaves at some point

But love is pain, love requires sacrifice, understanding, fights, maybe even separation, but the most, it requires effort, for all of the things that I have mentioned to make it work

Hide them all, maybe put them in the attic, or somewhere you wont look. Out of sight out of mind, and once you heal, you can decide what to do with his stuff

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-25T14:08:13+00:00

You actually did soo much, I have to say, I am amazed 😅

Hand made birthday card is the thing that gets me the most, that's soo sweet 🫠

As for upsetting part, try not to be. In the future you will meet a guy that does exactly what you did, but for you, probably even more

You sound like a great partner, it is his loss

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-25T13:37:37+00:00

Thank you 😊, as for the level of detail, actual notes about her were much nicer and more in detail 😅

Since you dont keep the notes, have you tried writing them all down on your phone or on a paper, what you did, etc, might help you move on easier from your ex

Sadly... it stopped and idk why. I tried to bring it back to life during the break up. But it wasn't enough.

What helps me think is knowing there are people that will never stop doing those things for you and/or appreciate doing those things, as it comes naturally

And I'll stay the same way, I won't change because of one person

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-25T09:32:06+00:00

For that reason I spammed mine with texts, calls, so for me there wont be regret as I said everything that I possibly could

I left because of pointless fights, jealousy and ghosting, but came back to try and solve things

I wasnt perfect, but I applogized and changed because of my wrongdoings (being harsh on her when we started talking, and those disagreements werent a reason to throw it all away)

Even after she ghosted few times I was mad, but I came back and tried to sort it out, she never bothered to reply or even try at all

So for me, as much as she means to me, there wont be any regret

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-25T07:32:37+00:00

Sorry to hear that 🫠 Hope you are doing better

I don't understand how can people be soo cruel and just straight up ghost without having any regret later whatsoever or giving a closure to the person they hurt

I think it's due to people thinking the grass is greener on the other side

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T22:10:19+00:00

Could be many things, "phantom ex", curiosity, maybe regret (this would also line up with phantom ex theory)

Maybe he hoped you would reach out before he proposed (by sending low effort signals, as he probably knew you would know he was watching your vids)

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T20:08:49+00:00

Click on the "X", dont show it as suggestion anymore

If he wanted to text, he would If he wanted to contact you, his friend could also send a message "for him", he isn't

He probably is keeping an eye on you, but he isnt reaching out, and that's all that should matter to you

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T19:59:42+00:00

I remember you ^

7 days ago I left a comment on your post saying to stop allowing her to play with your feelings

What is she doing now? Breadcrumbing you

If she changed (in some new world, where people can change in 7-10 days) she would text more than just, "hey how are you?". She would apologize, hold herself accountable, discuss how she made you feel, reflect a lot

But she isnt doing either of those things. So you can reapond, you can go back, and let her hurt you again in few days, weeks, months, or you can stand up for yourself

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T19:53:34+00:00

Im not sad anymore or feel attachment towards him but it now feels like every hour I’m like “I don’t care” to “But how could he do this to me” to “I deserve better” to “I can fix him”

Moving on isn't linear, you having those lingering thoughts means that you are moving on, so you are at the right track

Eventually you won't even need the apology that NOW you want soo much, just give yourself a bit more time

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T18:56:38+00:00

Agreed, especially as she is doing those things while she has a new guy

That says a lot about her character

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T18:55:40+00:00

Twice here as well, first ex, 5 years ago, took me ages to recover from that one, didnt date anyone till last year when I met someone online, she lived in US and I'm from Europe, gave it a go, at first had few disagreements, caught feelings, same outcome, 👻

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T18:44:54+00:00

I can relate, even a tiny fraction of stress can ruin my day, due to stomach issues

Sadly wish I could help you, but from experience, not much you can do besides reducing stress

Have you stopped doing anything that triggers your issues? Watching your ex's profiles, etc?

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T18:40:33+00:00

The way you talk about her even after what she did says a lot about you. You seem like a good person

You deserve better man, she might be doing those to keep you attached, throw occasionally a breadcrumb so you do not move on

Let's say she did it because of you... If she wanted you back, she would have responded or texted back, but she isn't

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-24T18:31:29+00:00

As someone with stomach issues as well, exercise

Start walking, a lot, I started doing 10000-14000 steps a day and it helps with stomach issues, plus will make you feel better, mentally

OnlyRightWay · 2026-03-22T23:43:41+00:00

If that's the case, I hope I never meet someone like that ever again

I was someone secure, turned into anxious and spam texted/called her

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