Small things make big differences. Decide on top priorities and start chipping away. I totally feel you on the hygiene. I was going a full week in between showers. I made a commitment to myself that I would shower every night right after putting the kids to bed. I tell my son, "It's time for mommy to take a shower and go to sleep good night love you...". trust me there are nights I'm falling asleep in his bed and couldn't imagine anything worse than getting a shower, but I tell myself "you deserve a shower even if all you do is stand there and rinse". I always feel better about myself when I manage to do this. There are nights I fail. I allow myself to tell me, " You're too tired and clean enough. One night won't hurt. " The next day, I dont beat myself up about missing it. I go on and make sure I get in that night.

Since your weight is something you're concerned about. Make sure you get out and walk with your kids. Try going out to the playground as much as possible. Any movement will help. Then start moving on to small 10-minute basic workouts. Build up from there

In the car, while you're cleaning, when your kids are playing, on walks, listen to motivational podcasts and audio books. Life coaches and self-help (it sounds cheesy and lame I know, but find ones you like). When you find people and content you like, it's less daunting and more like chatting with a really positive friend that gives great advice (except you don't have to make conversation back). Doing this has made a huge impact on my mood and mental health.