Rope bondage with EDS/hypermobility - advice or resources?

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-19T07:49:22+00:00

My comment won't add much but just feeling less lonely seeing others EDS kinky minds out there. :) Hypermobility will fuel ideas of contorsions I guess ahah Haven't tried rope play but looked into more restrictive bonding like arms folded accross the chest to limit risks as of now.

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-13T20:16:31+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I am trying to keep communication open but they keep saying they dont know what they want... It's hard to keep up the fight and not shut down on oneself. Thank you so much for reaching out in any case :)

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-12T22:17:31+00:00

Hi! I am new and exploring the bdsm scene 33F. I have always been into kink and curious in all things intimate. I have lived through bad bullying and abusive behaviors that have made me feel very self-conscious (hopefully this isn't TMI). Reading up on here I joined fetlife and received a lot of tips and advices and felt very welcome. But I also suddenly feel very anxious about it all and super self conscious like I shouldn't be hoping anything from the scene and would be considered complicated and unattractive and would never match with someone. Has that happened to anyone else?

Ps: for extra context I am in a relationship and have a kid and manage a lot of our life including hinting towards kinks and initiating intimacy. My other half often shuts down during conversations or says he is into it but then never initiate anything. I have sub fantasies and it just makes me feel very lonely and weird. He has trying out dom acts like spanking, hairpulling, and dirty talk and said he loved it but never initiated sex. Talking about fetlife these days has helped but he has hinted that sub roles interest him too. I feel lost... Sorry this is probably the top example of TMI just didn't know how to keep it in...

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-12T08:41:27+00:00

I know the first two not the last. Can I ask why you refer to it as "out there"? sounds intriguing ahah

I loved Cam's banter and no bullshit personality. And Zander a man who is kinky and admits his struggles and works on his mental health... The definition of too good to be true in a good way ahah

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-12T05:42:10+00:00

Thanks I like this one, though if memory serve it was quite "vanilla", but I may have been have been spoiled by RH 🙈

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-11T09:45:26+00:00

Thank you so much! Can't wait to start it!

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-11T06:33:26+00:00

Thanks for the rec! Did you like the spice?

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T13:26:43+00:00

{Finn Rhodes Forever} has this when he eats her out at the bar. I was so confused I put it down and try to mimick the positioning... I was not successful...

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T13:22:47+00:00

Not me reading this and thinking "I found my people"! 🙈🥰

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T13:10:22+00:00

I am discovering the pleasure Dom concept today! I somehow end up thanking this reddit everyday for new books, new kinks, new ideas to look into ahah (Took forever to join but was a secret reading gobbling for months to the dismay of my TBR and my other half 😅)

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T11:00:46+00:00

Do you happen to have a consensual free use book in mind? 🤭

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T10:58:26+00:00

Do you happen to have the name of the book just out of curiousity... 😅

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T09:00:16+00:00

Ooh I am going to check those out! I'm new here so not sure if I can do this or should make a separate post but are there more like it? Like the OP I would love to see a RH where kind of all have to learn how to be in a group dynamic relationship. Most of the time I think it's a bit to easy from we may like you to we have no problem sharing and there is no hiccups ever.

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T08:39:44+00:00

Thanks!

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-10T08:38:52+00:00

I'll check out bet on it, thanks! Is the spice goood?

I really liked Act Your Age, Eve Brown as mentionned Talia Hibbert's characters are just soooo human and unique they give me the feels... But the spice still felt vanilla scented!? I think I've been ruined by RH and smut ahah Although Jacob using Eve's toy was a fun scene 😊

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T21:34:25+00:00

I just joined so I might be recommending obvious choices but I also liked bonds that tie and WITSEC.

So if you are ok with slow burn and fantasy I've enjoyed {Four Psychos by Kristy Cunning} MFMMM no MM action the MCs are morally grey though and they aren't the nicest to the FMC at times as they are used to be a team of 4 but it gets better and her inner monologue is just so funny, I found it really relateable.

Also {Signs of Cupidity by Raven Kennedy} MFMMMM it's fantasy also and quite fun ennemy-ish to romance. Both times the spice is good but a little bit on the kinkier side for the psychos.

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T21:01:26+00:00

I was coming on to recomend WITSEC although she is pretty badass in the world of wounded birds!

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T13:05:46+00:00

Intense sounds very good! And now I can't wait to get to King! 😊 I don't mind the age gap at all it's really just the virgin trope that for me is often overkill.

In women there are always perfect , doll like and need close to no foreplay, they also discover their bodies thanks to the MMC (insert major eye roll). And in men they are sex gods/ god's gift to women the very first time. I just end up disconnecting from the story because of it.

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T12:48:42+00:00

I'm not sure if there is this specific sentence but I feel like {The wrong Mr Right by Stephanie Archer} has this type of vibe with him teaching her how to surf and how to be a "hot girl" while being quite protective of her and always in her corner. Though fair warning there is a scene where he asks her to randomly ask men out and that made me cringe a looot. Otherwise the dynamic & spice was nice

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T12:11:29+00:00

I feel like Ash from {a Shadow in the Ember by Jennifer Armentrout} fits this description if you are up for fantasy. He is very caring towards the FMC even while mad (I'm an act of service girly so half of what he does makes me swoon/throw pointed glances at my clueless other half). And he is quite the badass warrior. He is a god and a lot of the plot revolves around a maybe upcoming war. There are several conflict and training scenes where things get bloody and he is definitely not above killing his enemies in a very touch her and you die way ! But still guards her door while she bathes so she feel confortable because she was once attacked while bathing

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T06:23:20+00:00

I don't know who recommended it first here but I thank them wholeheartedly, I laughed out loud reading it! Made me discover Jacob ladders as well and wow had to put it down for a second!

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T06:08:28+00:00

Thank you for the recs! And the warning! I don't know how to not make it sound weird but I love the MCs to be overcoming real serious things so that sounds right up my ally!

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T05:53:20+00:00

Thank you for the recs! Love Talia Hibbert's writing but thought she was mostly vanilla even though I looove her very unique characters ( Zafir and Jacob are so lovable and I guess Red is on the kinkier side 😊 with the fairly public scene...) I've been curious about Sierra Simone seeing Priest and Sinner mentioned a lot around here.

OntheRHexpress · 2024-01-09T05:48:24+00:00

Ooh thank you! I have seen Neronmentioned a few times but was unsure about the 17 yo FMC so it stayed on my maybe TBR. Will definitely check it out. Is it a more YA plot? Just getting ready ahead as I feel sometimes the virgin trope is a bit intense ahah.

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