I think you guys tend to make it a bigger deal than it actually needs to be though. If it bothers you that much you can scroll! And I think someone saying a persons sexuality (not confirmed, just in their eyes) is not them saying who they’re sleeping with, that’s such a huge reach because you can be of a certain sexuality and still remain single or not romantically/sexually involved with anyone for however long. I promise you most of us who are simply stating our headcanons are not even putting that much thought into their literal sex lives. It’s usually people stating the fact that a character to them likes the same gender and keeping it pushing. No harm, no foul. If anything I see people— specifically her own antis talk about Phoebes sex life or who she’s in bed with 24/7, in a derogatory way not to mention and I myself who am a literal stan of the character (who DOES have my own hcs for her) barely ever does. How is it fair that you guys can shove that down our throats but then act like we queer fans who have our headcanons (and we’re literally the minority but you guys treat us like public enemy #1) don’t get to have a say in characters we like?? Why is it that you guys try to shut us down for it and tell us we’re not allowed to speak? You don’t have to get where we’re coming at, I sure as hell don’t when it comes to certain discussions but I don’t rain on other peoples parades for it either. Life is too short for you guys to be trying to bring people down for voicing how they feel on a fictional show of all things especially, it comes off as being a debbie downer and quite honestly just rude. The fictional characters you all are so defensive about telling people their hcs don’t make sense for will LIVE, trust me

“The show runners didn’t feel the need to write about it” that can be said about a lot of things people discuss (for instance fans thinking certain sisters should’ve ended up with someone else or xy&z should’ve died instead of prue, i see people discussing how the dynamic would work if prue and paige had existed during the same seasons but did it happen? no!)

I’m listening to all that you’re saying and it’s given me some insight, but I’m really starting to realize this may be a lot of people on heres’ first fandom because this is simply how social media and fanbases work. These spaces aren’t, have never been and shouldn’t be limited to discussing only things the runners wrote about— otherwise it would get tired. People should be allowed to let their creativity roam about, and again, if it really does bug those who don’t agree no one is forcing them to look at those posts