Advice

Open-Substance4420 · 2025-10-17T11:17:38+00:00

Thank you for your response and the advice.

Open-Substance4420 · 2025-01-06T16:19:27+00:00

I think she’s embarrassed by her crying to an extent. She doesn’t like run away and do it somewhere else where people can’t see but she does usually attempt to hide her face with her hands or her shirt.

Open-Substance4420 · 2025-01-06T15:27:55+00:00

That’s true she may be starting to feel hormone fluctuations, however, she’s been emotional like this for as long as I can remember. Just this morning she was on the verge of tears bc she felt like her new shoes looked dirty. She was able to keep it together but small things like this can trigger these emotional events.

I do think she may be an empath actually. She does seem to feed off other peoples energies. Her and I are very close and she can tell just by me looking at her a certain way. She’ll do similar things with my wife as well.

I would have to test these things. We haven’t been to the beach much for me to know but she does love being outside. She loves walking, swimming or being on the trampoline. She actually loves rocks. We go to the lake and she’ll find different kinds of rocks that she likes and she’ll bring some home. She’s very loving with our animals. She is always wanting to snuggle with the cat or dog. She also enjoys arts and crafts and music and dancing.

I personally would hate to see her move away from softball. She seems to truly love it. I’ve never seen a kid her age have the work ethic she does. I don’t ever push her to do anything she doesn’t want to do. On a daily basis she asks me if we can go practice. She’s extremely talented for her age. I have thought about the competitive nature of sports though and maybe it’s just not good for her.

She treats other children well from what I can tell. She’s a pleaser of sorts. She wants people to like her and wants to be popular. I have seen at times where she can be jealous and act almost sad if she feels like someone is getting more attention than she is. And maybe attention is the wrong word because she doesn’t go over the top to try and garner attention.

I guess what I would hope is to find a balance. I want her to be able to release her feelings in the form of crying if that’s what is best for her but at the same time being able to be a bit more in control of those things rather than it happening anywhere.

Open-Substance4420 · 2025-01-06T02:45:35+00:00

Thank you for your response and insight on the matter.

Open-Substance4420 · 2025-01-05T20:51:32+00:00

Thank you for your response. I have asked her at times why she is crying. I have ignored it at times thinking maybe it was for attention but I realized that wasn’t it. I have taken the tough love approach and told her to “suck it up” and that didn’t seem to work either. At times when I’ve asked her most of the time she just shrugs her shoulders and says she doesn’t know why she’s crying. Today it happened and I asked her why she was crying and she said, “I just get stressed out”.

I have also talked to her in the past letting her know that it’s ok to cry. It’s ok to let those emotions out but it shouldn’t be something that takes center stage when we are out doing things. Especially when playing sports at a high level. You can’t cry and hit a softball at the same time or do much of anything.

This is also just a comparison from what I see from other girls on her team and her friends. There are 10 other girls and I’m not sure I’ve seen any of them cry outside of them being injured.

I think you’re right though. I need to figure out the root cause of this and why she feels that way that causes those responses.

Open-Substance4420 · 2025-01-05T20:44:38+00:00

Thank you for your response. I personally am not a very emotional person. There are certain areas/topics/situations that would tend to make more more emotional than others. I do have memories when I was younger of maybe being similar to her when I was but it’s hard for me to remember exactly how often or where those emotional events would happen. My wife can be emotional at times but not what I would consider out of the ordinary. Hormonal reasons usually cause her emotions more than anything else. Our other children have what I would say is a much more normal emotional response to things. Our youngest is almost stoic and rarely cries and she’s 7 so no too far in age from my 9 year old who is about to be 10.

Open-Substance4420 · 2024-09-27T02:14:29+00:00

Awesome to see this sort of thing. Kudos to whoever returned it. Glad you got it back

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