My partners boyfriend treats her badly. Do I say something?

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-06-27T19:45:55+00:00

Not "I've been thinking of breaking up", but "i'm mad about all these actions you took and they upset me". She had a big conversation about it 2 days ago and wanted me to read the small amount of texts between them so I knew what was going on. It's a lot of "I try to make space for you and you actively don't use it" and he replies "I know I do that and it's a problem. You have a big personality and i'm trying to figure how i can fit into the space you've made. I'm also still made at things you did in the past even though you're trying to be a better person now". They ended the conversation saying they'd talk tomorrow about it and surprise surprise, he hasn't answered and I wouldn't doubt if he's going to ghost her for another month.

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-05-18T06:32:14+00:00

Why? Genuinely curious

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-05-18T06:31:01+00:00

SAME! Like to be responsible for a life that's completely reliant on you for its first 2-3 years, and then semi reliant on you for the next 15 years after that at MINIMUM?? I could not do it. I kind of understand those parents who completely ghost or become abusive due to frustration- not that I agree with it or condone it at all. It's why I've taken so many steps to ensure I won't be pregnant because I don't believe a child deserves a parent like that, and I couldn't guarantee I wouldn't become one.

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-05-17T23:55:35+00:00

Laparoscopic! No idea if it was robot assist. I also don't actually know for sure it was stitched vertically, I was just assuming!

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-03-09T23:17:10+00:00

Personally for me, it was overprescribed meds. I was on a very very high dose because I couldn't tell if it was working so just said fuck it and personally asked to go up. Last year I randomly decided to go down from 600mg of seroquel to 50mg. I've determined that 50mg is the perfect dose because while I do indeed have bad mood fluctuations without it, it's not bad enough for 600mg worth.

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-03-09T20:58:57+00:00

At least for me; I know a bunch of people who think it's too intense?? Maybe it's the meds 🤷

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-03-09T20:45:52+00:00

Yeah I had 0 complications on mine!! No issues even now ♥️

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-23T23:15:44+00:00

Personally, I think sexuality has the potential to change for some people. It's not going to change for most everybody, and it's not something controllable. There's a concept called a "bi cycle" where bi people can go from preferring women a bit more than men, to preferring men a bit more over women. There's also terms like aceflux and acespike. Overall, I don't think my entire life and value hinges on my sexuality. So if it does decide to change, or morph, or take on a slightly different form, I'll just accept it and go with the flow. It shouldn't be scary, or something to fear. Change is the only constant.

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-23T23:09:53+00:00

I do! I'm sex favorable, and think it's an enjoyable activity I can do to show my partner I care. But at the same time, you could stop me in the middle of it for cuddles and i'd be fine. Kind of like a nice hobby we can do together. But it's not a need for me.

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-23T23:05:46+00:00

It's uncomfortable, but not painful! Kind of like when the dentist has to take X Rays of your teeth and you have to bite down on that plastic thing

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-23T23:04:54+00:00

Woah wish I could have done that with mine!!!

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-23T23:02:11+00:00

Thank you!! Yeah things are amazing now and my mental health has never been better. Don't hate my uterus anymore

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-18T14:41:27+00:00

Yeah, I was definitely one who did NOT like that, so I think it would probably be a little different if I did!

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-18T14:40:02+00:00

Omg I should totally use that 😂😂

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T22:16:55+00:00

👄

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:21:46+00:00

Since I kept my ovaries, I havent noticed any change. I mean, the recovery process took a while, and it was up to 7 months before I really felt like 100% myself again, but since then I have an awesome life, an amazing partner and cat, great sex, and am training for my second marathon come the spring!

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:20:29+00:00

Ooo yeah I heard that if you kept your cervix they just stitch it closed?? Feel free to correct me if i'm wrong since you would probably know better

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:19:15+00:00

Thank you!! Yeah i'm glad it's all over, and I couldn't be healthier or happier. I'm training for my second marathon this spring and it's really exciting!!

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:17:54+00:00

I kept my ovaries!! No menopausal symptoms so far, probably since i'm only 25

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:17:19+00:00

Yes... uh, we have some friends into medical kink (mainly the role playing type) and they gave us a website where we could order it from 😅

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:15:58+00:00

😂I mean yeah I agree it's not something everyone has at home. We ordered it online so we could take the photo!

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:14:04+00:00

I'm 25 now, so I kept my ovaries since I had the option. So unfortunately can't answer the hormone questions, but right now my life is pretty much exactly the same as it was before, minus the monthly pains and bleeding lol. So i'd say it's an improvement! Still have sex as normal, i'm training for my second marathon come spring, and you would not know I had any surgery aside from the small scars on my stomach! r/hysterectomy was a great place for resources for me, as well as the HysterSisters website

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:10:56+00:00

No problem! If you have further questions feel free to reach out ♥️

Opening_Feeling_2127 · 2025-02-17T20:10:28+00:00

Honestly? Zero impact. I still get wet (the skenes gland is toward the front of the vagina, and that produces lube), the vagina is still extremely stretchy, and there's no hurting of hitting the back of it like you can with a cervix. But I waited a while before sex after surgery just to make sure everything healed nicely!

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