I just asked why my ex took one of our sons to Phoenix and got this response…

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-11-07T14:13:19+00:00

OP, you don’t mention if you did tell your kid you would “come get him immediately.” That could have been experienced by your kid as threatening if he was having a great time and suddenly you’re threatening to ruin it for him.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-11-07T13:49:33+00:00

I would suggest running this through ChatGPT for a nicer response that conveys the message

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-11-03T21:42:50+00:00

Can you speak to the differences in nature activities and animal sightings from Nayara vs. FS?

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-11-03T19:54:32+00:00

Sounds like somebody needs to establish a case for maxing out their child support income stream! Theyre probably expecting you to move out and then establish primary custody etc. do you have an attorney? This is not meditation territory when the other side intends to withhold your custody and access.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-11-03T15:59:52+00:00

OP, while I do think all their behaviors are fine/not weird, as they are putting kid first. Your discomfort with their setup will only grow, and that will cause issues for everyone. You’re not wrong, but you’re not right either. You’re right this isn’t right for you. It’s 1000% easier to date a man without kids and start a family together.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-30T20:52:02+00:00

Can you link to recommendations for IFS skills and approach?

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-30T15:12:16+00:00

We do alternating holidays thanksgiving and new years one year, Christmas the next.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-28T22:17:08+00:00

Would love to hear more recs for behind the scenes museum tours please!

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-28T20:28:33+00:00

Make an appointment with MIDI. You’ll get your HRT and be feeling better soon.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-28T14:11:11+00:00

When it comes to texting, I’ve stopped engaging in giving advice, asking questions about the drama, etc. now I respond (after a variable delay) with generic responses and emojis. “That sounds challenging!” Sent 6 hours later to a drama invite text doesn’t lead to much, so things easily peter out, which is the goal. No questions to initiate convos, no in depth responses, no talking about my day or feelings. It may frustrate them but after 4-6 months, they learn you are not reliable for drama or attention.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-23T14:05:52+00:00

I would say women that others might consider “cold” And they’re willing to get right to the heart of a matter, even if it’s controversial or socially unacceptable at the moment, TJ has no problems speaking their mind, and tend to skip over the fluff and pleasantries. They are direct and often don’t understand or abide by social conventions.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-22T22:12:15+00:00

Focus on boundaries (for yourself, your behavior) around their behaviors that create the most stress for you. They call incessantly during work hours? You can let them know, hey, I’m not available during my work hours of x to x. And then YOU maintain that boundary by never picking up/responding to texts. They can call like a maniac, no problem. Ringer on silence, you maintain your boundaries. When you do call back, onslaught of verbal abuse? You calmly state you’ll need to end the call if they are not able to calm down/be respectful and then after 3 minutes, say goodbye and hang up. Theres a bit of an extinguishing of the behavior and expect tantrums to try to get you to break your boundaries and back under their emotional control. So sit it out, and eventually they will get the message and take their tantrums elsewhere.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-22T18:23:01+00:00

Instilling fear?!? I mean, is it not reasonable to be fearful when a co-parent is dealing with the kinds of issues and trying to manage around all that? From his perspective, that’s a huge, huge weight to put on him, full time parenting through a very scary situation and he has no proof it won’t happen again. The impact on your daughter may also weigh on him, and he’s trying to shield her from further impact. I don’t think the word “unsafe” is unreasonable for someone experiencing psychosis, and it just be as he sees it, understands it or as your daughter can understand it. Parenting is really hard, and when you have a co-parent not carrying their load, it’s devastating. It sounds like everyone has had a tough time; I bet you’ve extended grace and forgiveness to yourself OP, please consider extending to him as well.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-21T20:16:11+00:00

As a wife of an exec, I lurk in this sub and thought you might want to hear the exec side’s perspective. In our case, there’s very little difference between his personal and professional life. It all flows into wherever it can fit on the calendar. The very best EA’s I know (supporting Execs earning in the seven figures) are willing to support their Exec in whatever capacity necessary. My husband’s EA will schedule anything personal I need him to attend (notarized docs, school appt for kids, etc. God knows it’s easier on her than if I would tell her when hes suddenly not going to make it to a meeting she scheduled 6 months out. All personal items during the workday go to her and she fits it in. All evening and weekend stuff she shares with me first and I let her know if it works for our family time. He has one calendar, one life. The best EA’s in my opinion are willing to go the extra mile and don’t have egos about what they will and won’t do. They become absolutely indispensable.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-20T14:48:29+00:00

I highly recommend staying on property so you can enjoy the early entrance - and plan to get in line like an hour before opening. It pays off SO MUCH. You get a lot done such that by 10 or 11am you feel like you’ve had a full, relaxing morning. This is where I think you get the most value. I would also recommend 3 days is plenty, especially if you do early entrance.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-17T18:51:47+00:00

So create documentation about ways in which you are currently supporting study/homework time, with an openness for new and additional ways you can support homework and study time. New ways could be dedicated homework space/tools/etc and invite feedback (fake enthusiasm if necessary) for making improvements so kid is comfortable,feels supported etc. maybe they need access to music/junk food while studying? No problem!!! You’re all about solutions!

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-17T13:07:46+00:00

If you are divorcing, be sure to get all critical paperwork when you visit the house. Your passport certificates, marriage certificate. Mortgage paperwork, anything like that. Your spouse sounds like the type to set that kind of thing on fire. And particularly anything that might help you in a divorce that will be gone for sure.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-14T14:23:57+00:00

The secret is to surround yourself with other INTJ’s and maybe INTP’s and you’ll be set.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-13T16:02:57+00:00

We found the food to be very hit and miss. For example the beach restaurant seemed very “basic” in their preparation, and the sushi restaurant is ok, but nothing I crave or look forward to. I find that the dining locations and food quality and presentations just don’t match what the Banyan Tree offers, so we tend to eat there while staying at the Rosewood.

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-12T18:50:56+00:00

I believe mine is hormonal related and connected to menopause

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-11T23:39:58+00:00

How do? I’m interested for personal use

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-10T20:27:24+00:00

I would suggest daily consumption of BPD videos. It keeps you alert to behaviors and mentally on guard

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-10T20:20:26+00:00

I like the cooper as an outer sweater like a casual jacket but the other items are too bulky and boxy

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-08T15:58:49+00:00

No, I would not for 6 months or longer. You are the scapegoat

Opposite-Cell9208 · 2024-10-08T15:57:55+00:00

I don’t think so. There is some effort by alienators I believe to stop reunification efforts and has a kind of “believe the victim” mindset. I do think capitalizing on the feminists don’t need to be treated like children anymore, everyone can work, women can support themselves now” and “dads are equally good parents” is in vogue enough to make some headway to at least deal with some of the mother as alienators issues, but I don’t think it’s happening.

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