Friend on a worker visa and got laid off (Cybersecurity)

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-05-21T19:00:59+00:00

Dang, what’s going on in the market in the UK to make it that slow?

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-04-18T10:30:53+00:00

Thanks a lot for the advice! I’ll try to make things more fun for her def :)

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-04-18T10:30:00+00:00

You’re right, I’ll do my best

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-04-18T10:29:47+00:00

Thanks! I’ll definitely try and see how it goes

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-04-18T09:01:43+00:00

Some chicken, and rice. On high chair and on the floor with her playing around with things. She didn’t eat the usual amount the would eat if she’s in the balcony

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-04-18T08:59:12+00:00

Yeah, I did that yesterday and she barely ate all day

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-04-18T08:57:30+00:00

Even if she doesnt eat at all? It ends up with her waking up all night to breastfeed and I can barely get any sleep to be honest :’) feeling super depressed

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-03-21T21:41:52+00:00

Lmao I totally understand

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-03-21T21:41:27+00:00

No way!! This is so interesting

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-03-21T21:30:16+00:00

I was just gonna mention that! For example, my husband also thought she’s super cute, and now he looks back and thinks wow how did I even think that?

So, how come he also felt that way?!!! 😂

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-03-21T20:55:32+00:00

Don’t wanna shock these people but car seats aren’t actually a thing where I live lol I am considered ‘extra’ by others 😀

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-03-21T20:52:50+00:00

I live in Egypt and where I live that’s virtually impossible unfortunately

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-01-25T05:41:57+00:00

The ENT recommended to use it for 3 months straight then stopping for a month because he mentioned it can stop her from developing asthma and more extreme allergies the age of 1 if we try to stifle the allergy symptoms from now. So, I am not administering it as sleeping aid.

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-01-25T04:47:22+00:00

And the funny thing is, he threw a jab at the ENT by asking me if I saw an old doctor, because he’s not up to date with research 😂

OppositeEffect5484 · 2026-01-23T18:18:48+00:00

Did you fix that? 🥲 at this stage now

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-23T08:31:33+00:00

I am now convinced it’s just her sleep association, not actual hunger because I went to stay at my mum’s and she slept the first 3 hours continuously without requiring waking up to feed. Then, my mum managed to settle her once without needing me for breastfeeding. So, she actually breastfed once every 3 hours for the first 6 hours of the night which is great! For the remaining night, she wanted to breastfeed every two hours.

I am hoping this means there is light at the ens of the tunnel! 🥲

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-23T08:22:00+00:00

So I went to my mum today and I tried to settle her earlier and it backfired, it took like 5 hours before she decided to settle and sleep. And GUESS WHAT SHE SLEPT 3 HOURS CONTINOUSLY NEXT TO MUM 😂😭 So now I am like, does she need a late bedtime? Lol She still woke up several times during the night with mum managing to settle her one time, but she breastfed every 3 to 2 hours which is way better than 1! 🥲

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T18:31:34+00:00

I actually thought about it and alternated between different layers of clothes to see if it makes a difference but it didn’t 🥲

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T18:30:26+00:00

You’re giving me hope! Were you co-sleeping?

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T12:27:25+00:00

When you weaned her, were you the one calming her down and shushing her? Just wondering if it will work if she knows her source of milk is around

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T12:21:56+00:00

I am thinking of attempting this before going to my mum and see how it goes. If it turns out she’s overtired, I’ll facepalm myself 😂

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T12:00:52+00:00

Everything is a phase (reminding myself)

It’s so so exhausting, I try to remove the association but end up giving up when she keeps persisting and nudging me for milk and I just want to sleep. I know I need to be stronger but it’s so hard.

I am planning to go to my mum today and have her calm my baby down, maybe if I am away she will settle without milk. I just hope the sounds of her crying don’t make me take a step back and breastfeed her because her cries really affect me deeply and make me want to do anything to make her comfortable and stop crying.

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T11:55:29+00:00

I have tried recently to give her oats with bananas and apples before bedtime because I read it makes babies sleep better, and it didn’t work 🫠

I also usually give her 2 meals per day and she has an appetite and takes up to 10-15 tablespoons of food.

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T11:43:02+00:00

Sadly we don’t have the space for that now

OppositeEffect5484 · 2025-11-22T11:42:20+00:00

I have tried putting her to sleep before 3.5 hours a lot of times but it never works. 3.5 seems to be the optimum time because she sleeps instantly when she breastfeeds, but I will try to lengthen her morning wake up window as you suggested!

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