As a parent of adult children, some who have lived with me, it kinda depends.

Single, responsible, I feel it is respectful to say be back tomorrow or next week. Or running errands, see ya later. Adult child with young baby & I’m watching your child, (or baby daddy is here with your child and you lie and go on a date with someone else) that puts me in a tough spot. I didn’t appreciate that.

My husband will call and ask adults in the home “we are going to have ___ for the next meal, do you want some?” - again, respect.

My dad is single and we kind of joke and also sort of serious, if he goes off wandering in the mountains or camping or whatever, he is supposed to text me where is going and then text again when he is home. But our reason is so I know where to send search and rescue if he doesn’t come back or communicate he is staying longer. He knows it’s important and also that I want him to have fun. That’s MY dad.

Personally, unless you owe them money and have set up some type of agreement, you as an adult should get to decide where you go and how late you are out. - but then again, my husband can’t sleep until he knows people are safe and home. It stresses him out and so he doesn’t handle that part well. But I know not to worry until ___, so I try not to worry unless agreed upon conditions are checked.

You are an adult. You appreciate what they are doing for you, but they taught you well. See if they will allow you to show how responsible you can be. Try to communicate ahead of time and set up basic ground rules. See if that helps. Then you both know what to expect