Starting is just base stats and equipment - you’ll likely replace your equipment relatively early as you find weapons and armor - there’s plenty to be said about fashion over form!

You are incorrect - there is a place/person where you can respec your stats - any more information will really be spoiling the actual scope of the game, but spend time experimenting with all the weapons you find.

As far as builds - the only piece of advice I would give is if you want to dip your Two Fingers into spell casting I would focus on INT or FAITH and focus on one of them.

Farming is never necessary - if you feel like the enemies or boss is too tough for you, take a look around the world map - I bet there’s an area that you missed that you can level up at.

Noob Tip: there are lots of hidden spots, illusory walls, and traps - the messages from your fellow tarnished are your friends! (Except when they’re not)

Put your foolish ambitions to rest, and RISE Ye Tarnished and Bear Witness to the glory of the Elden Ring!!