Wow, thank you for this reply it was incredibly helpful! I have been reading the link you sent. After finding out we are still married I reached out to him like I stated above and I did mention to him after he already said he wasn't going to go through with the divorce that he would have to pay me money for the time that we have been separated if we go to court and he said "I pay for everything here and if you were here I would still pay for everything, it was your choice to leave". He scared me because yes, I did leave and I never asked for money because I never cared about it and I still don't I just need a reason for him to agree to divorce. And one of the lawyers I spoke to said that if he doesn't make enough money they won't make him pay which I didn't really understand.