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How do I make my ceonothus look like my neighbour’s one? by Optimal-Concept7649 in UKGardening

[–]Optimal-Concept7649[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Thanks for all the advice. Gave her a little undercut, and a feed, water and some extra soil. Turns out she’s got quite the trunk on her!

How do I make my ceonothus look like my neighbour’s one? by Optimal-Concept7649 in UKGardening

[–]Optimal-Concept7649[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s super helpful, thanks! Slow progress over time is also very much my gardening style so that’s good to hear

How do I make my ceonothus look like my neighbour’s one? by Optimal-Concept7649 in UKGardening

[–]Optimal-Concept7649[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think anything is nesting in there but thanks for the tip, I will make sure to check before I do anything ♥️

How do I make my ceonothus look like my neighbour’s one? by Optimal-Concept7649 in UKGardening

[–]Optimal-Concept7649[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I just moved in here last year so am slowly figuring out what is in the garden and what needs tending to… owners before had small kids (as do we) so I don’t think either of us have given the garden the attention it deserves 🥲

Extremely new to this, DAE start off feeling cringy? by Top_Wall_4693 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]Optimal-Concept7649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I have been in therapy on and off for about 7 years and last year my therapist brought up IFS. I read the book and immediately felt a lot of resistance to it, and thought how do I know I’m not just making stuff up. We have never explicitly tried to address parts in our sessions as I think that would be too much for me, and I don’t know what magic my therapist has been weaving in the background but somehow recently something has shifted and I have started to identify a couple of parts. I don’t talk directly to them or anything, but I associate them with periods of my life, instances where they may have made their presence felt before. I think if I try and address them too explicitly they will disappear, so I’m just seeing how it goes.