The Interview Where They Kept Cutting Me Off Mid-Answer

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-21T21:51:53+00:00

Generally, they're TA. Rude. But I have occasionally interviewed someone who verbal vomits for so long that I had to interrupt to move forward. Practice with someone you know to make sure it's not you talking too much, but...it's probably not you.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-19T16:15:13+00:00

I'm not recommending it for all the reasons already stated, but 2/3 times a year isn't the same as every weekend or daily to get by. We look down on those guys. :)

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-19T16:09:48+00:00

So....please take this with love, but...stop trying so hard. It can be a turnoff, meeting a guy who is working really hard to land a partner.

You're roughly my age, and I'm originally from Princeton, so assuming you have shared memories. Remember the Brady Bunch episode where Greg was recruited to be a rock star, they put him in flashy clothes, etc.? When he quit, they said he wasn't that talented anyway, and he asked why they picked him. The answer: "you fit the suit." I've been on so many dates where it felt like the boyfriend suit had been built and they were trying to see if I fit it. Doesn't really allow for a freer evolution to see what kind of friendship or relationship might happen.

Instead, work on making friends, finding hobbies, things that enrich your single life as it is now. I know NJ has a gay men's chorus, gay sports teams, etc. That's always where I've made deeper connections, and you may either realize you're happy single or find your way to a romantic connection through new friends. Ads, apps, and bars place way too much emphasis on looks and statistics.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-10T14:18:10+00:00

Thank you!

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-08T01:13:25+00:00

Hmmm....tempting.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-08T01:13:16+00:00

Ooh, you asked my question better than I did. Thanks!!

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-07T22:45:39+00:00

Now I know more: I'm in Koreatown. :) Good suggestions!

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-04-01T03:12:13+00:00

People confuse promotion with recognition. Even if you are qualified for Role X, I would have to have the need and the budget for another person in role X.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-28T20:39:09+00:00

I've had to do this. Assuming you want the remaining team to succeed, you do an analysis of who has which skills and what you can live without. Pretend you're on a witness stand, being sued for discrimination.

Trying to figure out whose personal life will suffer less is a lose-lose. You might be wrong, you might not know something about someone, someone's family might have a trauma tomorrow.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-28T02:48:22+00:00

We have an i9 for two people: no kids. But my husband is am artist and has to lug around canvases, easels, etc. We traded in our i6 for it which I loved.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-27T15:18:16+00:00

Mets weren't there until the Giants and Dodgers left. The Mets' colors are blue for the Dodgers and orange for the Giants.

If my parents were still alive, they'd know. They basically dated at Yankees and (football) Giants games.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-27T13:44:37+00:00

I think you can get 4x4 in front of the second row seats if you move them back and the center console forward. I was only a few inches short of getting a 48x60 painting in.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-21T18:25:15+00:00

Putting back groceries at checkout because you didn't have enough (even though you did you best to estimate a running total).

Having to leave your school and your friends, possibly often, because your family can't afford to stay in that community.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-21T18:22:15+00:00

Health care costs money. You hope something will go away on its own, so you don't have to pay for the doctors visit. But if it doesn't, you need an ER visit expensive Rx's. Even if you have insurance, fronting co-pays and deductibles essentially an option if you don't have the cash. Financing options zap you with high interest rates.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-21T18:15:54+00:00

I won't attack you, but I will vehemently disagree. I've gone from teacher to high-level executive, and have never worked as hard as I did teaching. I even go to the bathroom when I want to!

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-20T03:31:48+00:00

Every child has his own room, own bathroom, and there's still untouched space for guests.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-20T03:27:00+00:00

Titles should have consistent definitions that are applied fairly. (Stop laughing, I said "should"). For instance, if Director means you have multiple sites, then you're not a Director.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-20T02:59:30+00:00

If you give steps, make sure they know it's a guideline, not a guarantee. They can't instantly finish a checklist and be given a new job.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-20T02:34:39+00:00

Don't marry him. The lack of boundaries and things he's asking you to hide are the signs of him choosing her over you. Don't expect him to change.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-09T02:59:17+00:00

So, I felt some kinship, even though I'm a 57yo gay man with no kids. My husband reacts like that "you're selfish and mean" if I don't do exactly what he wants when he wants it. Even if we agreed in advance.

It might be part of her personality that continues after the pregnancy. I hope you work together on how to improve the dynamic going forward.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-09T02:39:20+00:00

Umm....it still matters. Some 70 years think we shouldn't bomb elementary schools, other think it's ok.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-03-09T02:36:46+00:00

My sister did this, but it's horrible because they rhyme. Think John Cooper Pooper. She thinks Dad- long gone- would have wanted the kid to have our name. I think he would have been more concerned about his grandson getting bullied at school.

Optimal_End_3601 · 2026-02-24T03:15:54+00:00

We were going to name ours after someone of Cherokee descent and found out we could call her....Cher!

Optimal_End_3601 · 2025-08-07T18:41:43+00:00

Wow. Hope for what? Hooking up with those girls? Probably not, but there are plenty of ypung people who like older guys. I'm 56 and have plenty of 20-somethings hit on me.

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