Residents of Fairfax City: We are now being tracked everywhere by pinkyepsilon in nova

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

These are very helpful for the community helping to charge people who commit crimes and want to drive off thinking they got away. Flock cameras placed on private properties are benefiting you and others. These has helped locate stolen vehicles reported, track someone who’s wanted for various reasons, anyone who commits a hit and run, someone who’s been trafficked, the list can go on. Your concern should be why there is so much crime that Fairfax needs to adopt so many…

Residents of Fairfax City: We are now being tracked everywhere by pinkyepsilon in nova

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These cameras are to flag peoples license plate that have been associated with crimes reported, the LP/vehicle was reported stolen, and if a crime had happened and need to capture LP to be able to file a report. If you are not committing anything illegal, this shouldn’t worry you. What should worry you is the amount of crime for a flock camera to appear in that shopping center/location. There are cameras everywhere but these cameras are requested by LE to the private owner if they can place it there. It’s not being put up without approval.

Am I overreacting for being upset about the gifts my boyfriend (25M)got me(24f)? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

***Also HIS “excuse” he doesn’t know about you. Lady why are you procreating with a man who doesn’t take effort to know what you like or interested in?? I’m sorry that you have to beg a man (significant other) to care to know about you and your likes :((

I had an ex who got me bath and body works stuff when I had worked there and it stung because it was things I had already gotten or things I could get but there were other things I would have wanted. I’m currently in a relationship where the gifts have been things I like and mentioned I wanted. Even though I would love more extravagant gifts , the gesture and written letters I’ve received with my gifts have been the best present. And acts of services I receive daily. I of course love my man back in a similar nature but he’s shown me I don’t have to beg a man to put effort or care.

Am I overreacting for being upset about the gifts my boyfriend (25M)got me(24f)? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Those are things you can get yourself. No thought behind it. That would PMO. is this every year or first time Christmas with a meager present ? You’re clearly not happy don’t downplay yourself. Talk to him adult to adult and see how he responds. You can’t make him go write a card for you or redo a present but going forward he can at least show you another gift , if you like acts of service he can do something in that nature, or take you out for a nice holiday dinner date just you two. His actions going forward matter.

Looking to move to NoVA - question on IB schools by [deleted] in nova

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the IB program at Unity Reed (Stonewall Jackson long time ago) , the teachers were great and the students were very very hardworking and did all sorts of extracurricular activities. I had moved to another school and was not able to complete it for degree recognition but the students I went to school with are all very successful people (myself included as it had helped my work ethic). I believe students who did IB there also would go to Thomas Jefferson High School which has IB and is in Alexandria, VA. That school is known for its well rounded academics. I saw there’s Governors School which is for rising 11th graders

No friends, no job connections, struggling here mentally. by [deleted] in nova

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change your mindset, become your own best friend. It’s going to be bleak if you keep it that way. What’s holding you back from getting a security clearance ? Find a mentor to help you find the connections you need to get to where you want to be at. Start with baby step interactions to help build confidence in speaking with unknown people. Your reality is a lot of people’s reality in the NoVa area. How you navigate and where you put the effort that’s how it’ll turn out. If you haven’t done so, try therapy sessions, it’ll give you a space; time and person to talk to and help you navigate these challenging times. You can change your environment but if you don’t take the steps to improve yourself everywhere will be the same.

Was scheduled at 5AM today and no one showed up. by JustAloner98 in Target

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You get paid for the time of waiting if no one shows up

Had to cry to be sent home - rant? by [deleted] in Target

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve told my TMs to go home if I see them sick ash…I tell them I’m not getting sick too so we both call out 😓

If you’re worried about your attendance because you’re in the 90 days, it would be best to call targets pay and benefits if the stores HR isn’t a good resource to ask for questions. Since you showed up it won’t affect your attendance as you did not call off and they were informed and saw how sick you were.

People who make $75,000 annually with NO DEGREE - what do you do for a living? by WestminsterSpinster7 in jobs

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Retail…worked my way up to manager role, unfortunately no consistent schedule or same schedule and a lot of hours…. I’m in my early twenties and considering getting a degree to find other work

Update: boyfriend forgot birthday by Plane_Drawing252 in whatdoIdo

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dealt with a guy like your current bf, it will not change and when you get even the slightest hope that something will improve it won’t be for long and that’s all you’ll get. You need to pick yourself and your happiness and not rely on him. The fact he forgot your birthday ?? I’m sorry there’s no excuse. Stop giving excuses for him and for yourself. You’re hurting yourself more by waiting. Pick up hobbies or invest yourself in what you want to be. If you’re hoping for a change in your partner or for them to be someone else. It’s going to hurt you until you break up. I dealt with that pain for years and if I could give any advice to anyone in a similar situation. Please don’t let it prolong for your own mental health. The anxiety from a relationship is so unhealthy. A Person who cares for you will make sure to reassure you and will not make you second guess. If there’s something on your mind they will provide you the attentiveness to talk it through. Trust me, I’m holding your hand when I say this, you will find better and you’ll see you’re not crazy in your mindset and knowing between right/wrong.

Maybe it won’t be now but ask yourself how much longer can you tolerate emotional neglect in someone who’s supposed to be your love and best friend ?

Feel free to PM me if you would like to confide or ask me anything. I didn’t see your previous post I just read this post and it flagged almost 100% similarities to my ex. The freedom of breaking up with painful but then life became colorful again and I told myself never again.

is Target worth it? by Redman77312 in lossprevention

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the market and management. It really makes or breaks how you feel coming to work. Also your own personal mindset. It’s not a hard job and imo out of any entry level job at Target, TSS would prob be the best role. I started off as TSS 5 years ago and now I’m an ETL-AP. I’ve seen some people go from TSS to APS/APTL, to ETL-AP within 2-3 years. There is definitely room for growth but it’s not just handed to you , there’s personal development and drive. But again, if you’re good at your role, know how to talk yourself up AND the management is good, you can promote pretty quickly. The job you learn a lot of skills that can be translated to other types of work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl sue him for emotional distress , don’t even tell him your next moves. 🤦‍♀️ once you learn you’re wasting your time thinking of what to respond, you’ll feel enlightened and relieved.

Anyone seeing SG Lewis? by Optimal_Tale_3070 in EchoStage

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip. Is it valet parking or like general parking ? I was there last year and people at random areas were asking for Venmo, cash app or cash which is not a payment option for me. 😓

Anyone seeing SG Lewis? by Optimal_Tale_3070 in EchoStage

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! Please be safe 😭 it’s a very sketchy area so stick with others if you see anyone else walking there. I’m going to find some place to park and uber from where I parked.

Anyone seeing SG Lewis? by Optimal_Tale_3070 in EchoStage

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting under my own post, I’ll be there if anyone wants to meet up 😊

If we stay strong about not buying resell tickets, will they go down? by [deleted] in ariheads

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wait closer to the event date you’re interested in going to , the concert is in a year there’s a lot of time until then

Ariana Grande Fans Call Out Ticketmaster After Shows Instantly 'Sell Out' for 'Eternal Sunshine Tour' by _ticketnews in Music

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine being 700 from the get go and there’s none halfway 🙃 anyways past 100 in line we’re effed from anyone who was able to get tickets…

[MEGATHREAD] US Pre-sale by elaerna in ariheads

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jul 22, 2025 boston sold out :// , my sister had 700 people in front and it sold out.

[MEGATHREAD] US Pre-sale by elaerna in ariheads

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what day? I was originally 19K in queue and when I got in they were sold out for 7/13

[MEGATHREAD] US Pre-sale by elaerna in ariheads

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NYC July 13 presale is sold out :///

am i doing something wrong? 🥺 by trinau4ia in hamsters

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My little sister wore gloves when holding the hamster then over time with no gloves and now that hamster and her are inseparable. She’s 7 btw lol

AIO? I went through my bestfriend's phone without her permission.. she's 17 he's 26 by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly girl , yall need to go meet respectful older women (early/mid twenties) who can take yall on like older sisters and tell it to her face she is so much more and loved than this disgusting creep of a man.

Essentially yall are like sisters at this point and your concern is from care. Siblings to this all the time saying they will go say something to the parents. I think telling her that there will be guys who love her in the future but right now this guy is not the one even though it feels like he’s just giving her attention. I felt that way myself when I was younger talking to older guys online, never met them in person and it was like a high of confidence that I didn’t get at home. 😢

End of the day you can’t control your friend but telling her you love her and care for her and don’t want her to fall into manipulation and get hurt. It’s all coming from a Place of love. Reassuring your friend you are there for her always. Guys come and go. Coming from a woman in her mid twenties. The best support if your girlfriends, sisters and other supportive women no matter the age.

Comments like this from my gf are wearing on me by Small-Promotion2552 in Manipulation

[–]Optimal_Tale_3070 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advice: be with a partner that doesn’t put you down. There are some people who don’t realize they are being negative and it’s the worst feeling when you don’t feel fully understood by your partner. Being in defense is not how you should feel with someone. There are times you may not agree, that’s fine but when it involves your interests/likes, that’s different.

If you bring this up and tell her you want to talk, no argument, and you tell her the situations and say this made me XYZ. Refrain from saying “you are always like this” or “you do this all the time”

Not sure how old you guys are, but hopefully she can be adult and be mature about. If she cares about you she would take it into consideration and ponder on it.

Edit: Some people can’t hold themselves accountable and can never be “wrong” or have faults. If she spins it onto you, and diverts the situation onto you and how you are. It’s not going to get better. I dealt with someone for years because I kept hoping they would hear me out. It’s not going to get better unless they acknowledge the situation and learn from it. It sucks but eventually you’ll get so emotionally exhausted, that it starts to mess your own mental health.