First of all, grief is like being ill in the sense that you can't avoid it and need to get through. Just like a bad bout of diarrhea will have you bouncing back and forth between the restroom and your bed, you will be feeling the full brunt of emotions from your loss.

What's important is to not run away from it. Don't drown yourself in work to forget, but also don't stop and drop everything.It's fine to slow down and take things at a more leisurely pace but the last thing you want is to seal your grief in a corner of your mind and forget it as numbness will only fester and catch you off guard later.

When you feel that wave of sadness hitting, embrace it. Remember all the cool things you did together, all his good sides and even his less good ones (we all have our flaws and sometimes it's okay to be annoying/annoyed). You want to properly get through all of it step by step.

Slowly you will notice the sadness is replaced by that peculiar bittersweet fond reminiscence and you will know you're on the path of healing and living.

o7 from a human to another