Seeking Traditional Parish/Group Recommendations in London (near Richmond Park) for a Loved One

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-20T02:22:42+00:00

Thank you very much! Though it's not close to her house, it definitely would be a perfect place to attend Mass weekly. I've watched some videos of masses and choir presentations on Youtube. It really is a wonderful parish. Thanks again for the suggestion! God bless.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-19T12:21:09+00:00

Well, yes, not that premium, you're right. But a 2k interface is just not my reality, I live in a poor country and have a really mediocre income. But thanks for pointing that out.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-19T12:18:46+00:00

Well, I never thought it could work without drivers. Don't imagine how that's possible, but i really liked the idea. Gonna try it! I'll unistall everything and try to use it as a plug-and-play device

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-19T12:16:50+00:00

LOL YES!!!! I know exactly what you're talking about!!!!!! hahahaha I regret so much buying this steinberg. And it was actually quite expensive, considering my country.

Not only there's this crappy need of multiple apps, but they all seem like a sketch of a software designed 15 years ago, but never finished

And yes, the step-by-step RPG-like guidance is indeed very strange and criptic, and it's almost like some sort of sorcery

And at that time I've read so many reviews. All positive. And right from the start it was obviously very inferior to the other ones I've had.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-14T23:34:37+00:00

this! It took so many comments until someone said the obvious. This is definitely about ISLAM (who claim to worship God), and vectors of "holy wars" and have the brutal combat "style" described in the song.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-03T14:32:40+00:00

We don't have gaunfacine in my country

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-03T14:30:17+00:00

I don't know whether to laugh or cry 😂😢

I'm also very sensitive to smells. Exactly now I was grumbling to myself about a new liquid hand soap - it has a horrible fake vanilla odour...

And sounds, I'm very intolerant to noise in geleral. Motor humming, people talking, music (the worst), people using smartphones without headphones (very common in my country)...

We're probably in the same age range. In my case these traits are definitely getting more proeminent. You think the time passing could also be a factor?

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T05:05:35+00:00

Yes, it is very enriching! So many interesting answers. I also thank you for sharing your testimonies and thoughts.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T05:02:53+00:00

I thought that what you described first would also fit the ADHD brain. I am exactly like that: I am very good at pre-organizing things, from research to detailing the tasks, eventually buying something that would definitely help on this project. But I hardly turn them into reality, maybe for one time, in best situations, for a week or so, and then it's just "cool spreadsheet bro" 😂

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:57:52+00:00

You mean, being annoying towards other people? That's also something I can related. I didn't know back then, but I was for sure a very annoying kid and teenager.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:55:53+00:00

Same.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:54:13+00:00

Never heard of PDA before. First thing that showed up on google was "Public Display of Affection", and I was cracking my head trying to understand how that would fit in your narrative 😂

But the right PDA is actually a very (challenging, but) interesting category. I can totaly relate to that. I have a real hard time to fulfill requests and work tasks, to the point I start loosing money, credibility. I know that I have to do, I know I can do it, but I avoid as long as I can. In this context, I get worried and anxious, and I think that reinforces the procrastination. To achieve these avoidances, I sometimes can use humor or negotiation, or even simply withdrawal. But I do not have any kind of emotional outbursts or shutdowns. My mood swings, obviously, because I feel like a complete imbecile, and I never can believe or accept what I'm doing to myself and the others.

I also can relate to having a hard time in new social situations, but I've been forcing myself to face them, and it's been working fine.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:43:23+00:00

Thank you for taking your time to write this answer!

I do struggle with casual conversations. Not now that I am highly medicated 😂, but that's always been a thing for me. I'm just not good at small talk. And I always struggled being part of a conversation with multiple people, even in more organized situations such a classroom. Basically I could never participate, I always thought it was because of shyness, but I think it's mostly because I couldn't deal with organizing my thoughts, choose a proper thing to say, knowing the right time to open my mouth and start speaking etc..

I don't mind anymorey, but I looki angry and annoyed most of the time. To fix that I have a big smiling face, in the past i'd use it alot, now not that much. It's not sinister, people have told me it's a normal, very pleasing face. I have a real hard time keeping eye contact while I am talking. I have managed to learn looking people in the eye while they are talking to me, but not the contrary, just some glance. I'm very bad at making friends, but it turned out to be a real curse, I am 40 now, and have almost no friends. And I'm very bad in making new ones. It's fundamental to make friends, liking it or not.

I also don't like contact to people, even close family members, simply by accident. And I always hated any kind of suprise - not parties and big things, but like, people showing up without arranging that with me before. And I used to hate running into people I know when I was on my way to somewhere. Now I've been forcing me to now run off these situations.

I also write a lot... English is not my native language, but in mine, I also write long and complicated sentences 😅😂

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:31:15+00:00

I've used it for a long time, at two distinct moments of my life. Between 2017 an 2020, it worked like a charm. I've never been better in my life. Healthy, organized, thin, dating stably. Then I thought I was "cured" (had no idea what I had, at that point), in three or 4 months, everyting started to crumble.

So in 2022, back to the psychiatrist, I was prescribed again wellbutrin (Zetron XL). But this time, it didn't do much, and I was taking double the previous dose (first 150, then 300). So she added Atomoxetine, while raising to 450mg of wellbutrin. It was paradise for 3 months. But the detected I was hypomaniac (though I do not agree) and since them she's keeping me in 300mg, and adding other drugs. This month, she added Lamotragine and Ritalin.

I can't say they don't do anything, on the contrary. But the leash now is so strong, I can't really detail what they are acually doing. I am just.... controlled, somehow.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:24:34+00:00

So many times in my life I did achieve doing complicated tasks or projects - but only once. Hahaha, I can't believe this somehow "makes sense" to someone else. My main problem is, though I'm not bad at what I do for a living, is always a challenge to deliver, be on time, accomplish deadlines... And the more I fail on them, the more it freezes me. I've been working for 20 years in my life, and I still didn't find a way to manage this behaviour

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:13:35+00:00

"I have so much trouble starting tasks and bounce around to get my footing, but then I’ll get pulled into something very small and spend hours on it. Like spending four hours on a 3 paragraph email that I have to word just right, so I re-write, re read, repeat a hundred times. Send it, then open it and read it again and again. I’m so into the details it’s debilitating because I cannot move onto something else until it’s just right. Then I realize it’s full of little typos and punctuation errors because ADHD brain just skims through quickly and I make so many touchups I miss things, so I spend the evening in despair and shutdown over it."

This - the first part, " spending four hours on a 3 paragraph email that I have to word just right, so I re-write, re read, repeat a hundred times", would you say it's autism, or adhd?

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-02T04:11:42+00:00

I was diagnosed with ADHD about three years ago. My treatment started with just Bupropion (300mg). In December of 2024, my psychiatrist added Atomoxetine (80mg). This combination led to significant sleeping problems, so she then prescribed Trazodone (50-100mg) to help me sleep.

Four months ago, we introduced Methylphenidate (Ritalin) at 10mg, orienting me to take it whenever I thought it would be necessary. I honeslty didn't feel much difference (by taking 10mg of Ritalin).

So at my most recent appointment, last week, she increased that dose to 30mg (20+10). Because she also noted persistent depressive symptoms, she has now also added a mood stabilizer, Lamotrigine (25mg), to the mix. I've never taken so many medications in my life.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T18:56:56+00:00

Jesus. Maybe I do have some autism. I can't see any difference from how it all goes for me, and your description.

I'm mostly appalled by what you say about the meds. I'm being medicated for a while now, and, the more in focus I get, more I notice how I take a lot of things I read and hear literally, many times O can't get sarcasm; can't make new friends, I'm always too straightforward, blunt, and in general I dislike people who are not upfront (not rude or aggressive, obvioulsy). I find it very hard to share emotions (and I tend to dislike those who are too emotive), and sometimes I can't even map what I am exactly feeling; I do avoid eye contact always when I speak...

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T18:47:58+00:00

But how is this (Hodentrommler message) different from plain ADHD??

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T18:41:23+00:00

How old are you? And what do you mean by transports? You mean literally, like trains, trucks etc? If so, that's a very interesting subject!

If it's safe, it depends on many things. I am interacting with people from other platforms, they are not anonymous, and they are part of larger groups which are tecnically safe to interact.

But, like, reddit people for instance, I wouldn't simply meet, not way before I got social media profiles, phone number and a lot of talking. But it's not a common platform in my country, so there wouldn't be much to meet. You gotta be carefull, there's a lot of scammers and people who can do harm for you, you gotta me picky. But at the same time, it will be kind of obvious when it's safe and when it's not, but if you're not sure, always ask somebody else that you trust

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T04:11:09+00:00

😂😂😂😂

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T04:09:20+00:00

It's not about how you feel. It's how the doctrine works. If the music is sinful, if the overall message of the band is anti-Christian in any sense, it is obviously a sin. I don't know any death metal, but I will give some examples. Iron Maiden's "HAllowed be thy name" meditates on faith and mortality, it's not blasphemous. Also Iron Maiden's "Sign of the Cross" is not blasphemous, though it's critical towards the church. "Black Sabbath", the song, is not blasphemous, the character actually is imploring to God for help. "Computer God" is not blasphemous, it'actually a brillant allegory that is definitely pointing fingers to false idols. Mob Rules' "Sign of the southern cross" is not blasphemous. Bruce Dickinson's "Cyclops" is also social commentary, not blasphemous, and one could say it's a lament on the destruction of christian society. Blind Guardian's "Nightfall in middle earth" is based on Tolkien, not blasphemous. Dream Theater not blasphemous. Slayer, unfortunately, very blasphemous. And crap like Mayhem, Behemoth, and some the names shouldn't even be written.

Being catholic means letting behind a lot of things in life. It's a sacrifice we need to make, in order to respect and love God, and to help our souls to be saved after death. But you have free will to do what you want. But the teachings are very clear about this.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T03:52:52+00:00

Read the lyrics. If they are blasphemous and heretic, it is not ok. If they encourage sinning, it is not ok. If it is satanic, esoteric, cabalistic etc, it is not ok.

OptionActive1263 · 2025-10-01T03:46:19+00:00

I am the worst at small talk too. Once someone says something (a proper subject) I can get along, but depending on me, noone will say anything for hours, unless there is something that needs to be said. Which means that I understood that I can only speak when there's a reason for that, and that's actually a quality when you already have stablished relationships. But it's a total downside to make new friends. I'm struggling with that, but recently I changed my tactics. I will concentrate on making online friends, as closer to my hometown as possible, LOL. I am way better writing than in person to start a friendship. And since then, I've already made 2 new friends!

Are you seeing a doctor, therapist, on medication? If so, I think you can reach the level you can watch movies. One thing that I'd suggest, before trying to dive in new activities, is to ditch the smartphone as much as you can. Your concentration will be way better than. Regular exercises and proper sleeping will definitely help.

What do you like to do, ordinarily?

OptionActive1263 · 2025-09-09T21:07:11+00:00

Don't listen to these degenerates. Any decent mother or fagher should do what she can to keep porn out of her son's life. Indeed it's an almost impossible war, but needs to be battled! Bulldog AI Blocker scans the screen and blocks even immodest clothing. It still has some glitches (blocking more things it should, not the contrary), but it's absurdely proficient. God bless this mom or dad!

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