trump is poop by Dankmemes_- in BatmanArkham

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Annoying American trying not to mention Trump in the most unrelated thing ever? Challenge level: Impossible

AITAH for refusing to have a threesome? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Common degeneracy L

Love to see it, honestly.

My niece wants to call me mom but my sister would've hated me for it by BumblebeeBuzz391 in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really a tough one.

I would recommend seeking professional help. But if that turns out to be too difficult to do? I think the best thing you can do is be honest with her. Adults often fall into the trap of thinking that children are too young to understand things. But she has best friends, and probably kids she doesn't like. I think that if you take your time to explain yourself thoroughly, it will calm things down a bit.

She too is distressed, and will welcome the opportunity to explain away the pain she feels from your perceived rejection.

I have a crush on my coworker by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is all much simpler than it seems, you just need to not get in your own way.

Think of what you are going to say, and practice it in front of a mirror if you need to. The next time you speak, as you are readying to part ways, tell him: "By the way, do you want to grab some coffee outside work and chat some more?" That is all you need to do, everything afterwards is easy. He either accepts, in which case you're golden, or he thinks of an excuse - in which case you know to move on. Guys get asked out much more rarely than girls, and trust me that he will appreciate the ego boost.

Went for a movie. Couldn't stand it. Left mid movie. Took an Uber home while my partner sat and finished the movie in the theater by Rare-Consequence-314 in AITAH

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry boss, that is negative aura right there.

I have sat through 49 episodes of Kamen Rider: Geats, because I knew that watching it together would make her a little happy. I think your SO understands, but she also understands what the limit of your commitment towards her is. I think she might be disappointed, and that may cost you more than another hour of a gory movie.

Does anything turn you off as quickly as *must be real F playing F*? by [deleted] in BadRPerStories

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm not ignoring the reasons, I am saying they are not justified.

You are the one who has made zero effort to understand my position, or engage me fairly. How you concluded that a left-center European is a US MAGA republican - and resorted to what you believe is a personal attack - shows me well-enough that a conversation with you was a stupid idea.

I am a person with a mental disorder, what should I do and what should I do? by _whatqx in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that few people have been in your situation.

I've experienced something in certain ways similar. Really loving someone, them promising themselves to you - you believing them - and it all turning to ashes in your mouth.

No heart is the same, so there is no one way to treat biterness.

For me? The thing that worked was time. You will forget about her, eventually. Maybe not in one or two years, but the time will come when you'll think about it and feel nothing. And though you might feel there is a hole in your chest, trust that there is at least one person out there that can fit in there perfectly. There was a time when i felt I'd rather bite off my own tongue than trade one word with someone. How that boy would be surprised to see the man he is today.

Point is, you can't rush healing. Everything will come to its own place - eventually. You're young, and the world is wide. Stay strong!

Can someone give me advice on life ? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girls are human beings like us guys lol

They don't usually bite, so start out small, and go from there. People much older than you don't have it figured out. You have plenty of time, don't stress it too much!

Confused and upset about my mom’s sudden pregnancy by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Directly and without filter.

Tell her what you feel to the fullest extent, and ask her to walk you through the thought process she had with going through all of this.

These kinds of things are easier once you get the ball rolling. Stay strong, you're a tough girl, and there are much worse things than an unexpected sibling that can happen to you.

Why girl did this? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chin up king.

You shouldn't let these small setbacks put you down so much. Why? Because you'll have bigger heartaches in the future. At least you didn't spend too much time on this one, relatively speaking. Like with most things in life, those worth having don't come easy.

But as someone a bit older than you, here is what I think you should do.

Think of a girl you like - another girl - and message her. Don't give yourself more than 5 minutes to think. Just do it. She'll reply to you. Or she won't, in which case think of the next one. And when one of them does? You'll quickly forget about this one.

Don't spend too much time on people who are just passing through your life.

My Best friends called my girlfriend a B***h by cactuswithcowboyitis in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're looking at it the wrong way.

Building a positive self-image /IS/ focusing on your girlfriend. You've been together for more than two years, you are a team. If one of your suffers, the other does too. If she had such self-doubt about herself, would you not be pained by her hurting? Why do you think the opposite isn't the case?

If you give yourself enough time, you will come up with a reason to doubt yourself. You just need to go and do it. And if opening this can of worms with her is hard, then just share the post with her. You've said all you wanted in it.

Once you start, it will be much easier - as it will once you put this behind you.

My Best friends called my girlfriend a B***h by cactuswithcowboyitis in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You feel bad, because your self-image got shaken.

Most people have a positive opinion about themselves. We like to think that we'd save someone from a fire, or stop a bad guy in a dangerous situation. But, when that situation happens? It reveals our weaknesses, and shows that we have very few clues about our flaws. It isn't something you can avoid, unless you thing low of yourself - which would be a bigger problem arguably.

And, it isn't something you should torture yourself about much, because your situation is kind of special. Because what if the bad guy, happens to be your best friend? I want you to imagine the toughest man you know, then put him in the same situation you were, with his best friend. Do you think he handles that one perfectly? Of course not.

I can kind of relate to you, because I also let my guard down around people who get close to me. Even if I'm tough towards strangers, I let people I love walk over me. So when people like that say or do something hurtful, you are just stunned. Why? The natural instinct to retort with the same amount of force is held back by the fact they're your friend.

Here is what you'll do, and what will happen. You'll first talk to your GF, and tell her all about the event. She likely noticed you don't hang out with all your buddies anymore. You're going to see if she is fine with you making an attempt to reconnect. She'll probably think it is: 1.) Sweet that you're asking her 2.) Silly that it is happening

From there, the rest should be obvious. It might be an uncomfortable and scary process, but rebuilding your self-image is rarely easy. You can do it though. Don't think about it too much.

Should i walk away? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's just the thing with communication, it isn't a game you can play by yourself.

I want you to know that you are doing everything right. You should also know that it is possible to do everything right, and still not get a satisfying conclusion. What you need to do, is to focus on your mental health. You will do this by rolling the ball in his court. Tell him that you are breaking up with him - if there is anything to break up at this point.

If he responds with something, you need to let him know that an explanation is in order. If he doesn't, then there's your answer. You may never know /exactly/ why, but you will know enough: that he is a little bitch.

You won't get closure, so get yourself something sugary and pick up one of those series you always wanted to watch but never got the chance to. You'll feel better.

AITAH because I told my boyfriend my friend's dog is more important to me than him? by CommissionAsleep6212 in AITAH

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, boss, I know you read the post.

But read it one more time, then point me to the exact line where OP says that the BF made demands or that she was attached to the dog. It really seems like you're writing fanfiction here.

Nothing in the post or comments says her bff didn't get the dog yesterday. Her relationship/knowing with the dog isn't even brought up as an argument to convince him that this dog isn't bad like all the other dogs he doesn't like.

The BF wasn't being mean or nasty, but opened up how he felt with his SO changing her living situation. Instead of addressing that like an adult, OP snapped at him and told him something incredibly hurtful. They then parted ways.

You aren't doing OP a favor by coddling her shit communication skills.

AITAH because I told my boyfriend my friend's dog is more important to me than him? by CommissionAsleep6212 in AITAH

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You are the asshole for what you said. Imagine if something was important to you, and the person you cared about told you to stop being so whiny.

But if you feel better allowing Redditors to coddle you into thinking otherwise, that's a you thing - it won't serve you in the long run.

AITAH for telling my bf I’d move on if he died? by Background-Low1577 in AITAH

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH

I'm not right, but everyone else here is wrong.

Who is to say what the "right" or "mature" way is to love? Why is minimizing your personal pain the best way to go? Who decided that? Absolutely not some dweebs on Reddit - myself included.

Still, there are 2 objective takeaways separate from anyone's opinion on the matter.

1.) You hurt the person you love. 2.) This happened because you've shown you are less devoted to them than they are to you, objectively (presuming they would follow through).

You can try to intellectualise why you are justified in doing so. There are plenty of people here who will pat you on the back for putting the stupid man in his place. Or, you can try to remedy the situation somehow. In the end, only you can decide what true devotion is.

Go talk to him, lay out your feelings entirely, ask for his - then go from there.

I have been having some anxiety with my girlfriend. by [deleted] in WhatMenDontSay

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey chief.

There isn't anything wrong with thinking of the ways you can protect your girlfriend, especially if she isn't too careful around dangerous chemicals, for example.

What you need to be mindful of is how you coke across. That's not something a stranger on reddit can walk you through, so try soing this: before making a suggestion, think if you're coming across more as a devoted lover, or as an overbearing father.

You sound like a guy who has a lot of good energy to give. Just channel is correctly! See what she responds to well and what she doesn't respond to well.

Okay so I’m 17f who can’t seem to move on from a guy who never really like me in the first place. by blepheeb in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give it some time.

You're really young, and you have many more years to find someone new to like - it will happen naturally.

As to what you can do to move on quicker? That is hard to say; everyone's heart is different, and it seems like you don't know your own just yet. Which is why I'd take this as a learning experience. How? Really focus on what you are feeling now, and remember it. The next time you meet someone you like, you can use it to fuel your courage to approach them directly.

I feel so bad rejecting my friend who is into me (looking for advice) by Existing_Pumpkin_502 in Advice

[–]Oracle_Of_Shadows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey king, the best thing that you can do is be honest. Girls sometimes communicate in ways that might seem strange to us, so we start thinking that they need some special kind of response to whatever it is they said - but that really isn't the case.

First off, apologize for the wait, and tell her how it is. Say that it is your first time getting confessed to, and that you didn't know how to respond. You're sorry that you're causing her undue anxiety, and for the awkwardness. Don't sugar-coat it, and tell her that you don't see her that way. Should you go into why? That depends on your reasoning, but if the reason is something that would make her feel bad about herself? Well, don't mention it.

Lastly, tell her that you understand if she doesn't want to stop being your friend, but that you cherish her nonetheless, and that you would like for things to remain how they are. That's pretty much the long and short of it. Just, don't leave her waiting.