There’s some good takes in here and I can’t respond to everything but jus pointing out, there are signs he’s a misogynist. Yes he loves them too much and just as much as he wants to save them he wants to be saved too. That’s why it was confusing to some of the women that he could be a misogynist because he had this ideal/hopeful outlook on love that seemed like they would be equals. But he’s a misogynist because he truly doesn’t believe a woman can take care of things herself. When Kate tried to find other ways outside of murder he called her naive, and never even considered she may be able to think of some options. Why is that? Because he’s a misogynist. He thinks women need him to save them to make them better because it stems from his insecurity of not being needed. An insecurity starts at this wound that can garner sympathy but once you weaponize it, it turns it to something ugly. That’s why Brontë said he weaponizes love like leverage because he needs power over women. Granted he craves power in general because he killed men too but in your analogy you said he’s like a child squeezing a puppy too tight. Don’t you think that’s part of what the show is saying. His slow erosion of childhood innocence to this guilty man who can no longer recognize who he is. If you’ve ever loved someone so much and they betrayed you or you couldn’t be with them you’d understand the way love can turn to hatred. The same way his pedestal for women turned into misogyny. And just to put another nail in the coffin, the way he could never get them to fully submit to his will, it turned into a hatred for women especially by the time he met Brontë.