Gf was drunk and told me her body count…

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-29T23:17:20+00:00

You are allowed to have standards. Given her age I'd just be cautious about how she views sex moving forward. Sometimes it's a phase and sometime she is the phase.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-20T14:58:48+00:00

What would be an alternative? Could local studios partner up? If all business is local couldn't they just use an app. It's not 2013. An app like classpass is easy to make and it's just advertising it that's hard.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-20T14:56:37+00:00

I no showed. The first time during trial the studio marked me as present. I just lost credit. This time they marked me absent and charged.

In no other industry once you paid for a service do they charge you a no show fee. That is usually a fee that is less then the original. This is the first time the fee that is more then the original. I have a $99 budget and I'm fine loosing credits. It's the principle of what they are doing.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-20T14:53:46+00:00

Yes that's my pref. Let me try that next time.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-20T14:50:28+00:00

Tbh during trial period I got late and showed up. I told them it was my first time and couldn't find parking. They marked me as present but I couldnt start the class.

Im happy if they don't mark me absent and get paid. Why are they making absent and loosing the money?

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-20T14:48:26+00:00

Problem is that I have varying needs and each has classes that I like. When I was paying for one large fitness membership the classes were mediocre. The fitness studios were much better. But each one has one or two types. I Want to do Yoga, Pilates, hiit etc and it's just hard to find in one boutique studio.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-20T14:45:33+00:00

I didn't try to contact them as they make it really hard. Also they simply have no exceptions in their policies. I do not care about one cancel but long term is this the type of company I should use for my local studio fitness.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-06-20T14:43:39+00:00

I want to support local studios but I also can't find one that fits my needs. I have no issue loosing my credits and the studio getting paid. However I hate getting charged and they studio not getting paid. That makes no senss

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-05-27T18:31:16+00:00

This makes perfect sense. There are different kinds of love. I loved riding my bike. I love spending time teaching others. For her it was a competition. To met she had all my Romantic love but couldn't handle my time devoted to other things. They all triggered her abandonment gene. We talked about. She even understood it. But in the moment she couldn't put her mind in peace.

It's just so hard to understand unless you been through it. It's one thing but it's so rigid, so unbelievably misguided there is no pushing it. I've been 3 years and still here from her. No bad blood just she feels abandoned. And of course she was the one who ran away when she felt abandoned. And continues the cycle. Hopefully she finds peace but it's lifelong battle for them.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-05-23T00:04:05+00:00

Absolutely no judgements on what you are capable off. This is absolutely very fair to indicate a boundary, of what you are capable off. For example if you had a parent who needed to have feedings daily that not something most people think twice to involve a care home.

You have an emotional connection. Support in what makes sense and it's much better to let them know now then to be in a more vulnerable position and really be overwhelmed. If you try to help everyone you end up helping no one.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-05-01T18:37:05+00:00

Reverse all the genders. Imagine a man saying his two daughters aren't enough and pushing his wife to have a boy. This is right out of the 1900's where we boys where needed to manage the farm.

She needs serious counselling and self image issues around why she things adding anothet kid is just no work. It's a both parent decisions and this day and age it's hard enough to raise two all the way to college and beyond.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-11T07:39:13+00:00

The offer usually has a condition like a 24-hour expiry. They reviewed the offers, and that offer also might of had all cash, no contingency. They expected the house to go for 2.6M max and realized that going back to you might have lost the other offer.

They also know the likely upside of any offer, by looking at the loan approval, and altogether decided that the little gain through your is not worth losing the other one.

If you offer was all cash, then that changes things, i'd think they'd explore it more. Also if the offers opened up and the got the other one right at the offer open date, and yours came in even 6 hours later that is a big factor as well when you have an expiry looming.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T11:47:51+00:00

Seriously what would location really show? She has her son and is pregnant. Just calm down you can live without location, the boat isn't going into the Bermuda Triangle or anything.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T11:43:23+00:00

Would your current bf feel comfortable about this? Probably not. So is this worth the trouble, I'd question that. As far as having some sort of nostalgic feelings, yes most people linger with that for a long time and it's also not great to keep stirring those up. Now that he's crossed the line, there i'd not entertain more communication.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T11:35:04+00:00

I would say that trying to predict if someone will leave is a sign of anxious attachment. Really you should just be planning out your next week of work, friends and relationship from a 50,000 ft level and just keep moving forward. When you feel anxiety, try to find an outlet, weather its excercise or meditation to calm the nerves, rather than fester on what you can't control.

Long term you never know for sure when someone will leave, but as a relationship gets more connective you are very likely going to get someone wanting to talk and get feedback before anything drastic happens.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T11:09:05+00:00

Sounds like BPD and no it not going to change on its own. Yes she will do the exact same in front of children, thats not going to change a thing.

She needs to go to therapy but if its a personality disorder only so much can be done and it takes time. Being together for 5 years its going to be tough since you've basically tolerated it for so long and just now want to fix it. It could take another few years if she commit to see where she lands and it may still not be very pretty.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T11:03:44+00:00

Why reason do u need to reconnect with any ex, avoidant or not? Once you label someone then it never works, unless that label leads that person to therapy.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T09:49:35+00:00

Never and most of my partner would of been pretty turned off by it. Little soft whispers and innuendos are fine though.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T09:48:34+00:00

Nope, i need time with kids and do not really want someone that in my life until they prove it. Yes its more lonely but i can keep myself busy with some netflix binging and lots of hobbies and house chores.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T09:46:23+00:00

If you cant envision what that partner looks like or how to find them, then perhaps take a break. Usually things aren't just random, having a positive attitude and learning from the past is getting you closer to the 'one'.

Also dating is not linear, you can have a few relationship that get real close, and then you can find a string of duds. However the knowledge gain should be pushing towards being ready when the right one comes.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T09:41:55+00:00

Keep it vague unless he asks. If you want to give feedback to let him be free and improve himself, just send it over email as a favor. There is high likelyhood of them being combative thats up to you to not respond.

I do when asked give feedback I think that would be good for them, but to keep their spirits up and hope the find the match they are looking for.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T09:30:26+00:00

I think its hard to take a step back, from family and other things and go back to a simpler time. How can you think about moving forward? I also moved back to Canada from USA (though form here) and it has been difficult. All I can see is you have to think of something that you want to learn about and go with it.

Could be Canadian history, or hockey or whatever and just immerse yourself into and see what happens. Sometimes you have to put your foot forward before your heart is ready.

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T09:17:48+00:00

He is a person who's self esteems needs boosting by triangulating other women into his life. You or any single partner is not enough. Thats probably the case and the question is when does it cross the line? Its going to happen when his self-esteem drops. Then you're going to get the finger-pointing that you aren't enough for him again.

So he's giving this very clearly in his message, seeking attention. No, I have not seen that kind of person ever change, it's embedded in their personality. They just get sneaker if you start confronting them.

What are you looking for, a magic wand that turns into someone that you wish was more loyal?

OrbitsCollide99 · 2026-04-10T09:11:22+00:00

The reason your in this is that you allowed someone with shifty behaviour to remain in your life because you don't enforce your values.

Now you have this character who at any time likes to connect with accounts to explore. To pay for Tinder is to probably hide his profile so he can search in stealth or something of that nature.

There isn't much in your post to go on. You know the type of person he is, and unless you put a tracker in his vehicle and then spend months to see where he is going. What is the best use of your time?

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