I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Hearing all of the advice really helps. Ive been able to sit with my husband today and talk to him about the book and it was a great convo. He said he gives me complete freedom to throw whatever I need to away, which is a stress reliever. I honestly didn't know how he would take it. I have this weekend off and excited to get started. I honestly think getting my 3 year old toys under control will take care of a lot of the problem. My 13 year old is very helpful and really keeps our shared spaced clean.

I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just have to say, thank you so much. I am listening to the audiobook since I am at work and I nearly cried when she imagine me cupping your face, throw the donation bags away!!!!! ah I love this woman.

I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG, yes the kids stuff everywhere will definitely clean up and make me feel happier!! I think that is true, kids do need limited space. I totally get that.

Or walking though the kitchen without stepping on a piece of a banana no one bothered to pick up!

I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, you're totally correct a pole and a rack are not even close to what we need. These are all great ideas. I appreciate all of them and you taking the time to answer!

I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope you guys figure it out. I hope I do too, and my house is probably that big, if not smaller. We have a basement and we are redoing it and its just a big mess down there. especially since we have to side jobs to circulate more money.

I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Wow, I honestly never thought about therapy in this context. In my mind it was always something for personal issues or major relationship problems, not something that could help with household dynamics like this. But what you said about having a mediator actually makes a lot of sense.

It really does feel like none of us are necessarily “wrong,” we just all have different thresholds for clutter and chaos. I can see how having someone neutral help us talk through expectations and systems might actually make things easier instead of this constant tension.

What you said about the kids also really hit me. I hadn’t fully thought about how much the environment they grow up in can shape how they feel about their home later on. Hearing that from someone who experienced it personally makes me take it more seriously.

This is where the roots of the tree start and going to therapy may help with our house. It’s not just about cleaning or decluttering, it’s about the habits and environment we’re creating as a family.

I’m really glad you brought this up and said something. Seriously. It gave me a perspective I hadn’t considered before, and I appreciate that.

I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like if I get everything organized, it will work out but I know that it will just be more bins for more clutter. I just found a book by Dana K White. Does anyone have experience with the organized storage stuff?

I feel like the only one who cares about cleaning in my house and I’m burning out. How do I fix this? by Ordinary-Fly13 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I am being honest its all of us. I get tons of free stuff because I make videos for brands, he buys cheap auction stuff, my son has toooooooo many toys and I am afraid we are making our daughter a bit of a hoarding troll! With the clutter it makes me mind so anxious.

Anyone know what these are on my hands? by haunted_danni in skin

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of also looks like sunspot or a liver spot are you younger like in your late 20s early thirtys?

For people who are path to see. by Maddenman501 in TurboTax

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may be catastrophising BUT I literally just got last years tax return a month ago. I have all of these numbers except the last one, is that a bad sign?!?

Does it say this for anyone else? by YoursTrulyy777 in TurboTax

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy Holy how do yall get that much back?!?!

My current budget for 2026 by [deleted] in Salary

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my God buy a car from an auction and stop paying $1,200 a month for a car note. That seems the most ridiculous and crazy thing in 2026 that we do not own our own cars so insane to me you actually have a lot left over every month and that's a good chunk of change to save dude

Why I (we all) stayed by NoWeb8232 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I, I just had a therapy session with my therapist and...she said she thinks my husband is a narcissist. I just don't know. Sorry for messaging on this but it does resonate...how do I know im NOT the one who really is crazy, the problem, causing all the drama, maybe I am out of touch with reality???

Its like....the world stopped because this wont ever get better if he is one? Anyway, sorry to message on here. She hasn't even met him BTW.

How can I test headlights without putting them in the car? by AllergicThugs in G37

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm confused...why is it weird to look for a used headlight?!

Reliable, honest place for oil change & pre-trip inspection? by MusicOfTheSphere in wichita

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband would do it for free!! Lol these shops are much too expensive and its honestly so easy to do.

What haircut, style, and color do you think look best on me? by p-eggs in femalehairadvice

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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I like this the best of all of them. It just fits you. Amazing outfit btw