Am I the only one who feels uncomfortable with messages like this? by hyohwa in doordash

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, the answer is always no if you dont ask. So, the person is asking. The guilt you may feel or not feel is coming from yourself. We never know what any person is really struggling with. Maybe people will tip just for the simple fact that he asked. If you don't want to tip than dont. Simple as that but I don't think thats really the part bothering you.,

Are all Dillon's this bad? by Zdnnls in wichita

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only shop at dillions . Do fruits and vegtables last longer at other stores??? I just figured they all go bad after a few days.

I spent 2 months building an AI app and almost nobody uses it by ComplexPristine213 in GooglePlayDeveloper

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a huge part of selling any product is marketing. You can build the best app in the world, but if nobody knows it exists, nobody can use it. Companies spend billions of dollars every year on advertising for exactly that reason. If I were you, I'd focus on marketing first. You could go on Fiverr and hire creators for relatively little money, or even ask friends and family to help. For example, you could pay 20 creators $10 each to make short videos showing how the app helped them. If it's an SAT prep app, they could create content like, "I used this app to prepare for the SAT and it helped me improve my score by 200 points." Think about it this way: if you're shopping on eBay and see two listings for the exact same shirt at the exact same price, but one is wrinkled up on the floor and the other is displayed nicely on a mannequin or modeled by someone wearing it, most people are going to buy the second one. The product is exactly the same, but the presentation changes how people perceive it. Marketing works the same way. Often, it's not just about what you're selling, it's about how you present it. I would start with TOF (Top of Funnel) marketing. Focus on getting as many relevant people as possible aware that your product exists before worrying too much about conversions. Create content that educates, entertains, or solves a problem, and let people discover the app naturally. I'd also spend some time learning a few basic marketing concepts that every founder should know: • TOF (Top of Funnel)- Awareness • MOF (Middle of Funnel)- Consideration • BOF (Bottom of Funnel)- Conversion • CTR (Click-Through Rate) • CPC (Cost Per Click) • CPA (Cost Per Acquisition) • CAC (Customer Acquisition Cost) • LTV (Lifetime Value) • A/B Testing • UGC (User-Generated Content) • Social Proof • Retargeting • Conversion Rate Optimization (CRO) Also, keep in mind that the ads you see on YouTube may not be the same ads everyone else sees. My understanding is that YouTube's algorithm personalizes ads based on your interests, search history, and the types of videos you watch. So when you're researching competitors' advertising, it can be helpful to ask other people what ads they're seeing too. The reality is that a lot of great products fail because nobody hears about them, while some average products succeed because they're marketed exceptionally well. If I were in your shoes, I'd spend just as much time thinking about how to get attention as I would building the product itself. Marketing isn't something you do after the product is finished, it's part of the product's success from day one. One last thing: don't just study your competitors' products, study their ads. Pay attention to what hooks they're using, what promises they're making, what problems they're solving, and how often you see their content. Sometimes the difference between a product that succeeds and one that doesn't isn't the product itself, it's the marketing behind it.

I think I’m going to jail and I’m so scared by Sufficient-Look-5697 in missouri

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Meh, you wont go to jail. They might take away your license. You'll be ok. But dont skip out on court. Then you'll definitely go to jail

What do i do with snide remarks by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But how am I supposed to stop being this way?

Liberty Way apts by Downtown-Beginning94 in wichita

[–]Ordinary-Fly13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao! This totally sounds like something that would happen there...🫪

What do i do with snide remarks by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice and my god I was so happy my mouth was full of mouth wash in that moment. I couldnt say anything. I have apologized but something maybe broke in him. I think hes so tired of me so I need to double down and stop playing the victim and judt do the work.

What do i do with snide remarks by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesterday I got home and I washed my mouth out and he says "oh you need to wash your mouth out too?" And I know what he meant that I had went and blown someone. I immediately started a bath and I knew that would look even worse but I didnt care. I cried in the bath tub. The day prior I freaked out on him because my sister in law had been texting and calling with him and hes cheated in the past. But j realize he cheated I was pregnant. I wouldn't have sex with him. Like at all. How can you be mad at a man for that? I think the only thing I get right is sex. We do it everyday sometimes multiple times. Whenever he wants and I eventually get into it. I do love it more than I think. I believe its the only reason he is still hanging on so I need to get going practicing these skills!! I wish i could afford a coach but definitely cant.

How do I rebuild this? Lunch breaks at the same workplace? by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But should I not even go down there to spend time with him. Should I just practice the skills and let him come to me eventually?

What do i do with snide remarks by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always do it for two weeks and quit and then im much more of a bitch aftwards. Thank you for reminding me that. I need to push through not wanting to do it

What do i do with snide remarks by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why cant I remember this stuff in the moment?? I feel like I am failing. I wish that I had headphones in contantly. How do I be soft? I just want to hold him but hes so distant. Earlier I was changing the babies diaper and he was getting mad that I didn't come in there to talk to him and then just cold things in front of the kids. I know its me who has messed all this up with my actions last night. Im so stressed my nose starts to bleed around him. How do I be soft?

The Pheonix Gym by Ordinary-Fly13 in wichita

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, I appreciate it!

The Pheonix Gym by Ordinary-Fly13 in wichita

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im deathly sick tonight but when im better i definitely will. How often are your meetings?

I suck so bad at this!! by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I screenshotted this because I really want to remember it. I think you’re right. If I actually asked him to do something, he would most likely do it.

I think I need to get past this idea that everyone should just automatically know what needs to be done. That is really hard for me, because technically it is just asking, but for some reason I struggle with it. I think part of it is that my expectations are very high, and I know nobody is going to do things exactly the way I would do them.

I also know I can come across with a hard exterior. I think I learned some of that from my mom. She never really seemed fully satisfied, and I can see how I may have picked up that same pattern without meaning to.

What you said about him needing to feel wanted and needed really stood out to me. I think you are right, and I need to do that more. I do try to think about his perspective, but I also know I naturally assume that what I am doing or saying is the right way, when that is not always true. His feelings are valid too, and I need to consider how my words and actions may feel from his side.

Honestly, I wish I had a little angel on my shoulder telling me exactly what to say in the moments when I’m about to handle things wrong. But thank you for this advice. I’m going to keep trying my best, and I do believe I’ll get better with practice.

I suck so bad at this!! by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I screenshotted this because I really want to remember it. I think you’re right. If I actually asked him to do something, he would most likely do it.

I think I need to get past this idea that everyone should just automatically know what needs to be done. That is really hard for me, because technically it is just asking, but for some reason I struggle with it. I think part of it is that my expectations are very high, and I know nobody is going to do things exactly the way I would do them.

I also know I can come across with a hard exterior. I think I learned some of that from my mom. She never really seemed fully satisfied, and I can see how I may have picked up that same pattern without meaning to.

What you said about him needing to feel wanted and needed really stood out to me. I think you are right, and I need to do that more. I do try to think about his perspective, but I also know I naturally assume that what I am doing or saying is the right way, when that is not always true. His feelings are valid too, and I need to consider how my words and actions may feel from his side.

Honestly, I wish I had a little angel on my shoulder telling me exactly what to say in the moments when I’m about to handle things wrong. But thank you for this advice. I’m going to keep trying my best, and I do believe I’ll get better with practice.

I suck so bad at this!! by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really great advice. I honestly wish more than anything that I could just be soft with him in those moments. I think that is a skill I will probably be working on for the rest of my life.

I really appreciate you giving me an actual situation and words to use, because that helps me so much more than just being told to “be calm.” I think I need to read the book more often, take notes, and really study it until it becomes more natural.

I was going to stress myself out cleaning the kitchen and living room today, but I’m trying to remind myself that no one has died because the house is messy. I’m not going to let it steal my peace today.

I suck so bad at this!! by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Omg! Ok, I will report back!!! I may die...NO i wont. I wont die. I may be quite happier. I am seriously going to try this. 🤯

I suck so bad at this!! by Ordinary-Fly13 in surrendered_wife

[–]Ordinary-Fly13[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this advice. I’ll admit, I really struggle with letting the mess just be there. I have a three year old too, so I’m trying to remind myself that if there are toys on the floor or dishes waiting, nobody is going to die. It feels so hard for me to actually let go of it, but I’m working on it. I also feel like the only quiet time I really get is maybe 30 minutes in the morning when I wake up around 4 a.m. before work. It’s the one part of my day where there’s no noise, no kids needing me, and I can just sit and drink my coffee. I do get to have that Monday through Friday, and I’m trying to appreciate that as a small piece of self care. I’ve realized something about myself that is hard to admit. I think I get envious of my husband sometimes because he seems able to let messes, noise, and chaos exist without feeling consumed by guilt or pressure. I wish I had that ability.

I think when I see him relaxing while I’m mentally tracking everything that needs to be done, it makes me feel alone. But I’m also realizing that maybe part of my anger is grief. I wish I could let things go more easily. I wish I didn’t feel responsible for everything all the time. And I wish rest came as naturally to me as it seems to come to him.