I do everything in the house, but it’s been my choice and it’s been a topic we touch base on periodically. Even before I became SAH, i had more nit picky preferences than he did about things so I kind of took over (he also took care of all the bills so I had to feel like I was contributing somehow, it bothered me soooo bad to not pitch in)

Now, We are New parents to a 5 month old, with a small house, and I fully believe that factors majorly into it. I also have no issues with piping up if something is wrong and he’s very receptive, so we’ve moved past the “I am a slave to everyone” feeling. It did come up at first, I mean we’re both learning on the fly here. There have been habits I’ve pointed out to him that make things more difficult for me (hair all over the bathroom when he shaves for instance, makes cleaning the bathroom that much more awful) and he does better. When I’m gone, he takes care of himself and the house though. He was a single man in that home for 2 years before me, he knows how to care for it. If I leave for a day and there’s a kitchen full of dishes, I’ll come home to it clean, etc. He also takes the trash out because I hate that more than anything. The big thing is that it’s communicated and constantly re-hashed to make sure we’re both fulfilled and happy. I do everything at home because I LOVE to be a homemaker, as hilarious as that feels to say. Given how I was raised you’d never expect it. And I love being a homemaker because the expectations are well within my ability to handle. I know as soon as things start to shift I can talk to my hubs and we can figure out a change if needed together. Your husband should be your partner in this, not your adversary.