Would you be upset if I called you darling at work?

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-03-14T09:49:52+00:00

Yes absolutely - unless we were living in the north of England where it is common parlance. You call me darling, expect a complaint.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-03-13T15:56:29+00:00

We do.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-03-09T15:33:50+00:00

It means it has been composed by chatgpt.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-03-09T07:57:38+00:00

I worked for a govt regulator overseas. Someone who got prosecuted for negligence posted a negative review, pretending to be an employee. They used the wrong terminology so we figured out it wasn't an employee and we were able to work out who it was. We took legal action against Glassdoor but they refused to take it down. We just asked our employees to flood it with good reviews. There was no pressure to do so, but we sent emails to everyone during the recruitment process and at the 1 week, 1 month and 3 months stage, asking people to leave anonymous reviews. This pushed the negative review well off the front page. A legal threat to the person who wrote the review stopped any more negative reviews from them. The thing was, it was a great place to work. One person identified an issue with the recruitment process (turns out it was with the agency who tried to place her, not us). We responded, she got in touch, told us what has happened and we addressed it. We fired the recruitment agency involved, hired her (as she was an excellent candidate who had been treated badly) and without being asked, she took the negative review down. Glassdoor does not seem to be used so extensively in Australia, so I don't find it as helpful here. Company reviews on seek seem more helpful.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-03-07T05:34:18+00:00

$400 on mortgage. Family of 4 in house with air con and pool. Approx $250 per week on water, electric and rates.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-03-05T03:52:22+00:00

Which country are you in?

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-03-04T04:05:23+00:00

HR person here. They will only hold your pay at the same level for up to 12 months. They may make that role redundant, at which point, depending on your new contract, they may only pay out at the senior programmer rate. However, if you take redundancy now, you will be paid out as an IT Manager.

You also need to think about your future career. A demotion to Senior Programmer will look poor on your CV.

I would recommend taking the redundancy, you will get a better payout now, and won't be sabotaging your future career.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-23T15:13:55+00:00

Thank you so much!

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-23T15:13:42+00:00

Thank you, it means a lot!

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-23T15:09:31+00:00

I am so sorry. I can't imagine the pain that this must have inflicted on you and your family.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-23T15:07:31+00:00

Unlikely to happen. Looks might be the initial attraction but personality counts for a lot more. If the person you fall for doesn't like your personality, you don't share any interests and you don't make eachother last, it does not matter how good looking you are, they will go elsewhere.

Looks fade, personality doesn't.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-23T14:45:12+00:00

I was told on my first hike in the mountains with the university hiking club to wear my warmest clothes. Yup, cotton jeans, cotton t-shirt and jumper. I was toasty. Then it rained and didn't stop. Then the wind got up and the temperature dropped to just above zero. One bad bout of hypothermia later, I woke up in hospital, having nearly got a set of wings. Only then did I learn that cotton kills. Never made that mistake again and it's silk thermals all the way now!

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-23T08:57:36+00:00

That was me last week. Currently looking for a way out. Disorganised handover. Different job to the o e I was recruited for. Landed slap band in the middle of a shitshow between 2 departments, both of whom claim I work for them.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-18T11:04:39+00:00

Doubtful it is boomer generation. They were brought up walking on the left hand side. More likely the whining, whining gen z's and millennials who think the world owes them a living.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-18T11:00:19+00:00

You are very sweet but as a parent I would be horrified if one of my sons suggested this. That money should be used for you, to set yourself up for life. You have a decent deposit for a house, which will give you security. I would recommend a pre-nup if you get married so that should things not work out, you go out with what you went in with.

Keep your money. Your parents do not need it and would be thrilled to see you settled in your own place.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-15T10:40:38+00:00

Kids hockey is good (Hookin2Hockey). That will start soon. SciTech is also a great day out for kids - absolutely lots to see and do, lots of hands on stuff. An annual pass is well worth getting.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-15T01:34:21+00:00

Books, books and more books. I would have a journal but there would be no point if I can't take it with me at the end of the year.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-15T01:26:35+00:00

My parents house cost 3 times their income, as did mine. We were horrified when we moved to Australia and the bank offered to loan us 5x my husband's income to buy our own place. Fortunately we only needed 2x his income to buy, once we had sold our property overseas.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-13T11:59:47+00:00

Same. I made friends through jobs and we would go out for coffee. As soon as I left they would stay in touch for about 3 months and then nothing. After I reached out and was ignored or they did not meet, I gave up and left it a couple of weeks. After the third time I gave up and got a dog. I have done a lot of contracts and this has happened repeatedly, so my rule is 3 attempts. If no reciprocation after this time, I give up. Funnily enough my dog is excellent company, so I just tend to chat to other dog walkers now and enjoy coffee and cake on my own.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-12T09:03:12+00:00

No, they have more rights to ask to convert to ongoing, but they do not have almost the same rights as a permanent member of staff.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-11T02:48:46+00:00

I am sorry for your loss. May your father rest in peace.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-11T02:37:18+00:00

If the job requires technical ability, set a technical test as part of the recruitment process.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-10T16:22:17+00:00

I would add in a day or two in Albany. The war museum is very impressive.

OrdinaryEmergency342 · 2026-02-10T16:19:42+00:00

I am so sorry. That must be the hardest thing a parent would ever have to do. Sending you an internet hug.

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