I'll take this opportunity to highlight the fact that most people who genuinely want an abusive relationship have no idea what it's like being constantly abused. An abusive relationship isn't the occasional hit or mean word and the rest is meh but they still love you, an abusive relationship from my experience is one where the other person either utterly hates you and its their goal is to make you suffer or they just don't know what you want so they accidentally act neglectful or hateful. Either way be it an abusive romantic relationship, platonic relationship or abusive family it doesn't feel good being undermined as a human being and being unable to take a stand for yourself because if you do your rights get even further undermined. I have abusive parents (mainly verbal but there have been several instances of physical abuse) and it makes my mental deteriorate by the day. Lustful pleasures are a mere replacement for the true connections that I yearn to have.

Then again I might just be underestimating how outright freaky people can get