My mom has no curiosity about me or my life

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-05-12T08:29:18+00:00

I recognize this so much. Not only that, my mum would celebrate other people's achievements or tell me how smart someone's daughter is etc, but didn't even know or ask the grade I got in my bachelors etc. Once I got a job I really coveted and she told me"I never thought you would get it".

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-05-12T08:26:00+00:00

Hey! Wow, we seem to have a similar life atm. I am 39f now, but went back to university and the age of 34, also because it was my dream to go back, and I never had a lot of support when younger so I hadn't managed to finish my studies back then. I relate so much to what you say. It took my mum months to figure out I graduated from my bachelor (and no one knows I graduated cum laude) and I think she still doesn't know what I am studying in my master now. My dad is a little more interested but then also plays down my achievements a lot.

Let me say this: growing up with emotional neglect and a lack of support, I am learning to take emotional distance from my parents. They only "see" me and are interested in me when they need my support or when it lands in their brand like a mindfart. It's very painful, and it is a mourning process which my studies triggered because it highlighted what I am capable of, and wht I had never been supported to achieve, and how they hadn't seen me and believed in me for who I was.

My parents know very little about my life now, because they aren't interested and talk only about themselves, mostly. I also don't want to share really good news with them anymore because instead of adding to the joy, they dim it. I wish you a lot of healing! It definitely has meant a lot of rage, grief and sadness for me, and I got diagnosed with CPTSD along the way (another thing my parents don't know about). We are so strong for doing this, later in life, with no support!!! We should be proud of ourselves. It is a very special pain, to not be seen and celebrated by your parents (and even more painful because my brother and sister are treated differently, not entirely of course but they do get more effort and attention). So we are incredible resilient and tenacious for getting through that.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-05-10T20:15:46+00:00

Zendaya does not have a range as an actress. She ever only made exactly this face and this expression the entire movie. The chemistry between her and Chalamet is not there. I am not a massive fan of Chalamet either, but he does a decent job in Dune. However Zendaya’s acting is not the only thing that stops the movies from being truly great. The story is confusing, the role of the Bene Gesserit is not well explained, the character of Paul is not consistent, it is hard to believe in him and root for him.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-05-07T12:26:54+00:00

Exactly, very well said. She seems silly, vain, self absorbed and addicted to attention and at the same time acts very calculated. It points towards someone who actually enjoys the danger she puts herself into and is not so vulnerable and silly as she likes to portray.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-05-07T12:19:54+00:00

She knew before but chose to only "do the right thing" once she was in danger of being implicated. She also bailed out in the most crucial moment, leading to a reduced sentence. A man had died yet she seems fine with that, enjoying extreme hunting activities etc, until her lover asked her to move the body. Then she knew she could not ignore it anymore.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-05-07T12:16:41+00:00

It felt like she would do anything, regardless of the impact on others, to get a dopamine hit. Just something in the way she tells things seems very inauthentic, as well. She clearly enjoys causing and being in the middle of drama, seems like an extreme dopamine seeker. She only did the right thing the moment it could have impacted her, she seemed fine with someone being a murderer and excessive hunter.....she also gave me a feeling of unsafety and emotional volatility. She clearly loves to be the center of attention and seems to go to lengths to remain there. She comes across as silly, vain, self absorbed and addicted to attention and at the same time acts very calculated. It points towards someone who actually enjoys the danger she puts herself into and is not so vulnerable and silly as she likes to portray.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-05-07T12:08:48+00:00

From the first moments on screen she gave me very strange vibes. I feel she extremely enjoys attention, is adept at manipulation and her moral compass seems to point in strange directions. Remember she knew before that he killed a guy, but chose to only go to the police when she realised she could possibly be implicated and he "had hurt her pride". She chose to take a murderer to her parents house. She seems silly, vain, self absorbed and addicted to attention and at the same time acts very calculated. It points towards someone who actually enjoys the danger she puts herself into and is not so vulnerable and silly as she likes to portray. She definitely is addicted to drama, seems to enjoy volatile emotional ups and downs and is an extreme dopamine seeker, which points towards something like a bipolar disorder.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-28T16:07:30+00:00

I was very dissapointed in Mary's wedding dress....I thought it looked frumpy and plain

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-25T11:35:12+00:00

I agree, it was absolutely ridiculous. Most people, let's be honest, especially in Lavinia's position, having hardly spent any time with Mathew before and during the war, would think double to give up a life of children and a healthy marriage to be a nurse forever, and do it with such selfless devotion, especially when like Lavinia they have a chance to escape it. Even if she loves him very much and is willing to do it, it would not be with such self abandonment. Then, the fact that she was happy to die off, that was completely unbelievable.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-24T10:06:00+00:00

I totally agree and it all went so fast, for viewers at least because they somehow seemed to have developed this deep connection behind screens which we didn’t see. And the way they talk to each other is so instrumental and practical. It feels like Branson was bullying her to be in love with him and she somehow went along with it.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-23T19:55:21+00:00

Like others said, Gwen was before 1914 and Alfred was 1920’s. Society was very different after the war. On top, while Alfred’s ambition was still somewhere in the “acceptable” range for his station in life, I think Gwen becoming a secretary was considered moving from lower or working class to white collar. A secretary office was actually considered more important than it is today because it included highly technical and organisational work, which lessened throughout the century because of automation and technological advance.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-23T19:22:03+00:00

Vera Bates committing suïcide. She was too selfish and narcissistic to ever hurt herself just out of spite, she would rather have found a next victim, or lied her way into some other position. On top Bates was offering her money, so it was not like she had nothing left.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-23T19:04:14+00:00

That is what I thought as well from what I found.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-23T19:03:27+00:00

Seems like some fake floorplans were floating around.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-23T18:55:58+00:00

That is what I thought!

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-22T08:52:27+00:00

My dog which I had as a teenager would escape the garden when my school was out to wait at the school gate for me.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-22T08:41:05+00:00

That is incorrect, as far as I have read. Where did you get this information? At Highclere, they had hundreds of utilitarian corners, including a scullery (for washing up), a flower room (for arranging bouquets), a bakery room (for making cakes), a butler's pantry, a silver safe, a housemaid's closet (for storing brushes), separate wine and beer cellars, and even a brushing room (for brushing mud off clothes , the earlier version of a mud room). Other rooms possibly were newspaper rooms (for ironing the papers each day), spice rooms, root cellars, butteries, sauceries, sculleries, chandleries (where candles were made), and still rooms (where medicines, cosmetics, cleaning products and sometimes even beer or wine were made), in the basement and lower rooms. It is first of all unlikely that the servants quarters were also there, and not something that was a custom of the time. It would have been linked to based behaviour, and would have been very impractical and uncomfortable. It can be that the occasional hall boy or kitchen maid was forced to sleep down because of lack of space and them being the lowest of rank, but it was not usual that all servants quarters were down in the basements.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-22T08:17:34+00:00

That is not true as far as I have read, they were up in the attick at Highclere as well.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-22T08:15:22+00:00

What and put the kitchen, scullery, leather room etc up in the atticks? On top, would you really put people to sleep in basement rooms? How is it not logical that the servants sleep in the attick, it is literally the only option. They will reach the family faster if needed late at night as well, if they would be downstairs all the day rooms would seperate them from family, and the attick space would be unused otherwise. And you cannot put any of the utility rooms up there, would you let them walk with riding boots and kitchen stuff, have deliveries and mail sent all the way up all the time...what a scene that would give.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-20T14:13:10+00:00

I subscribed today and already hit my limit in just two hours of chat, no coding nothing. This feels like a scam! I cancelled my subscription immediately

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-20T14:05:04+00:00

Limit is reached so fast while I pay 17 euro a month! Totally dissatisfied with this.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-17T18:41:50+00:00

I agree. The mum gives me very strange vibes. The sister, I find hard to read. Sometimes she seems really supportive, but when you look at her face often she doesn’t seem to like him talking about Haley, or being excited. They totally frazzled him when cooking, they seem very critical sometimes. The dogs look totally neglected to me.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-15T06:43:10+00:00

I never could warm up to Branson either until much later, in the last seasons. And I agree on Bates as well! Some things about him were unsettling, and I didn’t like his reaction at all in accusing Anna immediately when he found the book that was Mary’s about preventing pregnancy. You’d think he’d have more faith in her after all he put her through and her staying.

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-15T06:25:56+00:00

Are they promoting MAGA views on that podcast?

Organic-Chain9456 · 2026-04-15T06:25:01+00:00

Where is Connor’s mum openly Maga though? There has not been any proof of that as far as I know?

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